Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I went to lunch with someone yesterday who said he'd been dating a woman, and after establishing exclusivity after 3 dates in 2 weeks, she started texting him with things like, "Good morning, handsome!" He said this was a red flag, as she shouldn't be doing that until they've been dating for several months. I didn't find it that all that weird. Do you?
johan Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I went to lunch with someone yesterday who said he'd been dating a woman, and after establishing exclusivity after 3 dates in 2 weeks, she started texting him with things like, "Good morning, handsome!" He said this was a red flag, as she shouldn't be doing that until they've been dating for several months. I didn't find it that all that weird. Do you? "Good morning." Is nice to get from a woman even after knowing her for only a short time. She should be careful with the compliments though. That can feel a bit heavy.
soccerrprp Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I went to lunch with someone yesterday who said he'd been dating a woman, and after establishing exclusivity after 3 dates in 2 weeks, she started texting him with things like, "Good morning, handsome!" He said this was a red flag, as she shouldn't be doing that until they've been dating for several months. I didn't find it that all that weird. Do you? THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING NEFARIOUS ABOUT THIS! Geez! Some people have rules that simply don't make any sense. 7
Keenly Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I'd like that. Red flags? Maybe if he is not interested . 1
soccerrprp Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I'd like that. Red flags? Maybe if he is not interested . ...or maybe he thinks that he's being "smothered" already. Man, I know people who are like this too. Ugh.
neveragain34 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 He wanted exclusivity after only 3 dates, yet he is concerned about this type of text? He's the one with issues! Lol 4
tuxedo cat Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 He wanted exclusivity after only 3 dates, yet he is concerned about this type of text? He's the one with issues! Lol I know right? 1
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 "Good morning." Is nice to get from a woman even after knowing her for only a short time. She should be careful with the compliments though. That can feel a bit heavy. I can see that. I've always really liked getting the "Good morning!" texts, but maybe if they added "beautiful" at the end, after only knowing each other a short time, I might find it a little uncomfy.
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 He wanted exclusivity after only 3 dates, yet he is concerned about this type of text? He's the one with issues! Lol Eh. Exclusivity is a lotttttt different to many people, including myself, than a relationship or couplehood. ALL it means is that you're not giving energy and attention to someone else for the moment.
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 ...or maybe he thinks that he's being "smothered" already. Man, I know people who are like this too. Ugh. That's what he intimated. "Too much, too soon." I was thinking, "Man, it's just a text!" and wondering when men got so sensitive and skittish. But it made me wonder about the last guy... like, did I send him any of those? (:runsofftolookattexts:)
Kamille Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Wow, some people are incredibly talented at complicating their own lives! I don't think I would start texting "good morning" until I had actually spent a morning with the guy... But I wouldn't be turned off if a guy I was dating exclusively started texting good morning. You don't specifically say if you were on a date with him, but that anecdote would cool me down on the guy. A) what is he doing bashing previous dates on what could only be an early date? B) did he communicate his discomfort to the woman or did he just bail? (Either way, he seems to not so much be looking for a relationship as for a "magical perfect fit". 4
tuxedo cat Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 That's what he intimated. "Too much, too soon." I was thinking, "Man, it's just a text!" and wondering when men got so sensitive and skittish. But it made me wonder about the last guy... like, did I send him any of those? (:runsofftolookattexts:) I don't know, is it something in the air? I've been noticing this a lot too lately.
soccerrprp Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 That's what he intimated. "Too much, too soon." I was thinking, "Man, it's just a text!" and wondering when men got so sensitive and skittish. But it made me wonder about the last guy... like, did I send him any of those? (:runsofftolookattexts:) LOL! Hey, I'm always flattered and tickled when I get greetings like that. I don't see anything smothering about that.
MrCastle Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 It's all a matter of attraction level. If Mila Kunis sent me a good morning text I wouldn't think she was clingy. 4
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 You don't specifically say if you were on a date with him, but that anecdote would cool me down on the guy. A) what is he doing bashing previous dates on what could only be an early date? B) did he communicate his discomfort to the woman or did he just bail? (Either way, he seems to not so much be looking for a relationship as for a "magical perfect fit". Yup, it was a date, and I felt the cool, but it was moreso the comment, "She knows my situation, that I'm divorced" that precipitated his complaint about her text, that did it. It was like he was saying, "Look here, I'm not looking for anything serious." I appreciated hearing it though, for the obvious reason... 1
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 It's all a matter of attraction level. If Mila Kunis sent me a good morning text I wouldn't think she was clingy. And for me, Ryan Gosling... 4
neveragain34 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 It's all a matter of attraction level. If Mila Kunis sent me a good morning text I wouldn't think she was clingy. True. He probably doesn't really like the girl all that much and is looking for annoyances. Now that I think about it, I've been there. If I'm not really feeling a guy and he sent me a text like this, I'd roll my eyes and say he was annoying. If I was into the guy, I'd WANT to get these texts!! 4
mhm407 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 As a woman, I wouldn't send this type of text to a guy I had only been seeing for a really short time. But I would like to get a text like this from him. Reason being is that to me, at a few dates/a couple weeks, you're still in those early "courtship" stages (or at least I think you should be). During the courtship phase, I think it's risky for the woman to look like she's pursuing the man too much. I think a lot of guys might be turned off by it, probably more than would be willing to admit it. My opinion might not be PC, but to me this concept is just...biology. Might not seem fair but it's hard to fight biology and win. 2
clia Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I don't understand "good morning" texts. They seem like a complete waste of time. "Good morning!" "Good morning!" And what have we accomplished? Nothing--except future worries when the good morning texts inevitably stop. 5
Author Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 As a woman, I wouldn't send this type of text to a guy I had only been seeing for a really short time. But I would like to get a text like this from him. Reason being is that to me, at a few dates/a couple weeks, you're still in those early "courtship" stages (or at least I think you should be). During the courtship phase, I think it's risky for the woman to look like she's pursuing the man too much. I think a lot of guys might be turned off by it, probably more than would be willing to admit it. My opinion might not be PC, but to me this concept is just...biology. Might not seem fair but it's hard to fight biology and win. That makes sense to me, actually, and explains why I don't personally find receiving them (as a woman) to be weird.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Me and the guy I'm with have been sending good morning texts since we met pretty much
MrCastle Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I heard most chicks love getting good morning texts but I've done it and haven't noticed any changes in attraction or anything. Maybe I'm sending it to the wrong chicks
Treasa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 If John Cena texted me, "Good morning, beautiful" RIGHT NOW, even though he doesn't know me, I'd be totally down with it. 1
tuxedo cat Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 If a guy I liked sent me a good morning text I'd be happy. If my interest in someone was low enough that that would turn me off, I wouldn't be dating them to begin with.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 You can find out a lot about a man's character by the anecdotes they choose to tell. That's why it's a good idea to let the man talk early on 4
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