crustyjojo Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 So I'm in first week of NC with guy who just broke up with me and desperately trying to put my life back together. utterly devestated. A previous boyfriend, who I broke up with because he would not deal with is alcoholism has been sending me emails. I asked him really nicely to leave me alone and he said he would respect my wishes. BUT now I get another email this morning. I know he is reaching out to me bacause he cares and probably looking for a chance for us to reconcile. What do I do? My head is telling me to ask him again to leave me alone and respect my wishes, and I know I am feeling desperately lonely. But I wonder if I should take up the olive branch and just chat. OMG this is seriously screwing with my head at a time when I really dont need it - HELP!
destroyed4sho Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 gettig back with an alchy is a bad idea...unless he has recovered.
Amelie1980 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 If he's recovered and you still have feelings for him. Why not.
Author crustyjojo Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 gettig back with an alchy is a bad idea...unless he has recovered. I have absolutely no intention of going back with him. I also dont want to give him any hope either - it would not be fair. I'm trying to work out whether I should ask him to leave me alone - or whether to just accept the olive branch and chat - but I dont want to be doing it just because I am lonely.
Cogee Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 If you have no intention of getting back with him then any communication you have with him needs to establish that firmly. The timing of it with the break up probably means he either wants to reconcile, or he just wants to make you feel better. You would know best based on his communications what his intentions are.
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