mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Why would my ex (dumper) want the engagement ring? 2 weeks ago, when we were still LC, I mentioned getting it back, and she started crying. WTF? I told her to keep it. She stopped wearing it in January and I really can't see her ever wearing it again. We will never be engaged again. And when she has another man, he isn't going to want to know about it. Why keep it? Does she really want a memory of me? Of the RS? Of the BU? IDK, just seems strange to me, but then again, I don't really get any of what's been going down over the last 6 months
CarrieT Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Was it expensive? She may want to have the stone re-set into another piece of jewelry. Personally, I like mementos of past relationships and wouldn't return it either - regardless if I wear it or not. 1
destroyed4sho Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 yeah, women are sentimental about crap like that. They like to collect rings and such for the memories and maybe an ego boost...like when she is a grandma someday telling her grandkids... when i was young in year 2013 this man proposed to.me he was so in love with me....etc etc. Its like a a real.life reminder that someone at simetime.loved them and that they were once lovable and could be again.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Was it expensive? She may want to have the stone re-set into another piece of jewelry. Personally, I like mementos of past relationships and wouldn't return it either - regardless if I wear it or not. No, the stone was only semi-precious. The band was gold. Wasn't cheap, but also not really worth too much, but it is what she wanted. So, I got it for her. Yeah, I guess I can see her wanting the memories. They weren't all bad
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 yeah, women are sentimental about crap like that. They like to collect rings and such for the memories and maybe an ego boost...like when she is a grandma someday telling her grandkids... when i was young in year 2013 this man proposed to.me he was so in love with me....etc etc. Its like a a real.life reminder that someone at simetime.loved them and that they were once lovable and could be again. Strange?!?!
todreaminblue Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Why would my ex (dumper) want the engagement ring? 2 weeks ago, when we were still LC, I mentioned getting it back, and she started crying. WTF? I told her to keep it. She stopped wearing it in January and I really can't see her ever wearing it again. We will never be engaged again. And when she has another man, he isn't going to want to know about it. Why keep it? Does she really want a memory of me? Of the RS? Of the BU? IDK, just seems strange to me, but then again, I don't really get any of what's been going down over the last 6 months i sold mine and chucked a birthday party for my youngest daughter.....heaps of balloons......we had fun......deb
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Not sure about California specifically, but in most states, the engagement ring legally belongs to the guy if the engagement is broken. It's not viewed as a gift. 5
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 i sold mine and chucked a birthday party for my youngest daughter.....heaps of balloons......we had fun......deb She wouldn't. She couldn't. She better not... Nah, she wouldn't
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Not sure about California specifically, but in most states, the engagement ring legally belongs to the guy if the engagement is broken. It's not viewed as a gift. She would give it back if I demanded, but what the h.ell do I want with it? She can keep it. Only really worth the gold of the band. I just think she just wants it as a keepsake/memory!? Again, wasn't all bad between us. In fact lot's of good in there somewhere
ThatJustHappened Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Mine was a promise ring (we were shopping for a real one before we broke up), but I gave it back. It lost its meaning when he broke his promise. I do still have the two necklaces and the earrings he got me. They're pretty..I wear them all the time. But..if I'm being honest..I don't just wear them because they're pretty.. We just started dating again. I know he keeps the ring in his dresser. Maybe I'll get it back someday, but I told him I don't want it unless it means something. Jewelry from other exes..I don't keep it. I sold a Tiffany bracelet from an ex on exboyfriendjewlery dot com. Fun website.
PogoStick Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 How long has it been? Won't some jewelers accept the ring back? Either way I'd want it back especially being dumped. Legally you are entitled to get it back. You can always give it to your next girlfriend and make a point to run into your ex so she can see it on another girl's finger! No, I could never do that unless my ex was a total bitch. Even then I couldn't do it but it's fun to imagine.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 ^^ I could never do that either. I am just not that kind of person. Sometimes, I wish I was, but I am not. I gave it to her in April 2011. Custom made just the way she wanted it, so I doubt anyone else would like it. It is very pretty. Black Spinel solitaire on white gold band. I know she loves it as a piece of jewelry and probably some sentimental value too (I would like to think, anyway). She can keep it!! Now, if her intention is just to sell it, then all bets are off and I want it back now!! Doubt it though…
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 We just started dating again. I know he keeps the ring in his dresser. Maybe I'll get it back someday, but I told him I don't want it unless it means something. Whoa!! Really? I just hate to see it go south and you back step after all the posts I've read from you. Well, tread lightly and good luck!!
KraftDinner Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Not sure about California specifically, but in most states, the engagement ring legally belongs to the guy if the engagement is broken. It's not viewed as a gift. Even if HE breaks the engagement?
Keenly Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 The ring is his, especially in this situation. The engagement ring is given her to as a promise of her ACCEPTING his marriage proposal. Its a conditional gift. And then since SHE is the one who broke up with you? And she thinks she has a right to keep it? That's laughable.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Yeah, if I demanded it, she would give it back. But, honestly, I just don't want it. If I were to sell it, it would only bring a few hundred at best. She wants it, so she can keep it. She is letting me keep some of the really nice artwork she made and gave to me, so whatever
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Well, the artwork is a gift that she couldn't get back from you legally. Depending on California law, the ring may be yours. It's most definitely not an even exchange. Still, I agree with you that not every battle is worth fighting. Sometimes mental peace is far more valuable than hauling negativity and nastiness around for months on end as things slowly wind through the court system. No need for a Pyrrhic victory over something that doesn't really matter to you. Even if HE breaks the engagement? In many states, but not all, yes. Unlike other jewelry he might give, which are gifts, an engagement ring is treated as a contract. It's viewed as the fiancé's property until the marriage occurs. (I'm assuming he bought it rather than her or it being a joint purchase, of course.) It's an issue that has routinely gone to court in every state.
KatZee Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Not sure about California specifically, but in most states, the engagement ring legally belongs to the guy if the engagement is broken. It's not viewed as a gift. Yep. Keeping an engagement ring is tacky in my opinion. An engagement ring isn't a gift. It's not hers to keep. An engagement ring is a promise to marry. She called it off, so the thing to do is return the ring. If this had been a birthday or Christmas gift, fine. But it's not. 2
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 I turned it into a gift. I really don't even want it and she does... Hers as far as I'm concerned. She wasn't nasty to me and the BU, although her idea at first, was most likely unavoidable (I see that now), so I am not bitter. Not happy, but not bitter...
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 You're a good guy. I hope you find someone who brings you happiness.
fancy feast Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I would want it back, PS4 and NextBox are just around the corner. Just me, though. 1
Cogee Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I gave my ex a nice and expensive necklace for her birthday about 1 month before she dumped me for someone else. She is now engaged to this man 2 months later so how do you think I feel knowing she will likely be wearing the necklace when they marry? haha
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 My goodness. So many stories of ex's (females usually) getting engaged so fast after a BU. What gives? Man, I hope I never have to experience that craziness. From either end
tbf Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 If this had been a birthday or Christmas gift, fine. But it's not.If gifted at any time, regardless of occasion, the ring belongs to her. If the ring was given as a promise to marry, then the ring is his. In some jurisdictions, even if he broke off the engagement, the ring would still belong to him if not gifted but as part of a contractual agreement to marry.
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