SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Ok so we met tonight. I texted her saying "I'm here lets meet by xyz, are you close?" She responds "I'm parking now in a handicap spot lol". So I'm thinking wtf? Anyway we shot some pool and had a few drinks. On my end there was zero chemistry and I wasn't attracted to her either. At the end I walked her to her car and told her I hope she meets someone she hits it off with and connects with and said good night.
CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 You knew she was plus size and still went out with her right? How could that possibly have ended any other way? I'm nervous because an upcoming date hasn't disclosed her body type but now I'd feel bad asking her about it after I asked her out.
soccerrprp Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Ok so we met tonight. I texted her saying "I'm here lets meet by xyz, are you close?" She responds "I'm parking now in a handicap spot lol". So I'm thinking wtf? Anyway we shot some pool and had a few drinks. On my end there was zero chemistry and I wasn't attracted to her either. At the end I walked her to her car and told her I hope she meets someone she hits it off with and connects with and said good night. Not surprised. You went into it having doubts and knew deep inside that you were not going to be attracted to her. Better luck next time.
FitChick Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Treat it like it was a practice date. Plenty of guys on here don't even get that.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 You knew she was plus size and still went out with her right? How could that possibly have ended any other way? I'm nervous because an upcoming date hasn't disclosed her body type but now I'd feel bad asking her about it after I asked her out. Yes but there were two instances on OLD where I was on the fence and tuned out to be really attracted to them, epecially the last woman I dated. I went into it knowing that I probably wouldn' be attraceted and this time I was right... It is what it is.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) Was it because she was big? Honestly the minute I seen her when she walked in I knew it was a no go on the pysical front. But even if I was attracted to her there was ZERO chemistry, seriously. She didn't ask me ONE question the entire date! Hell I even tried to bait her into asking me a question and she didn't. Edited March 29, 2013 by SJC2008 edit 1
Author SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) You knew she was plus size and still went out with her right? How could that possibly have ended any other way? I'm nervous because an upcoming date hasn't disclosed her body type but now I'd feel bad asking her about it after I asked her out. For the most part yes but ONE thing OLD as taught me is that it's not always better to go of off picutes alone. The last woman I dated could be considered plus size depending on who you ask but I was SUPER attracted to her and actually got hut over the dibacle lol. As stated in another post, there were two instances where I wasn't really too attracted to their photos but IRL I was attracted to them big time. This time my "gut" served me right but there was no harm done IMO. It was one date so it's not like I lead her on or anything... Edited March 29, 2013 by SJC2008 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I remember one instance when I wasn't into a guy in the photos, but in real life - he was very attractive. 1
Author SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 I remember one instance when I wasn't into a guy in the photos, but in real life - he was very attractive. I'm not surprised. Unless your'e universally attractive, you're going to look better IRL than in pictures.
charlietheginger Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Im glad you were a standup guy and went on the date. I asked my girlfriend about this situation.... She gave me Two resposes. "cancel the date and this girl goes through life feeling rejected Unloved and what if he missed out on his true love " " go on the date hangout shoot pool have a drink if it Works great if not you part ways" Imo you had nothing to lose but a few hours and what $20bucks For a few drinks. Only thing i would work on is your closing of the dates. Try this approach. " i had a great time it was nice meeting you have goodnite" And just leave it at that. she will get the picture and know Your not interested. No need to be brut about it with i hope You find someone... Women can pick up on vibes. Now here is a fun story for you im working on a " project" I"ll call her " miss thang " I got her eating 3 raw eggs with orange juice in a blender For breakfast Small chicken salad for lunch. Small veggie with meat dinner. She went from 165lbs to 120 lbs 5"3 Got her doing basic full body workouts at home And eleptical machine 20 every other day She was rejected alot online dating , thought It would be fun to see her reentrance to OLD New profile new pics. She has gone on a few dates with the same men who Rejected her while she was fat. Her last date half way through she mentioned that they Met once before said i need to make a phone call. Then just left during dinner.
sillyanswer Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 At the end I walked her to her car and told her I hope she meets someone she hits it off with and connects with and said good night. At least she won't be left thinking "will he call?" I'm never quite sure how to end a first date where there's clearly no interest... whether to say "this isn't going to work" or just to say goodnight.
Frogwife Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 "cancel the date and this girl goes through life feeling rejected Unloved I am sorry, but anyone who would 'go through life feeling rejected and unloved" because someone they don't even know canceled a date has serious mental health issues!
charlietheginger Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 They do its called feeling unloved rejected low self esteem. Women all around the world have it. It only takes one Event to push them over the edge. When they finally emotionally give out. The women is often found hanging in her closet by Her belt or passed out in bed from a overdose. It happens everyday every city people just give up On life , give up on love , and put a end to it. When some women is looking for love over and over And turned away many turn to alcohol or drugs. Im not saying this women would have . I garantee some guys on this forum are lonley Looking for love and feel as if they will be alone for ever Many have thought of just ending it all.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 At least she won't be left thinking "will he call?" I'm never quite sure how to end a first date where there's clearly no interest... whether to say "this isn't going to work" or just to say goodnight. I'm thinking the way I ended the night was OTT but she initiated so much contact before we met she probably would of done so after the date too IMO so I wanted to be clear that I wasn't interested. I said it nicely with a nice tone of voice...
Divasu Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Ok so we met tonight. I texted her saying "I'm here lets meet by xyz, are you close?" She responds "I'm parking now in a handicap spot lol". So I'm thinking wtf? Anyway we shot some pool and had a few drinks. On my end there was zero chemistry and I wasn't attracted to her either. At the end I walked her to her car and told her I hope she meets someone she hits it off with and connects with and said good night. Well at least you gave it a shot. Hopefully you had a good time even though there wasn't any romantic interest.
outsidethebox Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Was it because she was big? At first I thought this was a question about her parking in the handicapped space.
BluEyeL Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 What is considered big/fat? I think different people have different body type preferences, but for example 165lb, I don't think is "fat". Maybe anything above size 14 US clothes is big/fat, but 165lb sounds like size 8, which is pretty good.
candie13 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Honestly the minute I seen her when she walked in I knew it was a no go on the pysical front. But even if I was attracted to her there was ZERO chemistry, seriously. She didn't ask me ONE question the entire date! Hell I even tried to bait her into asking me a question and she didn't. God, that is the biggest turn off of all times. Not that I want to talk about me or my profession, but how can you tell if you actually like your date if you don't try to get to know them, what they like, what their experiences were like, what it is that they feel strongly about - or not? I apologize in advance if I seem brush, SJC, but you seem like a very nice guy and IMHO, you got duped. Twice. First time was when she initiated contact and lied on her pictures. Second is because she made you feel guilty and got you to go with her on a date (my supposition - am I wrong?). I would not be surprised if she wrote an email expressing how hurt she was to not hear from you again. She's got nothing to loose , but everything to gain. I understand you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but in the future, be more firm and go only after what you are really interested in. Cheers
BluEyeL Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I think that she wasn't into you if she didn't ask any questions. That's horrible!! I had a date like that once, I rank it as my worst date ever.
charlietheginger Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 big boned... just sayin Ive never seen a fat skeleton
Author SJC2008 Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 At first I thought this was a question about her parking in the handicapped space. When she came in I told her she didn't look hadicapped and she told me it was her moms tag. Nice! Using someones tag so you can park closer.
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