joemax Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 (edited) I'll try to make a long story short. I'm 24, my gf who I've been with for a year is 21. She has been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder and is going to counseling for it. When I started a new job back in July, I met this girl there and it was completely platonic. She helped me out a lot in the new job but then my gf started becoming insecure and told me to flat-out stop talking to her. If not for the extreme circumstances I never would have succumbed to her demands but I told her I'd stop talking to her. I basically cut out 75% of contact with the girl from work, the only time I'd talk to her was when I had an issue with my gf and I needed someone to talk to. She seemed like she always understood me, turns out she was borderline herself. A month or so ago my gf found emails on my phone that I had with the girl and flipped $hit obviously, almost broke up with me but I promised her I'd never hide anything from her ever again. I also told her that nothing ever even came close to happening, that the only reason I spoke with her was because I needed to speak to someone who understood. I acknowledged my mistake and apologized repeatedly. Right away I contacted the girl from work and told her we couldn't speak again, not even emails or anything. Since then though, our relationship has been hell. I've been cheated on in past relationships so I have major trust issues. My gf hangs out often with her friends, and lately unless I text or call her first, I rarely ever hear from her. I told her how that makes me feel and how I hate it because it's my ex's did to me constantly, but her reply is always something along the lines of: "What do you expect? I feel distant from you, you lied to me. You need to just learn to trust me and the feeling of connectedness will come back". I told her that all I want is for her to show me that she still cares for me and still has feelings for me, but it seems like it's too hard for her to do. Even now, I texted her while she's with her friends because I just found out a family member was diagnosed with cancer this morning, and she didn't answer for half an hour, so I called and she told me she couldn't talk now and would call me when she stopped driving. It frustrates me to no end and I feel like we're at a dead-end. Don't know what to do here folks... Edited March 28, 2013 by joemax
will1988 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 man you know how to pick 'em, dontchya? two borderline crazy girls? all joking aside... she is exacting her pound of flesh in her mind's eye for your indiscretions, and or this fighting is making her lose interest. If I were you, it seems you are into other girls that may, and that is a big MAY, be better for you... so why not let go of your GF before you hurt her, or yourself even more. You cannot stay with her just because you feel bad for her, you can't be the white knight! end it now before it gets bad, or go to counseling and work it out!
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