RedRobin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 The problem for women is that the more body shots they provide, the creepier men message them. You got that right... It doesn't even matter if they are tasteful or whatever. If you have a nice body, there is some freak going to email you. In my case, lots of freaks. It becomes demoralizing and depressing trying to sift through all those, on the hope that the one guy who says something normal isn't one. Well, what I found out is that those guys are just as shallow in different ways. They just do a better job schmoozing you into a coffee date. Next thing you know, it's lots of sexy-talk on texts and it is NEXT time. So, yea. No more pics for me.
RedRobin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) yet another reason not to post pics for public consumption ladies... Some rube like the OP thinks its great posting pics for everyone to comment on because HE has bad planning and communication skills... Nice... Edited: I recognize that I weighed in on another poster's pics he shared.. and I regret that. It would be nice if LS perhaps discouraged this behavior (posting pics of people from dating sites). even though it isn't officially a violation of the other person's privacy, since they have them posted in a public place... it really isn't good. I don't think they have agreed to have their pics posted anywhere except the dating site... Edited March 29, 2013 by RedRobin 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 I'd be really pissed off if some guy posted all these pics of me on his LS profile, even with the face blocked out. I've seen others do the same and was only following what they had done. Her face was blacked out in all images. Since this thread is winding down I just deleted all the images,
Ruby Slippers Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I agree that for women especially, posting face only/above the chest pics and putting an accurate description of your body type is best if you want a relationship. I started out on OLD with just a few face pics. Then I posted a body shot and got like 10x more messages, 95% of them sexual. If I do OLD again, it'll be face pics only, with accurate body description. 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 OK I thought this thread had run it's course but I couldn't resist on this one... I just started communicating with someone else on OKC and laughed out loud when I saw she listed her body type listed as "curvy". No way!!! She's very thin and almost perfect for me actually. Do some women really have that distorted a view of their own body type? I mean this is kinda nuts. I upload one pic in the same album (of course face totally blacked out) because it's totally nonsensical that she thinks she "curvy"...
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Curvy refers to your shape, not your size or weight. Basically, you have a figure 8 shape when you're curvy. Your chest-waist-hip proportion determines whether you're curvy. I'm curvy and describe myself as such. FWIW, I'm 5' 9" and a size 4. 4
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 I've been led to believe it's a euphemism for overweight by comments on LS...
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 As your thread clearly shows, there can be quite a bit of cynicism on LS, often unfounded.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The other thing that calling yourself curvy does is it limits the shallow, superficial guys who just pick based on looks. They tend to search for slim and fit/athletic. Unfortunately, you still made it through!
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I had my body type listed as "curvy" because I have a strong hourglass shape. Then I got men messaging me and telling me that I am not fat enough to be listed as curvy 1
Ruby Slippers Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I find it kind of creepy how you keep posting pictures of these women with their faces blacked out. Do you really need to broadcast pictures of your targets like this? 4
ascendotum Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The other thing that calling yourself curvy does is it limits the shallow, superficial guys who just pick based on looks. They tend to search for slim and fit/athletic. Unfortunately, you still made it through! It wouldn't surprise me if some slim women did change their body type in their profile for this purpose. Maybe also with the bonus of pleasantly surprising the guy when they meet. I'm kind of surprised that having a body shot = just more creeps. Wouldn't it more likely be more messages (creeps + genuine guys). I think there is a too much over emphasis on facial looks in terms of attraction when from many posters on LS. Physique counts a lot, especially when it comes to sex appeal. A good body avg face women would still be a big hit on OLD, for regular guys but also very much so for the hit & quit it guys. Maybe the best way around it is for the woman to have a full body shot in her private gallery. If a woman listed herself as curvy and avoided a body shot, I would assume she was beefy/overweight. I don't agree with the claim that having a guy pick you based on a picture of your face = not shallow, but having a guy pick you based on a picture of your body = shallow. Both are pretty much in the same realm. If the OP is fit/trim himself then I don't think filtering for a slim/fit girl is out of line. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I find it kind of creepy how you keep posting pictures of these women with their faces blacked out. Do you really need to broadcast pictures of your targets like this? I also find it creepy how men go into these nuances of how slim is slim and is it even worth a first meeting. Sure they don't want someone overweight, but this level of body type fixation borders on ridiculous. 7
