scubaskunk Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Hey guys, I have already informed you on what has been going on in my relationship with my ex, so I will make this very short (bear with me). OKay, i had been dating my ex for nearly two years. I loved him very much. Well the last few months of our relationship were kinda rough becuase i had moved overseas. We were both young and naive then. Anyways, he couldn't take the distance anymore and broke it off with me. I did the no contact stuff for about 1 month and a half then finally he called. He started to tell me how much he loved me and missed me and couldn't wait for me to come back so we could be together (let me remind you that he was still dating my former best friend!) Anyways, of course i was really happy about all tht he had to say so i just went along with it, thinking that we were meant to be together. After that break of no contact, we would talk about once a week. All of a sudden the conversations started turning into arguements. For example, he would tell me that his girlfriend made him burn all his pictures of me. yeah, so you know i was pissed. Then we would tell me what they did for Valentine's Day and I just about died. So i figured I am calling this guy just to be upset, I must be stupid. So i stopped calling, we stopped talking for 7 months. Then I moved back to his city, where him and I use to live...keep in my he is still with my friend during this time. One night me and all my friends go out and him and his gf get there. It was cool, i was reaaaallly nice to him and he gave me his number and was like, yeah, call me. A few nights later I went out again and him and his gf showed up again and he was sooo mean to me, he didn't even talk to me. SO i got drunk, and that's never a good thing with an ex around. To make a long story short, words were exchanged and i slapped him..The next morning i regretted it soo bad. fastforward--4 days later I call him to apologize and he says everything is okay, he's not mad. The day after I apologized I moved away to college (3hrs away) After I moved here, we talked about once a week and the conversations were great. So this past labor day weekend I was like "since we are getting along so well maybe I should go see him" and i did!! (his gf wasn't there, she was on vacation for a week) We met up at a party and things were sooo weird, and i don't know why becuase we talked all the time...so i left. the next day i called and was like that was weird huh, and he was like, yeah, im glad you left....!?! becuase it was really umcomfortable..so i was like well i am leaving tommorrow, do you wanna do something, and he says yeah. So we went out for a casual dinner and it was realllllyyyyyyy fun, we talked and laughed and all that. Then i met up with him later on at a party, and i got drunk...this is where the problem comes about...i was like "I love you i wanna be with you, i know you love me, lets be together, you and this other girl aren't going to last, we were first loves blah blah blah, then i was like, don' tyou love me??and you know what he says!!! "I shouldn't have to tell you that I love you, you should already know that i always will!!!!THen you know what happened?? he took me home and we had sex.... Now tell me, what the hell is going on. the day after i was like man, i had sex with him.....cool! like it wasn't even a big deal to me, and i called him the next day and he seemed really cool about it too..but now i think about him all the time. I don't know what i want, because i know he is still with this girl and i hate her so i could care less if she found out. I don't know if i should ask him what now, or should i just play it cool like it never happened and still stay his friend. Before we had sex i could handle hearing about him, but then i heard about him going to see her yesterday becuase she's back, and i started crying!! I don't knwo what do to with myself, i want him back so bad...i still love him can anyone help me!?!
LuvHurtsme Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 This is the first time I've seen ur story and I feel very bad for you. However all is not lost. Ask him if he has told his GF what has happened. Ask him if he plans to. Ask him was it a mistake. Ask him if what he said: "I shouldn't have to tell you that I love you, you should already know that I always will" had any actual meaning behind it or was it just words. Ask him where your relationship with him stands. You should know if anything has changed by the second question, moreover if he does decide he wants to be with you again, make sure he tells the other girl and doesnt string you along. Good luck, keep us updated. LUVhURTSmE
Author scubaskunk Posted September 12, 2004 Author Posted September 12, 2004 hey also, Like i've told you, we talk once a week. Well during those conversations we've made plans for him to come up here an see me for one weekend, i don't know if his stay is "romantic" or is it just a "friends" thing. SInce we had sex, i would assume romantic. i just hope he isn't coming up here for just that. I know those are some valid questions you want me to ask, but I am just afraid it will start a fight or some drama, and we haven't had that in a while, and i kinda like it like this..
prevch Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 he obviously loves you. I say make him choose you deserve him and he needs to quit frontin.
Author scubaskunk Posted September 13, 2004 Author Posted September 13, 2004 hahaha, that's what i should do huh? i think i am jsut avoiding it, because i think he is going to be like, well if you're goingto make me choose then ****, i choose her...then ill be reaaaaaaaaallll upset
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