rekieter Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Hello ladies and gentlemen, I was dumped by a girl who left me for some other dude - LTR. I have no urge to getting her back, but lately I checked her profile and she blocked her photos, and most of posts on her wall. I am on her friends list, possibly restricted. Why would she do it? She know that I know she's with this dude... I always thought I am quite good psychologist but this boggles me. I don't stalk her, don't call nothing of this kind. Anyone got any ideas? I can't see any reasonable reason. If i don't care about someone I wouldn't even block them:/ Would appreciate any help from you guys
Falium Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 My ex did the same to me. Told me why she did it also. Anyway, if you were in a longer RS, she did that because she doesn't want to hurt you or go jealous if you are usually a jealous person. Either that, or she doesn't want you to stalk her in any way - including FB photos.
Author rekieter Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Yeah I know, but why? If you don't care about someone why would you bother... I should also add that she blocked everything 4 months after the break up
Treasa Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Maybe she knew you'd stalk her and didn't want to hurt you more. Maybe she knew you were extremely curious. It's in your best interest to go about your life and ignore her and who she's with and what she's doing.
BeenAround Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Hello ladies and gentlemen, I was dumped by a girl who left me for some other dude - LTR. I have no urge to getting her back, but lately I checked her profile and she blocked her photos, and most of posts on her wall. I am on her friends list, possibly restricted. Why would she do it? She know that I know she's with this dude... I always thought I am quite good psychologist but this boggles me. I don't stalk her, don't call nothing of this kind. Anyone got any ideas? I can't see any reasonable reason. If i don't care about someone I wouldn't even block them:/ Would appreciate any help from you guys I have always wondered about Facebook too......it is facinating how many people use Facebook to gage what an ex is up to or as a tool of some sort, ect.... I don't see any point in staying friends on Facebook after a break up and if your settings are private than the only thing another person (who is not your friend) can see on your page is your profile picture and cover photo. So I never understood the point in blocking an ex if there is NC between both parties. Why a person would block in this situation makes no sense to me. It's either for their benefit (maybe to stop themselves from looking at your picture) which is stupid if they are the blocker because if they have no self control they can unblock you again. The other reason would be to send you a message that are cut from his/her life.....which IMO shows they are still hurt. I think some people are just immature and block as a tactic to somehow hurt the other person. Anyway, I just really don't understand the dynamics behind it and only person behind the blocking really knows their motives. Trying to figure it out is just a waste of time.
Cam116 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 My ex did the same to me, and still has me restricted for the time being. He did it to protect me, so that I wouldn't be obsessively "checking up" on him. I'm glad he did it, it helped me in the long run. Granted, I have friends that have let me on their page so that I could view his from time to time, just for curiosity's sake. He never had anything questionable that would have hurt me, so I believe him when he said he did it to help me. He's being guarded, and eventually will loosen up. As to why your ex did it.....it's a little strange that she would do it 4 months post BU. Maybe she just doesn't want you prying into her life?
mb88 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 An ex (dumper) may block you or restrict you as a friend out of guilt for what they have done - they probably won't look at your profile - if they have moved on, especially! - and don't want you looking at theirs in case they know you will see something you won't like. Quite frankly, unless its a mutual separation that has gone very well and without any pain or heartbreak (a rare occurrence I think) staying friends on any social networking site is pointless. For me NC is the only way to move on and that includes all forms of social networking. Maybe in the future people decide to become 'friends' or at least civil again. For me personally, delete them. Life goes on...
PinkSapphire Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 If you h ave a lot of mutual friends or groups in common, blocking is a lot better than just unfriending. When you unfriend someone, you can still see all their posts on friends walls or in group or event pages. When you block someone, all of their posts are hidden from you. THe only way you know if they posted on a thread is if someone responds to them using their name. THey also can't see your posts on same thread. That would be the reason: to truly eliminate you from their life.
na49 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 If you were a good psychologist you would know that one of the hardest things to study is human behavior. Who knows why she hid things on facebook? I checked my ex's facebook a few days ago and noticed her news feed was private so I couldn't see any statuses but I could see all of her pictures. Did this have anything to do with me? I seriously doubt it.
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