calgary Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 she called me 'man' too, in online messaging. never in person. but still i'd say that's game over, she doesn't see me in a romantic way? am I looking into things too much? I just got out of a relationship 3 months ago so i'm useless right now at this.. she asked me to go out with her Saturday night before we meet her friends . i'm quite excited about it. I've met her twice and it seemed like there was a connection but we were always around friends.. so for her to ask me to go have some drinks with her before meeting her friends sounds promising right ? it's just I got called dude in a text... i'm sure that's a sure sign of the friendzone. Maybe i'm looking into things too much because it's been a while since I've been single.
iKING Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 It really depends on the girl, "dude" may seem friend-zoneish, but It's not an absolute. There could be many, many other reasons for it. It could just be a regular part of her vocabulary, or she may be trying to throw you off a bit. Just go with her to get drinks, It's a good sign she's asking you to go out and do something with her, roll with it.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Definitely not a good thing, but if she wants to spend Saturday night with you that is a good sign. At 3 dates you should go in for a kiss and see how she responds. Good luck
ChatroomHero Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I don't think it necessarily means friendzone. A friend of mine was with his gf and I a couple of weeks ago and she kept referring to him with his last name by calling him "Mr. XXX", but it was in a playful way. I wouldn't read anything into it. She asked you for drinks before meeting with the friends so to me that would be a good sign 10 times more meaningful than something as minor as calling you "dude". Some things you can read and some things you can't. Concentrate on her invite as something you can read, and it is a good sign. 1
carhill Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I'd be more concerned about the speedy meeting of her friends versus the 'dude' comment. That said, 'hanging out' seems to be a more common path to romance for the younger generations so maybe it's a tempest in a teapot. I'd suggest having a good time without any outcome dependency thoughts. Good luck.
Author calgary Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 we're talking constantly online. every night for hours, she replies instantly but again maybe i'm looking into things too much but that seems promising too right ? I guess i'll just go along tomorrow night and see how it goes, i'm pretty nervous as I haven't really had to make a move in 2 years with having a comfortable relationship so all the 'dude' and 'man' has knocked my confidence a little more. is there any subtle ways I can show interest without coming on to her too hard ? I don't want to look like a friend.. but at the same time I don't want to make bold moves if I am friend zoned. so nervous about this as I really like her and I don't know what im doing anymore ! maybe I should just let the liquor do the talking.
youaremysunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 It's possible that she just says it a lot. My boyfriend calls me dude or man often (I'm female) at first I didnt know what to make of it, but I don't think it means anything
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