phineas Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 (edited) The other thing that calling yourself curvy does is it limits the shallow, superficial guys who just pick based on looks. They tend to search for slim and fit/athletic. Unfortunately, you still made it through! As if 95% of the women don't just look at the picture on OLD. I have yet to meet a woman off OLD that showed any indication she actually read my profile. Hell, I've had them ask me how tall I was & how old I was over text & she contacted me first. and when I dropped those last few lbs & switched my body type from average to athletic I got a lot more responses. Even from women that previously ignored me. You couldn't even tell the difference in my pics because I wasn't shirtless. I think shallow gets tossed around way to easily these days. Edited March 31, 2013 by phineas
outsidethebox Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 OKC has these categories for (imo) beyond average: Overweight A little extra Curvy Full figured Probably women use it more for between A little extra and Full figured than indicating they have an hourglass shape, although I think Curvy is better for indicating hourglass shape like kimberlydoll.
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 In the area where I live "curvy" is used by women who are at least above average and heavier. I've seen a few use to describe the "shape" of their body, but most use it illustrate the shape WITH the extra weight.
pbjbear Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Curvy has a different meaning to everyone. Curvy is a genetic shape not a weight. Thinner women can have curvier shapes than overweight women. It just depends on how the person is using it. Most of the time its a euphenism for fat but sometimes not. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Curvy refers to your shape, not your size or weight. Basically, you have a figure 8 shape when you're curvy. Your chest-waist-hip proportion determines whether you're curvy. I'm curvy and describe myself as such. FWIW, I'm 5' 9" and a size 4. Curvy has a different meaning to everyone. Curvy is a genetic shape not a weight. Thinner women can have curvier shapes than overweight women. It just depends on how the person is using it. Most of the time its a euphenism for fat but sometimes not. I think both of these statements are true. Curvy can mean a variation of things to people. Some people use the term when they are overweight, and others just purely depending on body-shape. However, if you are by "definition" curvy in terms of shape, a better picture of that in a mans mind would be skinny. I don't know my waist sizes or anything, every time someone posts their body ratio I feel like a German U-boat captain in WW2 receiving the coordinates to attack a ship ordered by the fuhrer. But size 4 from google I'd classify as skinny, to me. Even if you have a nice shape, curvy is a loose term and more often used by women with a little meat on them...which I'm perfectly ok with, I'm not here or there to call women overweight or anything, that's for them to figure out or deal with, I'm sure they already know how their body looks without my comments, personally I don't even mind. I like thick legs, big @ss, wide hips and big breast, that doesn't bother me. Here's the type of women I've all seen call themselves "Curvy"; Curvy - exhibit A Curvy - exhibit B Curvy - exhibit C Curvy - exhibit D And for those who question that the arms can't be a better indication of body weight than the face..(someone posted this once upon a time, and I think it's a good example; Skinny face, fat body *All random photos from internet with very little effort invested* So from a man's point of view, it can be quite..confusing, judging from that "description" and you may be quite confused by the term alone on what to expect.
Star Gazer Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Curvy refers to your shape, not your size or weight. Basically, you have a figure 8 shape when you're curvy. Your chest-waist-hip proportion determines whether you're curvy. I'm curvy and describe myself as such. FWIW, I'm 5' 9" and a size 4. Respectfully: There is no way a woman your height who's a size 4 is "curvy." Not happenin'.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 The thing is, I am not skinny. I am of average (healthy weight) but I have really good proportions, genetically. My weight is distributed in the right places. So I feel like the term "average" doesn't do me justice, but I a not quite thin or athletic. I am currently a US size 6-8 at 5'8"-5'9"....so what do I put?
