pra09chm Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Currently seeing a guy casually - first time I met him, I didn't pay him much attention and thought his friend was good looking. (I wasn't attracted to his friend, but he is a good looking guy). Next time we're out for a mates birthday and the guy i'm seeing and I hook up after he pesters me all night We've been keeping it casual and I think he likes me but he's hard to figure out. I was winding him up about me fancying his friend (I don't really). I was surprised because he seemed to get quite worked up over it, saying he wasn't that good looking and that he could be a bit of a "knob". He seemed to be pretty jealous, which surprised me, so I just laughed it off and told him I wasn't attracted to his friend really and was only winding him up. Do guys find it annoying when girls do this? Should I keep poking fun of him and make jokes about how ive had to settle for him instead of his mate, as long as he knows i'm kidding? I make fun of him over lots of other things and he seems to find it funny generally!
will1988 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Currently seeing a guy casually - first time I met him, I didn't pay him much attention and thought his friend was good looking. (I wasn't attracted to his friend, but he is a good looking guy). Next time we're out for a mates birthday and the guy i'm seeing and I hook up after he pesters me all night We've been keeping it casual and I think he likes me but he's hard to figure out. I was winding him up about me fancying his friend (I don't really). I was surprised because he seemed to get quite worked up over it, saying he wasn't that good looking and that he could be a bit of a "knob". He seemed to be pretty jealous, which surprised me, so I just laughed it off and told him I wasn't attracted to his friend really and was only winding him up. Do guys find it annoying when girls do this? Should I keep poking fun of him and make jokes about how ive had to settle for him instead of his mate, as long as he knows i'm kidding? I make fun of him over lots of other things and he seems to find it funny generally! I know, me personally, I do not like it when my girls joke about setteling with me instead of my friends. So my answer is this... if you truly like him and want to pursue this further and not have him run off on you, I would competely stop the BS about his friend. 8
iamawesome Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Keep the teasing lighthearted. If he gets worked up it might be a bit much. One thing to consider...you don't know the history between him and his friends. It's possible to tread on something sensitive without knowing. For example, maybe him and that particular friend got into a fight over the same girl before? Cheers 1
MrCastle Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I don't tolerate that on any level. Jokingly or not. I would never do that to a woman ever. That's a one way ticket to dumpsville. 8
Author pra09chm Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 Keep the teasing lighthearted. If he gets worked up it might be a bit much. One thing to consider...you don't know the history between him and his friends. It's possible to tread on something sensitive without knowing. For example, maybe him and that particular friend got into a fight over the same girl before? Cheers That's a good point, never even crossed my mind! I'll leave out those kinda jokes in future then!
Treasa Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 (edited) Yeeeeah, you don't joke around about things like that. One time I had a boyfriend who said, "Wow, your cousin is as hot as you," (in a creepy way) and I tossed him out. Edited March 28, 2013 by Treasa 5
InJest Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 You know what you were doing. You wanted to see if you'd get a jealous reaction from him. You did. Congratulations. Still doesn't mean he wants your for more than just a ****. 7
Archgirl Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) I would completely cut off a guy who had the disrespect to mention other women to me. It is manipulative, cruel and contemptuous. Added to which if I am not clearly the most desirable/special/unique, I don't want them. It completely kills my interest and my trust. How would you feel? I think applying a bit of empathy to such questions is probably in order. OTT seance? Edited March 29, 2013 by Archgirl 3
Poppy fields Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 You want to charm him by doing things to make him jealous disguised as kidding? Good plan. I think you are getting off on this guy maybe showing some possessiveness of you. Look how I can make him jealous. Does that turn you on? 2
kaylan Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 OP, if this guy had any high respect for himself like I do....I would have put you solely in the FWB zone from here on out. Id never be able to trust that you didnt want my friend and were only settling for me. Hell, theres a good chance Id have kick you to the curb and ignored you. When you like someone, you make sure they know you ONLY like them. You may have shot yourself in the foot here. 2
ThaWholigan Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Even the most secure of men would think that's a bit odd. That's not the best joke to play - at least play it later on in a really serious relationship where there is enough comfort to joke around like that with each other and even then, with friends it's kinda peak. I wouldn't make jokes like that, this kinda banter doesn't go over well with guys. 3
phineas Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I don't tolerate that on any level. Jokingly or not. I would never do that to a woman ever. That's a one way ticket to dumpsville. Yep. I can promise you other friends who witness this will not be impressed with you at all. Hooking up with him but saying you like the other friend? u wot m8? 2
Treasa Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Even the most secure of men would think that's a bit odd. That's not the best joke to play - at least play it later on in a really serious relationship where there is enough comfort to joke around like that with each other and even then, with friends it's kinda peak. I wouldn't make jokes like that, this kinda banter doesn't go over well with guys. It doesn't go over well with girls, either. And even if the person is the most confident person in the world, that kind of behavior is just tacky and classless. 2
