CorridorE Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Two months ago I got out of a three-year relationship and while I’m not ready to start dating yet, by the fall when I leave for college I think I will be. I would like to meet guys in college because I know once you start working-full time and life happens, it only becomes more difficult to meet new people and have time to date. I’m sure I’m already over-thinking too much, but my concern is that while the college I’m going to is my dream school academically, it’s also known as the top party school in the state, and I’m not in to all that. I don’t drink and really don’t even like being around alcohol, don’t smoke/do drugs, I dress moderately to conservatively, and, just me personally, the thought of having casual hook-ups or one-night-stands makes me sick. Do you think there will be any guys in college that feel the way I do, or is it kind of hopeless going in? Is it true that most guys in college just want to explore and meet lots of girls but not really have a LTR? And just in general, as anyone had experience with meeting a long-term bf or gf in college? Just wondering, thanks.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Do you think there will be any guys in college that feel the way I do, or is it kind of hopeless going in? Is it true that most guys in college just want to explore and meet lots of girls but not really have a LTR? And just in general, as anyone had experience with meeting a long-term bf or gf in college? Just wondering, thanks. Yes, absolutely. I had nothing but LTRs in college and grad school. While in the minority, a significant number of guys will be looking for a relationship in college, just like you. (In grad school, they were in the majority IME.) The trick is to put yourself in situations where you are most likely to meet similarly minded guys. Join clubs and groups that interest you. Be active socially. Be open and friendly. Have lots of friends while still doing well in your courses. Also, don't automatically judge a book by the cover. Ironically, even though I avoided frat parties in college, I ended up engaged to one of the more popular frat brothers on campus his senior year after dating him for two years. He and his buddy started showing up to my sports meets. Then, they started coming to visit me at my job on campus. Even though he was ahead of me in school, we ended up in the same course one semester, and he asked my lab partner to switch with him. That got me wondering a little, but I really wasn't his type and dismissed it. Anyway, he asked me out while I was studying in the library. College is a wonderful experience. Stay true to what you want, and you'll enjoy your time there. Good luck! 1
ThatDudeXO Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Met my first GF at college. Were in the same lectures. Ended up together for almost 3 years.
Barnacle-Bob Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I went through college without getting into a single relationship. Then, toward the end of one of my senior years, I met the woman I would end up marrying. Further proof that going to a university doesn't necessarily make one smart.
TheGuard13 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I met my wife in college. There are plenty of people who want long term relationships in college. Personally, I think it's a good idea, as long as peope are realistic about the impact that changing ideas and life experiences can have on a relationship.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 A friend of mine dated a girl he met in college for 3 years. They broke up due to irreconcilable differences. I know a few other people who met their spouse in college. Some found their spouse outside of school though. A good friend of mine met his wife outside of school but had a few relationships while in college that were about 1 year long, give or take. So, it can be a mixed bag.
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I'm about to finish up my last year of college. It was about 8 years of schooling. The closest I ever got to having an LDR with somebody I met on campus was a girl I was close friends with for two years who absolutely refused to date me, and another I went on two dates with. Woo hoo. Fun times
CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 You should absolutely not be worrying about the drop off in meeting people once you are working in the real world! You haven't even started college yet!!! One day at a time! My roommate in college hated drinking and parties as an incoming freshman, but was totally changed his tune by his senior year. I'm not AT ALL suggesting that you do that, just highlighting that you should go to college with an open mind, take it day by day, and realize that they are your formative years and most people really grow and change tremendously during that period! You're far too worried about it right now. Just have fun! 1
Author CorridorE Posted March 31, 2013 Author Posted March 31, 2013 Thank you everyone for the responses and stories! It's really appriciated and put my concerns to rest. I'll do my best to just go with the flow and see what happens
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