Damsel in Distress Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I'm speechless too. I cannot believe the woman you loved turned into such an unrecognizable cruel, self-centered, maybe even delusional!.... I'm sooo sorry. It especially kills me to imagine how hopeful you were (and I would be totally the same!) My thoughts... Wtf!!! Is this what I have been hoping/ dreaming of for months?!? and then to hear this??? There are so many cruel points in this conversation I can't even list them all. She's being truthful to you, not because you deserve truth, but because she wants to please God so she can get this new guy back? Does she also think it will please God that she's cruel enough to tell you just how hard she has fallen for this perfect guy and desperate she is to get him back and even marry him. And to make sure you know she started with him the DAY AFTER she broke up with you/ No, there is nothing normal about it. PLEASE don't forgive her. After I recover from the shock of reading that, the only logical thought I have is that when a dumper calls to come clean I would usually think they are feeling a lot of guilt for how they treated you. However, in this case, she's not feeling guilt - she just wants some help from God and knows she can't get it with a dirty soul. What the? Almost sounds delusional! 1
singme2sleep Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 So I thought all of you would get a laugh/fist clinch/ wanna punch a wall for me out of this story. I had finally...FINALLY!!! Lotsa majority of the sting about thinking about my ex. I was accepting and ready to move on when I wake up this morning to..... 7:10AM missed call" voice message " hey I need to talk to you I have been crying all morning call me before 9." ( I am sleeping) 8:40Am missed call voice mail. " hey I really need to talk to you, I guess I will try you later or something" My thoughts... Wtf!!! Is this what I have been hoping/ dreaming of for months?!? I call her at 9:30 Here is what she was crying about and wanting to talk to me about.... " hey.... I just wanted to tell you I know how you feel now.... I needed to come clean and get some things off my chest. I started seeing a guy the day after we broke up and fell in love with him immediately. He was a mirror image of me. We would do everything together and I would have said yes immediately if he proposed to me. Anyways.. He hurt me and now I know you you feel about me. I just wanted to give you closure. You can now let go of me because I will do anything to get him back..... I feel like i needed to tell you this because i have alot of praying to so that god can give me another chance with him and that I needed to get this out for that to happen." My jaw dropped and i was speechless ..... Can you drive a knife further in to anyone's heart then telling them this? Any feed back on guys? You have my sympathy, that's really really effed up of her!
destroyed4sho Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Good post. Thanks for that! Was very interesting to read. Way is your story by the way? Do you have a thread or what's going on? Bu 8 months ago...about 3 months Nc now? I lost count whatever. I did all the embarrassing stuff begged , pleaded texted about irrevelant crap just to get any response. We did have our share of arguments usually her raging about me.being hurt or trying to talk to her about something. She blamed me for everything and never apologized for anything. She lacked empathy...and suspect she has narcisstic personality disorder as my therapist always told me she did but i never took it seriously. anyway, after 2.5 years she dumps me over text and not.only.that.but puts me down in every level.possible. I think that is what hurt the most. Anyway, I went NC after a while b I just couldnt take it anymore. 2 weeks ago she emails me talking about she misses me, loves me still and wants to be friends and hang out. :-) Even if I was ready to be friends I just couldnt bc the way she ended things was harsh ande put me down so much...why.the.hell would i want to be friends with someone like that??? Trust and respect are not there for a friendship to develop.
GudDude2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 (edited) If you could laugh pain away then you should be in hysterics. I'm hysterical for you. You're story has me so pissed I could be incited to violence, maybe because of a similar situation, but as yet unconfirmed. I suspect on my own part that my ex's sister hooked her up with some dude that she inadvertently went to work for. It was all kinda vague as we were cohabitating at the time. Well not long afterwards she started receiving 'bonuses ' and shortly after that we broke up. In the course of all this I knew something was up, but like I said, all unconfirmed. In your case however, the evil deceit was confirmed in the most selfish, inconsiderate way imaginable. I could hardly contain my impulse for revenge, if to do nothing more than to find out the details of their break up so that I could stick a knife in and saddistically turn the blade in keeping the images of her new ex's actions vivid in her mind. To throw every brick @ her self esteem I could hurl. Reminding her that he will never return to someone like her and insure this by offering the worst advice conceivable under the guise of helping her get him back. I would make her regret picking up that phone & dialing my number, but that's just me. You are clearly a better person than that to just let it go. In the least my standard voice / text reply would have been, "Suck my dick bitch!" Edited March 30, 2013 by GudDude2013 1
OJ loved Nicole Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 "I feel like i needed to tell you this because i have alot of praying to so that god can give me another chance with him and that I needed to get this out for that to happen." Sorry I had to chime in on this one..... she is PURE EVIL!! Her plan: make amends with god, relieve her guilt so god will give her another chance with this guy..... all at your expense!!!! She is evil, selfish, and delusional. I don't know this woman, but I hope god has someone punch her in he face.
Darren Steez Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Thanks mushypeas! Haha it definitely fired me up. I have never been so pissed off. I sure as hell would never want to go back to her now knowing that I would be second choice. Karma got her i guess.... But wow am i still fired up thinking about this. Dude I'm fired up for you...damn. 1
Darren Steez Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 TheFriend this is honestly probably the best thing that could have happened to you. One she gets her Karma, Two you get to see the true her, no BS or sugarcoating, Three she destroyed any hope of you two getting back together even if you wanted it. Delete her number, block her phone etc. She's doing it for ego boost, she's hurting now she needs someone to feed off of. She's sees you as lower status, so she's entitled to poke you with a stick just to get a reaction because she feels you're still into her. Ignore her. Let her do what she wants to do. 3
NewPerspective93 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 (edited) First and foremost, one gets closure from within, not from someone else or an outside source. It's funny how these types of things happen when one is in the realization that moving on is best or better yet, when the person feels as if they've moved on. No, she doesn't know how you feel, since she felt the need to CONTACT you. If she knew you were hurting and still holding on, she wouldn't have done such a thing as contact you to tell you she is not letting go of some other guy. I feel the sting, sorry bro. Wow, I seriously think you dodged a bullet. She had the audacity to say "you can let go of me". Wow. If I were you, I'd be somewhat angry, BUT I wouldn't act on the feeling. Initiate NC if you haven't and don't look back. You deserve to move on. Praying for you buddy, and all the strength to you. It's nothing but sailing from here on out. Cheers. Edited March 30, 2013 by NewPerspective93
destroyed4sho Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 No, she doesn't know how you feel, since she felt the need to CONTACT you. If she knew you were hurting and still holding on, she wouldn't have done such a thing as contact you to tell you she is not letting go of some other guy. I feel the sting, sorry bro. You are right for the most part, assuming she is Normal. However, when a person is not capable of feeling empathy, they can very well do something as cruel as this (and worse), even when they are fully aware that the person is hurting and their action will compound their pain.
Author TheFriend Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 It makes me sick that I had to deal with this girl. I was a true gentleman and a honest to go caring and loving individual to her. Not too sure why she was put in my life but wow. I have never been so angry and emotionally twisted. It's a mixture of pure rage, jealousy, sadness , and happiness. I have never felt suck a coaktail of emotions over a person/ situation. I know if i love her i should be happy for her.... I just don't know if this is the kind of person who deserves me to be happy for them... Thanks for all of the support guys. She is a terrible terrible individual
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