GOD, CHURCH, RELIGION- Does it Matter In Dating, Mate Choosing & Sustaining Relation

[Drseussgrrl]

Agreed except I wouldn't care if it "historically had been a means of controlling people" if I thought it was actually true... Like if on page 20 of the bible Jesus started talking about electricity and micro-organisms or something that was literally impossible to know about during that time period unless he really was God/had divine interaction.

 

I'm a nihilist myself and only reject all religions/faiths/spirtualities because I think they don't make any sense logically...If I thought they did than I would accept them...even if I disagreed with some of the contents (like being against gay marriage when I support it etc)

 

As for the "where do you get morality" comment...Well first off not everyone has morality or a moral compass. Thankfully (for the sake of our species) most people do (and yes I do believe it comes innately) but there are people who has no morality whatsoever....

 

Being religious doesn't make you a moral person. My brother is extremely religious and recently went to jail for beating on his wife and her kid.

[footballfan10]

Being religious doesn't make you a moral person. My brother is extremely religious and recently went to jail for beating on his wife and her kid.

 

Yes of course (like I said I'm an atheist/nihilist who believes that morality is biologically innate for most and nonexistent for a small few)

 

Literally nothing changed in my personal moral code when I became an atheist at the beginning of college. In fact if anything I became slightly more moral...As I became more accepting of others etc. I think most others are the same way.

 

I was just saying that the only thing that made me an atheist was that logically religion doesn't add up. If their was strong evidence for it being true I would believe it regardless of whether it was used to manipulate people or if I didn't agree with the teachings. I approached religion from only one perspective....is it likely to be true or not. Everything else was irrelevant to me.

Edited March 29, 2013 by footballfan10

[chelsea2011]

well 2 women and men can be together in a relationship But if sex is a big part of the formula, THE SINS AGAINST THE BIBLE or any religion is huge. no religion accepts sexual penetration between same sex and most LGBT won't sustain without it. thus, they can be religious, but I am not sure what way. Thus, these groups are complaining of their relationship rights be taken away by those who feel religion comes first in dating and should be out abive their dating interests

 

To the bolded. They can be much like people who are here posting....they take from it what is helpful and "rings" true to them and discard the rest.

 

Religion is a funny thing. People can get caught up in the rituals and forget that it is the "sins" they really need to address. For instance, a married woman who is "Catholic" is making plans with her "lover" for dinner and insists on "fish" because it's Friday. Meanwhile meeting her "lover" can, in essense, make her world crumble and devastate A LOT of innocent people. Hmm...

[mortensorchid]

FIrstly, whatever one's faith is growing up (if one existed at all), shapes the person for who they are today. Whether they are practicing or not, it does make a major difference in who you are.

 

Second, there is a difference between being religious and being zealous. Would anyone be comfortable seeing a person who is screaming on soapbox on a street corner, let alone sitting across the dinner table from them? Those people are zealous, and to them religion is what they are passionate about. These people are psychos.

 

All that aside, there are two kinds of faith for the "layfolk" : kindergarden faith and spirituality. What are they? Kindergarden faith is a person who feels guilt and remorse over the smallest things, use their religious beliefs to justify their bad behaviors, and like to think that they are better than others because of their wisdom. Years ago, I was with this man who was a devout Catholic. He felt guilt about the smallest things, it was almost ridiculous. He had an obsessive love for a former girlfriend (which he didn't mind sharing with me), and felt extreme guilt about having sex. We had a terrible falling out (via email I might add because he was too chicken to call and tell me this on the phone) when I said it was high time that he came to my city to see me (we were LTR) after a year of being together. He said he would forever be in mourning over the other girlfriend, he is a terrible person, and he was then going to become a priest. I found him on Facebook a while ago. He has been married for the last 10 years to some other woman he met after me. Needless to say, he was/is a hypocritical p****. Ask him what he thinks? I guess he has an answer for that, just as long as he stays away from me.

 

Sorry about the rant on that one, but he opened my eyes to how others tend to use religion as their crutch or excuse as their behaviors. Since then, I have given up on religious people and what it's all about to them. I am in the secular world, and rather happy going moment to moment without worrying about what would Jesus do or some nonsense like that.

[irc333]

It doesn't matter, I"m a Christian man, but not an overly zealous one. There was this one woman in my church, attractive, probably the ONLY single lady in the church.....well, I've known this because I've seen her dating profile, and attmepted to ask her to lunch after church, only to have her tell me our age differences were to great (by only 5 years, yeah right lol)

 

Recently, I saw her at an art festival and approached her to say hello.....talk about complete Ice Witch. lol....Hadnt seen her in a while at church so, she gives gave me short, curt answers...then some scumbaggy looking Hobo guy shows up next to her, puts his hand on her waist and gives me a dirty look.

 

She's dated non-Christians before, I met most women who have....Christians even date people of a secular background, because their attraction to them outweighs any Christian beliefs they already have.

 

 

 

ok, god, religion, and church. many people say you have to have come relationship, but this has been proven wrong with the LGBT and many mates doing well without such.

 

I going to be brief and wonder, does god, religion, and church matter in dating or would you go with one that was educated, high income, sexy and attractive, great personality and nice, and everything else but not into this