Leegh Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I had a few dates with a guy about 2 years ago. I heard nothing from him for ages. Last week he called me, and left a message on my cell, that he wanted to get together soon. I knew he was involved with a woman when we met 2 years ago, and had a 3 year old son with her, but he indicated he was not happy in the relationship. They were not married, but had been engaged at one time. Do you think I should still go out with him, or just forget about it? I believe if he had really, really liked me he would not have let so much time go by, but on the other hand, he did have a child with this woman, and they were living together. In addition, if I decide to go out with him, I will wait a month before I return his call. Do you think that is too long, as I don't want to appear too available, especially after all of this time?
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Not sure what you hope to get out of reconnecting, so I won't comment on whether it's advisable. What I will say is respond now or don't bother. Playing high school games and waiting a month are pointless. Either you're interested or you're not. 1
runningfar Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I had a few dates with a guy about 2 years ago. I heard nothing from him for ages. Last week he called me, and left a message on my cell, that he wanted to get together soon. I knew he was involved with a woman when we met 2 years ago, and had a 3 year old son with her, but he indicated he was not happy in the relationship. They were not married, but had been engaged at one time. Do you think I should still go out with him, or just forget about it? I believe if he had really, really liked me he would not have let so much time go by, but on the other hand, he did have a child with this woman, and they were living together. In addition, if I decide to go out with him, I will wait a month before I return his call. Do you think that is too long, as I don't want to appear too available, especially after all of this time? You went out on dates with someone living with the mother of his 3 year old? And think you would like to go out with him for any reason? Would not spend time on him. Normally I say don't play games but I am going to go further and say dont engage games or not. Ick
mortensorchid Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 WHy would he call you after 2 years of silence? I find that odd. 2
Poppy fields Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 If some guy calls me after 2 years radio silence, he had better of been a hot piece of ass who is looking to supply me with more. If it was just some clown who blew me off for 2 years, I would pretend I didn't remember him and end the call quickly. What do you think you would get if you met up with him after all this time?
mortensorchid Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 If some guy calls me after 2 years radio silence, he had better of been a hot piece of ass who is looking to supply me with more. If it was just some clown who blew me off for 2 years, I would pretend I didn't remember him and end the call quickly. What do you think you would get if you met up with him after all this time? I wonder that as well. What is he looking for after 2 years of silence? A rebound? I was contacted by a complete and utter nutcase who friended / unfriended me several times in the MySpace days. I was with him for maybe a month if that, then he broke it off, came back six months later when he sent a friend request on MySpace, I bumped into him at a concert, did not respond immediately to his email, was unfriended, a few days later he sent another friend request, then I blocked him. 2 years later he sent a message saying he thought he made a mistake years ago and wanted to be friends again. I told him where to go. I wonder still what he was after, I had a feeling his marriage fell apart and he wanted someone to jump back into. Of course I never found out for sure, but I only suspected as such. And I wonder too about your situation. Stay away.
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