Imported Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Women like when men take charge AND get it right. It shows that he has payed close enough attention to choose something she'll personally like. Or he has a lot of practice and the ability to hear key phrases without actually listening to you (kinda an on the go cliff note generator ) and draw logical conclusions from it to form a plan . Plans that has already been done before by him with other women, but will feel special and personal to you just the same.
Treasa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Hey Treasa, since you're a veggie, how'd you like to check out that cool Mediterranean restaurant on 3rd ave? Great hummus btw! Sounds awesome! I love hummus. 1
tbf Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The men who have some modicum of social skills have fail safe eateries, where the menu spans enough options that pretty much anyone can find something they enjoy. They also use the same places for meals with business contacts, clients or friends. It's possible to take charge without being an asshat about it.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Durign the first few dates though is a feeling out process where each party is trying to figure out if they are very into the other person because they dont know much about the other one The simple rule I follow for this, is not to ask a woman out unless I think she is worth it. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The men who have some modicum of social skills have fail safe eateries, where the menu spans enough options that pretty much anyone can find something they enjoy. They also use the same places for meals with business contacts, clients or friends. It's possible to take charge without being an asshat about it. Wegmans. The food cafe section has everything under the sun. 1
tbf Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Wegmans. The food cafe section has everything under the sun. Glad you added the emoticon. For a second, I was textless. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Glad you added the emoticon. For a second, I was textless. I won't lie. I know some people back in high school who went there on dates. My guess is they didn't have a license and their parents were going to the store anyway.
Treasa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I think I'm missing something. All I know is that Wegman's is a grocery store (we don't have them here). Or is that the joke?
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I think I'm missing something. All I know is that Wegman's is a grocery store (we don't have them here). Or is that the joke? It's a grocery store but most of them have a sit-in cafe, wokery type of thing. Complete with a subshop, pizza, etc. Basically you can get food, pay for it at the fast checkout and go upstairs and sit. The fact that it's a grocery store is basically the joke though like you said.
SJC2008 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 lol, it's not all on men, that's a BS cop out. A guy can be very "take charge", and still be very flexible. Man: Hey, what are you doing Saturday night, Would you be interested in dinner and drinks at 7 and restaurant ABC? Woman: I don't get home from work till 6:30 Man: how about at 8? Woman that will work, but I'm not overly fond of (whatever type of food resteraunt ABC serves) food. Man: How about restaurant DEF? Woman: I've been there, I really like the blank. Man: Excellent, I'll call and make reservations and let you know if anything changes. What about this is taking charge other than the initiative itsself? You're salvoing options to her until you hit on something. If she doesn't like my idea I'm 100% cool but then she needs to throw her hat into the ring and come up with something. IMO this is them backseat driving whith the man "acting" like he's driving.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 What about this is taking charge other than the initiative itsself? You're salvoing options to her until you hit on something. If she doesn't like my idea I'm 100% cool but then she needs to throw her hat into the ring and come up with something. IMO this is them backseat driving whith the man "acting" like he's driving. It's taking charge, because you are making sure the date happens.
SJC2008 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 It's taking charge, because you are making sure the date happens. I hear ya but here's how I see it: Man: Hey, what are you doing Saturday night, Would you be interested in dinner and drinks at 7 and restaurant ABC? Woman: I don't get home from work till 6:30 so I can do 8 if that works for you but hey, I'm not too crazy about xyz there, have you ever been to abc? Or is there another place that you like? Man: I've haven't been there but I've heard good things about it let's try that! I'll make the reservations for 8 and if anything changes I'll let you know, see you then! Man uses his brain, woman uses her brain, both parties are considerate of eachothers likes/dislikes, man "leads".
TheGuard13 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Feh. I think it depends on the woman. I asked a girl out tonight. She asked if we could meet somewhere in between two towns. I gave her three half-ass options, and then essentially said "those options suck (because I'm bad at planning this stuff), do you have any ideas? She picked the place, somewhere new for me, and convenient for her. Drinks turned into an all nighter. Some women care about this kind of thing, some don't.
HopelessRomantic76 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Why are men such pussies these days? where are your BALLS? Yes we want man to take charge and lead! If i wanted to date a insecure passive naive indecisive whiny person id date another women!
tbf Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 If i wanted to date a insecure passive naive indecisive whiny person id date another women!As a woman, is this how you view yourself? 2
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Why are men such pussies these days? where are your BALLS? Yes we want man to take charge and lead! If i wanted to date a insecure passive naive indecisive whiny person id date another women! Ehhh, but why go through all of that effort when there are plenty of women that don't care? Don't mistake not caring for "insecure passive naive indecisive whiny." Many guys feel the same way that I do. Though, on the rare occasion that I really like a girl, I will pull out all the stops for her.
TheGuard13 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I fail to see how choosing a restaurant is ballsy. Ballsy is ripping a girl's clothes off when you get home. Not basic social interaction. 1
RedRobin Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I like how some guys use their so-called manhood as an excuse to be inconsiderate and dense. Yea, that's a real turn-on (sarcasm... in case some of you are truly dense).
Woggle Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Why are men such pussies these days? where are your BALLS? Yes we want man to take charge and lead! If i wanted to date a insecure passive naive indecisive whiny person id date another women! You don't think very highly of your own gender do you. I don't think most women are like that.
tbf Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 You don't think very highly of your own gender do you. I don't think most women are like that.Quite often, people project their own inner landscape onto others. In other words, if the perceiver views themselves as or are capable of ABC, they project it onto others, that they will do or are ABC. You see this type of thing happening all the time. An example would be a cheater displaying extreme jealousy, when it comes to their partner. It's because they're cheating or have cheated, so they're fearful of partners doing same.
KungFuJoe Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 this is a typical woman, acting entitled. wants to have her cake and eat it too. its she deamnds the man plan everything and he better get every single detail right even though they just met. Women like assertive men who have their **** together. This isn't anything new and the sooner you realize it, the better. If you can't play the game, leave the arena.
KungFuJoe Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 i won't play the game leave the arena but i'll make life miserable for others. its a guarantee i'll be single for life so maybe i'll flirt with married women in front of their beefy husbands. If you're as weak and ugly as you've stated you are...trust me...you're not making life difficult for anyone...except yourself. You can flirt all you want...it's just gonna end up looking pathetic and you'll just make for a good, funny story to tell the friends later on.
Noproblem Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 No, we like to be involved in any matter Like you don't choose or do something without taking regards to our opinions or taste!
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