RedRobin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) No body shot or body type selected...she is very likely overweight. Like, 95% chance I'd guess. BS. I didn't post pics AT ALL when I did OLD... My body looks like my avatar. It works great for screening out guys who just wanna quick F and shallow guys. I recommend it for any woman... OTOH, I'm not there trolling for expensive dates either... not sure what the OP is trying to prove by doing that. Edited March 29, 2013 by RedRobin
Giraffe1 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Did you ever think what if she isn't attracted to you and your body type? I'm a 5'9 woman and I weigh around 155 lbs and my bmi is in the healthy range. The fact you have a weight limit for someone who is 5'9, is so shallow to me. I'm sure she would probably think the same way. Meet the girl before you think all of these frivolous thoughts...It's called having an open mind. 1
RedRobin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 People who dont post full body shots are usually hiding something. Proceed with caution. And I agree with Ninja that arms are a good giveaway clue. ... or they don't want to get hit on by creeps or guys willing to do a little smooth talking to get a date with them... TBH, not posting pics at all was the best decision *I* ever made when doing OLD. 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Did you ever think what if she isn't attracted to you and your body type? I'm a 5'9 woman and I weigh around 155 lbs and my bmi is in the healthy range. The fact you have a weight limit for someone who is 5'9, is so shallow to me. I'm sure she would probably think the same way. Meet the girl before you think all of these frivolous thoughts...It's called having an open mind. I'm not worried about that because I listed my body type and provided full body shot pics. So it's better to date someone you are not attracted to, than to have restrictions based on physical appearance? Please... Then I think every woman I've met through OLD is shallow. On most first dates, at some point, we joked about the OLD experience and they all tell me looks matter. One even told me she ONLY dated one ethnicity and body type, which of course I met. That was a bit odd to me but I didn't consider it shallow because I have an open mind...
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 The problem for women is that the more body shots they provide, the creepier men message them.
Els Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Here's a shocker... Maybe treat her to a much more affordable date on the first date rather than agreeing to an expensive one and then feeling like you need to do all this to get your 'money's worth'? 8
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I do coffee. $3.50 and an hour of your time. Tops. 1
Els Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I do coffee. $3.50 and an hour of your time. Tops. Very apt avatar, btw. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Very apt avatar, btw. Thanks Els. I try Speaking of OLD coffee dates, I have one tomorrow with a 26 year old 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Here's a shocker... Maybe treat her to a much more affordable date on the first date rather than agreeing to an expensive one and then feeling like you need to do all this to get your 'money's worth'? Fair enough but I already stated I inadvertently got into this situation in the natural flow of our messaging. I'll also add that it's different for guys and girls online. Weight thing aside, she's clearly attractive and gets lots of messages. So when she dropped a hint about a sushi place, I immediately replied with a nice tie in to my suggestion and made it a date. Didn't want to miss my window. I mean everybody knows it's the guys that are trying to impress and coax the date and not the other way around... 5 dates so far and I've never done the coffee thing. 3 happy hours and 2 (soon to be 3) lunch /dinner dates. All have been 2+ hours. Personally I'd much rather go to a nice pub or lounge than a Starbucks if I'm going to kill an hour. Second, the geography of LA makes coffee dates impractical unless you are neighbors. She lives 10 miles away, which during rush hour (4-8PM) is almost 1 hour each way and it's just unpleasant driving and parking. She's coming to my neighborhood so that's a lot of effort just for coffee. Still agreed sushi is a bit much for first date but what am I going to do about it now...
Els Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Fair enough but I already stated I inadvertently got into this situation in the natural flow of our messaging. I'll also add that it's different for guys and girls online. Weight thing aside, she's clearly attractive and gets lots of messages. So when she dropped a hint about a sushi place, I immediately replied with a nice tie in to my suggestion and made it a date. Didn't want to miss my window. I mean everybody knows it's the guys that are trying to impress and coax the date and not the other way around... 5 dates so far and I've never done the coffee thing. 3 happy hours and 2 (soon to be 3) lunch /dinner dates. All have been 2+ hours. Personally I'd much rather go to a nice pub or lounge than a Starbucks if I'm going to kill an hour. Second, the geography of LA makes coffee dates impractical unless you are neighbors. She lives 10 miles away, which during rush hour (4-8PM) is almost 1 hour each way and it's just unpleasant driving and parking. She's coming to my neighborhood so that's a lot of effort just for coffee. Still agreed sushi is a bit much for first date but what am I going to do about it now... Okay, well, in that case, probably best to ask for the photo before you expend the money and she expends the time (2 hours of driving + petrol cost is, IMO, worth more than a sushi treat).
