racoon5 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) God where do i start, My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Why? i had a difficult time with my dad a week before her birthday wich was in january i got a letter from the army that i was invited for the army shortly put since my father served for 30 years and he always wanted me to follow that tradition of the family, we had a such a bad fight that i forgot her birthday wich she didn't mind then a month later again my dad and i got into a really heavy discussion why i wouldn't join the army and it tare me up inside. I can't explain how it feels how i felt at that moment when ur dad looks at you u like u failed the whole world. And i took it out on her even if i didn't mean to i told her that we should take it a bit slower till i fixed the issues between me and my dad. she told me ''can i still have hope for it to be as good as before the fight with you're dad'' i said yes but it will take time. a week later out of the blue she told me we had to talk i said ok. we played around a bit u know the usual wrestling with you're girlfriend then we stopped sat there for 20 min in silence and then it came ''i think i only love u as a friend anymore'' and i saw the look in her face that, that wasn't the truth tears came out of my eyes i don't cry with any sound tears jus't come and i shake it off. at that moment she started crying for about 15 min we held each other for atleast an hour and she kissed me twice in the neck till she had to go to work. It was the most devastating moment in my life. we didn't talk since then i hear from some friends of mine she was already dating a new guy 2 weeks after we broke up it broke my heart, it felt like my heart got shredded into a billion pieces and the worst part the guy she's with now has been harrassing some girly friends of mine smokes weed in public and smells like it to if i have to believe my friends wich i do. i started texting her again yesterday and we had some normal conversations nothing special but still something unique between us not the conversations normal people might have u know xD ( i jus't can't explain let's say the conversations we always had were unqiue) i think we texted for 5 hours straight till we both went to bed. The guy she's with is the exact opposite of me it's thanks to her i stopped smoking weed, quit smoking even though i didn't do it often only with friends when my best mate hit 18 and went in a positive line with my life and now she picked a random pothead wich she met on her way to school on the bus over me a guy she dated for 1.5 year. every friday i went to bed with her i even declined the invitation to the army for her jus't cause i couldn't bare being without her for to long. Nobody in my life would expect me to say the thing i said in this post why? its tim he'll get over it ask tim he'll help ya ask tim he'll help you stop the guy annoying u ask time he is the crazy **** running and running trough rain and snow but even i have feelings like everyone else.... how can she be over this so fast. She ignores me in public but wierdly enough sees that i lost weight, wore certain clothes, shaved blablabla then some of her friends saw me at the gym and they told her a day later she says via text i heard you're going back to the gym . u get the picture also friends said to me dude she's looking at you again. i still love her i'm like a loyal dog once i find the right master i stay with it for the rest of my life. i'm not a quitter nor will i ever give up on something i want and love, that's not why i am. should i keep trying or jus't say **** it and move on. also i'm sorry for the bad english it's not my native language. Edited March 29, 2013 by racoon5
Damsel in Distress Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Racoon, I think your english is excellent! I did not suspect it was not your native language. I'm so sorry your girlfriend ended the relationship so abruptly, and it's even more painful to know she's already with another guy (that's how she's over it so fast unfortunately). And all at a time in your life where you are dealing with other emotionally charged issues. Plus it sounds like she is stringing you along, having 5 hour text conversations while she's seeing where this other relationship will go, but not offering you anything but friendship I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Hang in there.
OJ loved Nicole Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. The guy she's with is the exact opposite of me She ignores me in public i still love her i'm like a loyal dog once i find the right master i stay with it for the rest of my life. No don't keep trying. If she wanted to be with you, she would (it IS that simple). People don't break up with people they want to be with. "I'm like a loyal dog".... WTF?? I bet this has A LOT to do with why she's with someone exactly opposite to you. 1
Darren Steez Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 it sucks but should i keep trying? keep trying for what? She's with another guy. Where's your self respect?
