kikkik37 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Hi guys...this is my first post here so bare with me! I've been dating a guy for around 3 months now. We seemed to have a connection very early on, and great chemistry. We are both older, and both single parents, and both had other relationships obviously. He has hit a rough patch financially, and is an almost 'free spirited' type of person, so this is really causing him some angst. He made decisions in the last couple of months that have not come to fruition they way he'd hoped and he is anxious, and not his usual self (brief background!). We have both obviously got our history and issues from our past relationships, mine being trust, but I trust this guy, have no reason not to, and know that when he says we are in a relationship, then it's just me and no one else - it's not that that concerns me. I have always been the type to think that when you like someone a lot, when you are dating, you want to spend as much of your free time with them as you can. You want to text and call, and let them know you're thinking of them. Most of the time, he doesn't mind this, but now, with all his stress, he is feeling like it's too much, that he is hemmed in, and that he needs space. Neither of us want to call things off - we have both said that independently. He wants it to be relaxed and chilled, not serious, but doesn't it at some stage have to get serious?? Won't there be serious feelings eventually? I feel I have already fallen for this guy, but won't say anything as I feel sure he will back right off. He wants to go with the flow, and that's fine, but what if one day I want more? Am I expecting too much?
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