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Fair enough but I already stated I inadvertently got into this situation in the natural flow of our messaging. I'll also add that it's different for guys and girls online. Weight thing aside, she's clearly attractive and gets lots of messages. So when she dropped a hint about a sushi place, I immediately replied with a nice tie in to my suggestion and made it a date. Didn't want to miss my window. I mean everybody knows it's the guys that are trying to impress and coax the date and not the other way around... 5 dates so far and I've never done the coffee thing. 3 happy hours and 2 (soon to be 3) lunch /dinner dates. All have been 2+ hours. Personally I'd much rather go to a nice pub or lounge than a Starbucks if I'm going to kill an hour. Second, the geography of LA makes coffee dates impractical unless you are neighbors. She lives 10 miles away, which during rush hour (4-8PM) is almost 1 hour each way and it's just unpleasant driving and parking. She's coming to my neighborhood so that's a lot of effort just for coffee. Still agreed sushi is a bit much for first date but what am I going to do about it now... Where I live it's similar. We meet in the city center at a nice cafe (no Starbucks ). I live 20 miles from the guy I am meeting tomorrow. I will do some Easter shopping afterwards if a date is a bust. If it's going well, we can easily move to another venue. Or have a proper second date. I just take the train, it's like 25 mins. No biggie. The thing is, once you have been through enough HORRIBLE meets, you won't want to risk it again. I once had to flee through the exit next to the toilets. The first OLD dinner date was going so badly, I couldn't stand another second of it :/
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 UPDATE! Coincidentally she recently added a new pic! I uploaded to album for those who are curious. It's not full body but she's in a bikini, not a one piece, and is definitely thin-average at worst. She probably looks great. It would seem she intentionally didn't list body type or show full body pics to encourage creeps. I'm going to relax now and look forward to having a great time tomorrow.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 UPDATE! Coincidentally she recently added a new pic! I uploaded to album for those who are curious. It's not full body but she's in a bikini, not a one piece, and is definitely thin-average at worst. She probably looks great. It would seem she intentionally didn't list body type or show full body pics to encourage creeps. I'm going to relax now and look forward to having a great time tomorrow. Haha she looks great
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Where I live it's similar. We meet in the city center at a nice cafe (no Starbucks ). I live 20 miles from the guy I am meeting tomorrow. I will do some Easter shopping afterwards if a date is a bust. If it's going well, we can easily move to another venue. Or have a proper second date. I just take the train, it's like 25 mins. No biggie. That's my MO if they are local (except happy hour instead of coffee). So far OLD all but one have been a commute for one of us... The thing is, once you have been through enough HORRIBLE meets, you won't want to risk it again. I once had to flee through the exit next to the toilets. The first OLD dinner date was going so badly, I couldn't stand another second of it :/ I keep hearing that from women (AND men) but so far all 5 have been normal. 3 of them we won't go out again but I don't think either of us considered sneaking out. I guess I've been lucky so far...
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Haha she looks great Hey good luck with the 26-yo! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 That's my MO if they are local (except happy hour instead of coffee). So far OLD all but one have been a commute for one of us... I keep hearing that from women (AND men) but so far all 5 have been normal. 3 of them we won't go out again but I don't think either of us considered sneaking out. I guess I've been lucky so far... That guy was awful. He was Asian and kept asking me if I feel OK with dating an Asian man. I was like yes for the 5th time. (I knew he was Asian from his pics so WTF). He also lied about his height, he was good 3 inches shorter. But the worst thing was that he e-mailed me the menu of that restaurant earlier that day. I didn't have a chance to look at it properly at work. So I was trying to decide what to order. He kept getting angry that I haven't decided what to order earlier because he e-mailed me the menu. He was actually seriously angry. I mean chill dude, WTF. I had to flee 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Hey good luck with the 26-yo! Thanks, he seems really sweet so far
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 WTF is up with Asian men OLD giving us all a bad rep??? One of the girls I met told me this horrific OLD story about a short Asian man who she met for dinner. She's really a sweet-natured girl and I think too nice to say no sometimes. So when he insisted on going clubbing afterwards (even though she was totally not dressed for it) she agreed. She said he was trying WAY too hard to impress all night long (I'm imagining him wearing sunglasses at night). When they danced he kept on trying to bump and grind her and she said she just stood there like a statue in disbelief. When he went to the bathroom, some "sweet old man" (her description) asked her to dance so she did out of politeness. When her date came back he flipped out and started calling her a slut etc... She immediately grabbed her stuff and cabbed it home. She said easily the worst date ever.
ja123 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 UPDATE! Coincidentally she recently added a new pic! I uploaded to album for those who are curious. It's not full body but she's in a bikini, not a one piece, and is definitely thin-average at worst. She probably looks great. It would seem she intentionally didn't list body type or show full body pics to encourage creeps. I'm going to relax now and look forward to having a great time tomorrow. Well, it doesn't seem she is overweight. You can see bones and definition on her back. Have fun tomorrow.
Alma Mobley Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Still mystified by OP's cut-off for height/weight, as he thinks 5'9" and 135lbs is pushing it for attraction, but then denies liking very thin women. 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 I said 135-140 and never denied that I like thin. Also maybe its a West Coast thing, the weather is nice 300 days a year so thin here is CERTAINLY different in East Coast where I grew up...
mesmerized Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 oh you're Asian! That explains the obsession with thin women. 1
veggirl Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Oh I didn't know you had put up photos. She is not fat. Might be pear shaped on her bottom half, maybe she has huge hips or something and she just doesn't like them. But you can tell from all those pics, even the ones that don't show her body at all that she isn't FAT.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I'd be really pissed off if some guy posted all these pics of me on his LS profile, even with the face blocked out. 6
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