Author racoon5 Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 i think that u didn't understand the sentence right , with the loyal dog thing i meant i won't ever cheat on someone. so what you said is wrong but ye i guess you guys / girls are right but what i can't find myself to understand is, how u can jump from partner to partner so quik ye
NewPerspective93 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The reason she moved on fairly quickly is because she seemed to have been interested in this guy from the get go, while at the same time she didn't see interest in you. I'm sorry for saying this, but why else would she move on so quickly? I don't think you should try anything to get her back, and you should initiate No Contact. Do not contact her, but instead let her go and move on with your life. Do not let other people's talking get to you, such as your friends telling you that she is starting to look at you again. If they do tell you things like that, ask them to stop because it's not helping you move on since you'll be thinking about what she thinks of you. She even ignores you, what does that tell you? I feel that she doesn't have the decency and manners to even acknowledge you out in public when you see her; why bother trying for this person? It will get better. Cheers.
Author racoon5 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 (edited) the part that gets me the most is that she ignores me in public, i jus't don't understand i get along fine with my other ex girlfriends but she acts like she's to good for me or something i jus't can't grasp it. it seems u see the true form of a person at the end of a relationship, i hope in the bottom of my heart she comes back crawling to me, and i can flat out say to her . No you hop from guy to guy as u did before u met me and u will never change regardless of how many times people tell you. She made a name for herself now the last few days she's the local ''slut'' now and even some of her own friends are flat out ignoring for what she has been doing lately lying to evryone even to herself. p.s: next week my friends are throwing a party for me, leaving for the army in 2 weeks will help me set my mind on my future and not the past Edited April 1, 2013 by racoon5
Author racoon5 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 don't give up on her dude. if you truly love her...sounds like you do, i think things can work out. sounds to me like she still loves you. maybe i should i'm gonna go NC and see from there 1 week and a few days left before i leave for the army sooner or later she will know and ill see from there but i'm not gonna try. She's with someone else and i haven't heard from her since last friday so about 3 days.
OwlSoul Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 It's normal to share your problems, but meh, it pushes away. She also probably took the relationship getting slowed as a sign, and decided to do the first strike. It happens with the people who got hurt badly in previour relationships. However, if your intuition says otherwise, follow it's word at that moment she started crying for about 15 min Dumpers might cry and get very upset imagining the life without you. Happened to my current ex (quite sudden for a guy, but all my exes would cry bc of me). still something unique between us Guess your inner 'I' is saying you that things are about to turn to your side. Trust it. Today I broke NC (omg, kill me plz for this) because I felt like something positive is roaming in the air. My ex behaved really happy about me texting him, started messaging like in the very beginning of our relationship. The guy she's with is the exact opposite of me it's thanks to her i stopped smoking weed Do you think he was like you when you just started dating her? Is this a possibility she is trying to find something which would give her the same feeling? Not saying go smoke weed, but saying try to think what was unique about you at the time. i even declined the invitation to the army for her jus't cause i couldn't bare being without her for to long. Red flag. I personally think, screwing or changing something in yoru life for the partner is just wrong. For some reason, partners never appreciate it. Even if you're working out for them, they'll take it as gaining control over you. how can she be over this so fast. You do not fell out of love ever. You always love, but the love is buried under the all the negativity, control, personal and emotional issues of the partners. dude she's looking at you again. Because you're showing that you started doing better without her. So she started seeing from the different angle. All of us get too comfortable in a relationship. But holly angel, love is the worst adn the tough battlefield of human relationships. i'm not a quitter nor will i ever give up on something i want and love, that's not why i am. Stay with your principles then. I always see a hope in any thread made on this forum. Do your best for the relationship to work. If it keeps failing, move on. how u can jump from partner to partner so quik ye Depends on how long she was losing the feelings for you. If she lost them momentally, or broke up with you right after she felt something is going wrong, then it is less likely she'll go for another relationship. it seems u see the true form of a person at the end of a relationship, Wrong. All the dumpees see the dumpers as monsters. However, they'd act in the same way if they'd be in the same situation. When you want to get back, never blame. Although it is good to think some bad stuff about the partner, to stop idealizing. I've made 3 A4 lists of bad things about the relationship and the look of my ex (just anything, little things which never bothered me before). She made a name for herself now the last few days she's the local ''slut'' now and even some of her own friends are flat out ignoring for what she has been doing lately lying to evryone even to herself. M. In this case, if it is really true, her social status has shaken. She will became really needy with her current bf, who might break up with her because of this. Or she might try to return back to you, to the status quo point. Everything above is just based on what you have said + my own perception. There might be something lacking. Your heart will tell you what's true.
