xbabycakes Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Hey guys, The man I loved and committed 3 years of my life to 6 weeks ago shattered my world by splitting up with me because of silly arguments and I moved back to my mums, we are still in contact and on good terms and speak daily about what we have been up to but he doesn't realize how much it breaks my heart but I couldnt bear to not speak to him. In a weak moment last week ive asked if we will be back together at some point and hes said he doesn't no, in that same weak moment I put an emotional status on my Facebook. Seeing my upset status a guy from school who I used to crush on contacted me and said he knows how it feels and we had a long long chat and he offered me company just to chill and take my mind off things. Very, very undecidably I took up the offer and spent the day with the guy, it was a bit awkward since we hadnt seen each other in 10 years and I was thinking wth am i doing i just want my ex but by the end of the day we started getting along really well and having a laugh and I actually managed to forget my ex for a few hours (the first time in weeks). Me and this guy are just friends but he has children so I wouldnt want to get into anything serious with him but i felt very attracted to him (surely this is also a good sign of getting over him!?) But since that day he hasnt really contacted me which im a little bothered by but im just happy that surely im starting to recover?! But saying that I still love and miss my ex desperately & if my ex wanted to try again I would be back there in a second so Im not quite quite sure whats going on with me Advice would be great guys x
NewPerspective93 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I think you need to let your ex go. Why do I say that? You seem to have hopes in being together one day while he doesn't even know about a future together. Why are you sticking around, are you in hopes that he will change his mind? Let your ex go, because you need to live your life. If he wants a future with you, he will TELL you directly, rather than being vague about it. Do not get your hopes up though, hope will not do you any good. I suggest you go NC and part ways with your ex. What good is contact him doing you, other than feeding you false hope? Do not get involved with anyone at this point. You need time for your healing. Best of luck. Cheers.
siankat Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Like what someone said on another post....theres love, then theres attachment...maybe u are looking to attach and that is why u felt good with another guy you had a genuinely nice time with. There are things u like specifically about ur ex im sure but sometimes its also just about being with someone we feel good with and a bit of chemistry with. Dont worry, it doesnt undermine what u feel for ur recent ex but it means that you could be happy with someone else, i think
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