mesmerized Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 (edited) The thing is, I am not skinny. I am of average (healthy weight) but I have really good proportions, genetically. My weight is distributed in the right places. So I feel like the term "average" doesn't do me justice, but I a not quite thin or athletic. I am currently a US size 6-8 at 5'8"-5'9"....so what do I put? I've put average and I sometimes get messages saying "you are not average" as in you are better than average. Who cares what you put in? let them decide based on your pictures. I guess most men ask for slim in their searches anyway so curvy or average, either way we're screwd. Edited March 31, 2013 by mesmerized
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 The thing is, I am not skinny. I am of average (healthy weight) but I have really good proportions, genetically. My weight is distributed in the right places. So I feel like the term "average" doesn't do me justice, but I a not quite thin or athletic. I am currently a US size 6-8 at 5'8"-5'9"....so what do I put? I have kind of the same problem. I don't have a proper definition for my body type really. I'm naturally muscular/athletic style type body, but I am an out of shape version of those classifications, especially by my own standards. But put me next to another average guy and I'm typically bigger all around and more muscular...I look like a "strong" solid built guy plus I'm tall, not "average" torso size or shoulders, but I'm not ripped and or in good shape to be athletic. However people always assume I'm lifting weights when most of the exercises I do nowadays are plyometrics to stay in a reasonable body weight range. Most of the mass I have is from lifting weights for a long time when I was younger, it's just leftover. So I'd just go with average, or on OKcupid I just got with "used up" I'd rather be a surprise than a disappointment in the end, even though I'm not really trying to impress anyone..I do what I do for myself, some people think I'm fairly muscular/athletic, someone else might think I'm just average and out of shape...who knows! It's hard to see yourself from another persons eyes, especially when that can change or be determined by their size...I'm much bigger than a small petite girl, I'm not so much larger than a large amazonian woman :S 2
Star Gazer Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 The thing is, I am not skinny. I am of average (healthy weight) but I have really good proportions, genetically. My weight is distributed in the right places. So I feel like the term "average" doesn't do me justice, but I a not quite thin or athletic. I am currently a US size 6-8 at 5'8"-5'9"....so what do I put? "Ideal"? Haha... I dunno. I'm built like Britney Spears, with bigger boobs. I vacillate between athletic and average, just like she does. 1
Leigh 87 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 The thing is, I am not skinny. I am of average (healthy weight) but I have really good proportions, genetically. My weight is distributed in the right places. So I feel like the term "average" doesn't do me justice, but I a not quite thin or athletic. I am currently a US size 6-8 at 5'8"-5'9"....so what do I put? I am the same proportion to you, and I just consider myself "average", and I would also consider "curvy" to be an attribute of my body (if I were to list my body type for online dating) When I was 110 - 114 lbs and indeed "thin", I listed myself as "thin" when I was online dating.. Now that I consider the question more, I would definitely have been considered "curvy" by a lot of people even when I was thin in my legs/arms, due to the fact I had DD breasts and a huge butt for my size. I think curvy can be anything that is not a straight up and down sort of figure ( which can be associated with both thin and thin women!) I think curvy can mean a wide range of things, for you it means an hour glass shape, where as for me; I consider myself curvy due to large breasts and a big butt (for my body size) I have a slight hour glass shape but a thicker waist/ not big enough hips to have a strong one. It is ridiculous, how curvy is so many different things to different people! Is my big butt and boobs curvy, or because I am too top heavy to be a strong hour glass, am I not considered "curvy"? We would definitely be considered curvy though, ES - although there will always be people who think we are "not fat enough" to be curvy, and there will always be thin girls who consider themselves "curvy" due to having an hour glass shape and/or a big butt, whilst others deem them too "thin" to be curvy. 1
hppr Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Still mystified by OP's cut-off for height/weight, as he thinks 5'9" and 135lbs is pushing it for attraction, but then denies liking very thin women. Every guy has his own tastes. Besides for every guy that likes thin women there are 2-3 talking about how gross skinny women are and how they want one with some curves or whatever.
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