How to get him back when I dumped him & he's seeing sme else but is asking about me?

[AlishaD]

Dumped my boyfriend 8 months ago! we never argued about what happened, but he lied to me and I was shocked and told him I could not trust him ever again... it was in the heat of the moment, but we never argued, we were both crying on the phone..

 

We are on the same college so I saw him every now and then. This year, we are in the same class - and there is only one class for this subject, so I couldn't escape.

 

I see him every day.

 

Now:

 

I've heard from colleagues that he's seeing this girl, but he said 'she doesn't speak English that well & doesn't really understand his jokes' (wtf?) on Facebook he is still stated single, not one post about him & her, not one photo of them together - NOTHING. and they are seeing each other for 3 months now I have heard.

 

With out class we went to a camp and on that camp he got drunk and went to one of my friends from class I talk to a lot and asked her about me.

 

He asked her if I ever mentioned him to her, if I have ever talked about him. She said no. He said that we had a relationship back then and if I had told her. she said no, never heard of that. he said that I dropped him and he never really understood why. and that I'm such a great and nice person, but he thinks 'I'm looking for more in life' (what does that mean?)

he asked if she knew how I was doing and she said he should asked me himself. but he said he hasn't talked to me for so long...

 

in class I find him staring at me sometimes. then other days he completely ignores me. well, he isn't talking or looking at me often.

 

I'm so crazy in love with him and seeing him everyday makes it worse...i so like him.

 

what do you guys think of this?

[OwlSoul]

If you'd go for it openly, there is a probability of breaking third person's heart. Would you really risk this for the relationship which might not even work?

It doesn't sound like you were so madly in love when breaking up at the first place.

 

it was in the heat of the moment

Yeah, but 8 months of living your life and suddenly realizing he is the one you want? Are you sure it is not bc he is seeing someone else and there is no control over him? Counting that it was the heat of the moment, you did not mention trying to get back, let's say, after 2 months of the BU?

[AlishaD]

If you'd go for it openly, there is a probability of breaking third person's heart. Would you really risk this for the relationship which might not even work?

It doesn't sound like you were so madly in love when breaking up at the first place.

 

Yeah, but 8 months of living your life and suddenly realizing he is the one you want? Are you sure it is not bc he is seeing someone else and there is no control over him? Counting that it was the heat of the moment, you did not mention trying to get back, let's say, after 2 months of the BU?

i want him back since the break up. but we werent in the same class and i had no idea what to do. i still don't. Nothing changed since i have heard rumours about him seeing someone else. Its still the same. I'm not more desperate or anything. I'm just in love with him. I try to think 'if its meant to be we will be back together'... but still i have the feeling i should do something, but I don't know what. I did not break up 'like this'... i tried to talk about it shortly after we broke up. but he was suffering and desperate too and said things like 'im a scumbag, i don't even deserve you' ... and honestly i didn't know what to do and i still don't. but there is this strong connection, still. and i don't know if it's just me... and what to think of his behaviour, asking about me and stuff.

[thefooloftheyear]

Take note fellas.....

 

Here is how you get your ex back! Find the hottest girl you know and post up all kinds if pics of you with her in a "relationship" , When your ex sees this she will be absolutely dying to get you back.

 

OK, I am just joking here, but it does make you wonder.

 

Seems like it really drives exes crazy when they see that you have moved on. Interesting how human behavior works. My opinion is that IF you really are sincere about your feelings reach out to him and tell him in a heartfelt way.

 

And let that be a lesson. Dont dump someone "in the heat of the moment"..Think about it VERY carefully as you could be making a life changing decision that you may regret your entire life. I like the saying, "Dont ever break up with someone unless you are prepared to NEVER get them back"

 

Good luck to you...

 

TFOY