Author racoon5 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 It's normal to share your problems, but meh, it pushes away. She also probably took the relationship getting slowed as a sign, and decided to do the first strike. It happens with the people who got hurt badly in previour relationships. However, if your intuition says otherwise, follow it's word Dumpers might cry and get very upset imagining the life without you. Happened to my current ex (quite sudden for a guy, but all my exes would cry bc of me). Guess your inner 'I' is saying you that things are about to turn to your side. Trust it. Today I broke NC (omg, kill me plz for this) because I felt like something positive is roaming in the air. My ex behaved really happy about me texting him, started messaging like in the very beginning of our relationship. Do you think he was like you when you just started dating her? Is this a possibility she is trying to find something which would give her the same feeling? Not saying go smoke weed, but saying try to think what was unique about you at the time. Red flag. I personally think, screwing or changing something in yoru life for the partner is just wrong. For some reason, partners never appreciate it. Even if you're working out for them, they'll take it as gaining control over you. You do not fell out of love ever. You always love, but the love is buried under the all the negativity, control, personal and emotional issues of the partners. Because you're showing that you started doing better without her. So she started seeing from the different angle. All of us get too comfortable in a relationship. But holly angel, love is the worst adn the tough battlefield of human relationships. Stay with your principles then. I always see a hope in any thread made on this forum. Do your best for the relationship to work. If it keeps failing, move on. Depends on how long she was losing the feelings for you. If she lost them momentally, or broke up with you right after she felt something is going wrong, then it is less likely she'll go for another relationship. Wrong. All the dumpees see the dumpers as monsters. However, they'd act in the same way if they'd be in the same situation. When you want to get back, never blame. Although it is good to think some bad stuff about the partner, to stop idealizing. I've made 3 A4 lists of bad things about the relationship and the look of my ex (just anything, little things which never bothered me before). M. In this case, if it is really true, her social status has shaken. She will became really needy with her current bf, who might break up with her because of this. Or she might try to return back to you, to the status quo point. Everything above is just based on what you have said + my own perception. There might be something lacking. Your heart will tell you what's true. meh about the army thing i never told her till that moment we texted a few days back she asked me twice are you going to the army like you're dad. then she was talking about her wanting to be a nurse and she never said she wanted to be one in the army untill now sounds quite u know suspicious but what i learned in my life so far is, i never believe aything till i see it, i mean if she truly loves me she will text me during the 2 weeks of holiday she has from school. If she doesn't i'm moving on and thet dude is nothing like i was, i used to be careless but i NEVER harassed woman EVER. and for ****s sake i ddidn't smoke weed infront of children on the bus. i shaved and dressed clean he doesn't at all if i have to believe my friends. the reason for her leaving me was never said nor mentioned that's the wierd part jus't this i think my feelings for you are friendly but i don't want to lose you. I find that such utter bull**** for hey i don't love you anymore ill keep you as a backup plan lol. i never changed i'm still the same, what did change is anything that made my life **** at the time i cut short and removed it from excistance for example weed / smoking / drugs. ill keep the NC, when we texted i was always the first to initiate contact so far i haven't heard from her in 3 days. i'll wait as i said till i leave for the army when school starts she'll know i'm not there, and then we'll see.
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