Estate Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Currently seeing a guy casually - first time I met him, I didn't pay him much attention and thought his friend was good looking. (I wasn't attracted to his friend, but he is a good looking guy). Next time we're out for a mates birthday and the guy i'm seeing and I hook up after he pesters me all night We've been keeping it casual and I think he likes me but he's hard to figure out. I was winding him up about me fancying his friend (I don't really). I was surprised because he seemed to get quite worked up over it, saying he wasn't that good looking and that he could be a bit of a "knob". He seemed to be pretty jealous, which surprised me, so I just laughed it off and told him I wasn't attracted to his friend really and was only winding him up. Do guys find it annoying when girls do this? Should I keep poking fun of him and make jokes about how ive had to settle for him instead of his mate, as long as he knows i'm kidding? I make fun of him over lots of other things and he seems to find it funny generally! I'd find it quite disrespectful and make you come across like you get around. I'm just giving you MY view of a girl doing this. If this guy met your friends and spent the whole time staring at your friends breasts or flirting with her how would you feel? If you're with him, you're with him. If his friend is good looking then he's probably used to that guy getting the most attention in the group so if he has met a girl and she starts flirting with HIM as soon as he introduces you, it'll only compound the frustration. Pretty bad of you.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Currently seeing a guy casually - first time I met him, I didn't pay him much attention and thought his friend was good looking. (I wasn't attracted to his friend, but he is a good looking guy). Next time we're out for a mates birthday and the guy i'm seeing and I hook up after he pesters me all night We've been keeping it casual and I think he likes me but he's hard to figure out. I was winding him up about me fancying his friend (I don't really). I was surprised because he seemed to get quite worked up over it, saying he wasn't that good looking and that he could be a bit of a "knob". He seemed to be pretty jealous, which surprised me, so I just laughed it off and told him I wasn't attracted to his friend really and was only winding him up. Do guys find it annoying when girls do this? Should I keep poking fun of him and make jokes about how ive had to settle for him instead of his mate, as long as he knows i'm kidding? I make fun of him over lots of other things and he seems to find it funny generally! Why don't you just break up with this guy and go for the friend? You obviously like the friend better (otherwise you wouldn't be saying these things to him) and he knows it. Hopefully this guy has some self-respect and will run (not walk) away from you.
AD1980 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Why would you do that? It's wrong no matter what but you also dont know what hes been through One of my good looking friends always gets women and there have been women whove stepped over me to get to him if i finally got a girl and she made comments like that id figure its matter of time till she cheats on me with him
SmileFace Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Do you know how pissed you will be if he did the same to you? Why would you do this -_- Women logic... Smh 2
hurst9 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I don't understand what goes through the head of some ppl.SMH..if any girl said those things to me, her ass would be kicked to the curb so fast, I don't understand why you would even think saying on how you settled for him is even remotely funny or acceptable, it just rude and thoughtless. I think you need to grow up, how old are you 12?
Chief Wiggum Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 You want to charm him by doing things to make him jealous disguised as kidding? Good plan. I think you are getting off on this guy maybe showing some possessiveness of you. Look how I can make him jealous. Does that turn you on? I agree with this. Teasing him about fancying one of his friends, serves no purpose other than to seek pleasure in a guy getting jealous over you. And the worst thing is, you're using his friend as the subject! That's just a ****ty thing to do. If it was a stranger or a celebrity on TV, then yeah, I could see the fun side of it. But one of his friends who he has a history with and who you yourself are likely to see every now and again when you hang out? That's inconsiderate. Oh, it's also worth me mention that what you're doing can fuel resentment from him towards his friend. As evident by him already slagging him off when trying to battle your jokes. Seriously, cut that **** out. It's bad enough that you actually do fancy him (yeah, I know you said you didn't, but who are you kidding).
Woggle Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 If a woman did that I would dump her so fast her head would spin.
AngelDouche66 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 So you are basically planting a seed that if you do end up forming a relationship he will possibly think back and then possibly begin having doubts. Men love it when you tell them how much better their friends are, having the feeling that she is going to leave them for one of their friends makes it all the more exciting. Absolutely not!
zanzi Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 um. if someone did that to me I'd think they were a tool.
Emissary Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 No, it's a bitch move and makes guys feel insecure.
todreaminblue Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Currently seeing a guy casually - first time I met him, I didn't pay him much attention and thought his friend was good looking. (I wasn't attracted to his friend, but he is a good looking guy). Next time we're out for a mates birthday and the guy i'm seeing and I hook up after he pesters me all night We've been keeping it casual and I think he likes me but he's hard to figure out. I was winding him up about me fancying his friend (I don't really). I was surprised because he seemed to get quite worked up over it, saying he wasn't that good looking and that he could be a bit of a "knob". He seemed to be pretty jealous, which surprised me, so I just laughed it off and told him I wasn't attracted to his friend really and was only winding him up. Do guys find it annoying when girls do this? Should I keep poking fun of him and make jokes about how ive had to settle for him instead of his mate, as long as he knows i'm kidding? I make fun of him over lots of other things and he seems to find it funny generally! would you find it funny if he continually did the same thing to you?..saying how he settled for you instead of a girlfriend and addign i am kidding but....you know i really did....nah im kidding ...but he is hot hahahahaha....i think it would get old pretty quickly if not instantly.......deb
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