ses Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 My ex ended our relationship because he said I looked too young for my age. He constantly reiterated that it made him uncomfortable; his exes were also older than him. I agreed with him about my appearance. Although I'm 24 (he was 28), my usual outfit of jeans and a t-shirt have contributed to my youthful appearance. I'm also part-Asian, and our genetics tend to skew on the young side. The guy wasn't worth my time or energy but he's left me feeling a sense of doubt. I've had a lot of people comment on how young I look but I've never experienced such a degree of insecurity until I heard it all the time from him. It's frustrating to know that I was physically attractive and sexually desired but that my appearance was the deal-breaker. I like who I am, and I definitely don't want him anymore. I'm not perfect and can always improve but that's okay. How do I let go of this issue? I really want to give other guys a shot without prejudice. Thanks!!
Vogeltron Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 As a Male mid 20's. First time I have ever heard someone say they felt uncomfortable their girlfriend "looked" to young. I have to be honest. That is about the dumbest thing I have ever heard. If the guy is too much of chump to be real with you about whatever the problem was than you are better off without him. If he really is bugged out about being with someone who "looks" young that is his stupidity and his loss. If I where taking stock and I was with somebody who looked younger than their age. I would definitely put that in the long-term asset category.
Cogee Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 He wasn't serious about you, plain and simple. In the long term you will both grow old and wrinkled so what does it matter if the person you love now looks younger? On the topic of ridiculous reasons to break up, my ex's ex broke up with her because he was insecure of the fact that she had a higher education than him. Might have some cultural influence, but I personally didn't give a damn that she was getting a higher education than me because I was completely comfortable in my own knowledge/experience and could keep up with her in every conversation.
Author ses Posted March 31, 2013 Author Posted March 31, 2013 Thanks, guys!! I've had many people agree that it's a ridiculous and immature reason to end a relationship. I've always known that I looked young for my age, but it has never been a deterrent to attracting men. I wish he would've been honest with me from the start instead of playing his games..
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