Ruby Slippers Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I feel so out of my depth in this thread - I know f*ck all about shoes . Ah well, it's not often I feel out of my depth - it's new knowledge. Don't change
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 It's not about price, it's about how he puts himself together. I am lucky in that my man has impeccable taste! He has even picked out clothes for me and has never failed.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 That being said... I am a boots or heels kind of woman. Unless I'm running errands, then it's my Adidas.... I have probably gotten hit on in those more than anything else.
2sunny Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 My exH wore great shoes - very expensive. Too bad they didn't come with a warning sign to other women "the guy in these shoes is a perpetual cheater"!
Author irc333 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 (edited) WOW, this thread has really taken off. lol....interesting. Anyhow, to follow-up on this woman that posted this in her profile, she followed it up with that she's a girly girl, and prefers "room service" and "the finer things in life" (typical buzzwords I've seen in profiles, usually of women) I get a kick out of the new selections you can pick for yourself now on POF....I see some of them referring to themselves as "Fashionistas", I usually don't mesh up well with those types. Edited March 29, 2013 by irc333
Aerrie Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Well as a "native" speaker, saying you COULD care less when it's supposed to be COULDN'T is VERY common and MOST people say the latter. I used to until I learned it was wrong. Thanks for the english lesson! Uhm, did you mean to say the former? If you meant the latter, you are sort of contradicting your point. I am confused Anyway, I followed this up on page 3 or 4 with more explanation. I will just paste it: It is not about a typo, everyone makes typos. The line you used is widely used in this way. Especially by teenagers who cannot be bothered to type the full thing ("could not"). For many of us around the Internet, it has become an equal annoyance to things like SWAG, YOLO, GANGHAM STYLE and such. In any case, I did not mean to offend you, but maybe my message will save you some disrespect later on Sorry for off-topic everyone.
veggirl Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Guys should wear those slip on dress type shoes that Lonely Ronin posted. Those are the kind of shoes my bf wears, with jeans and a button down shirt. Looks great. I hate hate hate hiking type boots (any type of boots really) on guys. I also hate flip flops on guys. Dark sneakers are fine for running to the store and whatnot but for going out to dinner or anything else, wear the loafer type slip ons. I am way into clothing/shoes. I personally own one pair of sneakers and the rest is boots and heels and sandals (I hate flip flops on girls too unless you're at the pool). Yes I look at guys shoes. They can make or break your outfit.
TheBigQuestion Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Sure, a guy wearing flip flops on a date isn't going to be appealing. But too metrosexual is just as bad to me. I think many of the images of men that guys have posted here look flamingly gay. It even turns me off when men name specific shoe and clothing types that even I don't know. Just sounds very girly and unmasculine to me. My sentiments exactly. Being uber-metro, like many of the pictures posted in this thread, would in my experience turn off many more women than it would turn on. And I say that as someone who has spent plenty of time in major metropolitan areas. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Sure, a guy wearing flip flops on a date isn't going to be appealing. But too metrosexual is just as bad to me. I think many of the images of men that guys have posted here look flamingly gay. It even turns me off when men name specific shoe and clothing types that even I don't know. Just sounds very girly and unmasculine to me. Lol Ruby, remind me to post some time about my hobbies that have the potential for being set on fire, dismemberment or death. I have been called a lot of things in my life, but unmasculine has never been one of them.
SteveC80 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 My sentiments exactly. Being uber-metro, like many of the pictures posted in this thread, would in my experience turn off many more women than it would turn on. And I say that as someone who has spent plenty of time in major metropolitan areas. BS i got compliments plenty of times and dont struggle to get dates..Tons of women like a well dressed well groomed man. The ones who dont appreciate it proably dont put much thought or time into their appereance so they dont mind a partner who doesnt either.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Lol Ruby, remind me to post some time about my hobbies that have the potential for being set on fire, dismemberment or death. I have been called a lot of things in my life, but unmasculine has never been one of them. I didn't mean to offend. But seriously, some of these outfits to me look like they belong on women: http://www.fashionbangalore.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/shah-rukh-khan.jpg http://media-cache-ec6.pinterest.com/upload/229965124692462328_amxwMtrJ_c.jpg http://cdn101.iofferphoto.com/img3/item/525/053/586/hot-men-s-stylish-woolen-cardigan-sweater-shirt-coats-88ed.jpg I think those outfits would look great on my gay best friend Makes me think of a stuffy French fop: http://www.siue.edu/COSTUMES/images/PLATE60DX.JPG
Keenly Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I wear what I feel comfortable in. Jeans, Button up collared shirt, white undershirt, skate shoes.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Makes me think of a stuffy French fop: http://www.siue.edu/COSTUMES/images/PLATE60DX.JPG These are more my style, lol I probably own half this stuff. It took a while for my style to evolve, but most of my female friends will say I am my style. http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0336286_149C1?qlt=90,0&op_sharpen=1&resMode=bicub&maskUse=norm&rgn=0,0,0,0&align=0,-1 http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0044297_755C1?$mainImage$&wid=400&hei=496&qlt=90,0&op_sharpen=0&resMode=bicub&maskUse=norm http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0336288_500C1?$canvas$&wid=500&hei=500&fmt=jpeg http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41CdmZ0upiL.jpg http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0044240_755C1?$canvas$&wid=1001&hei=1001&fmt=jpeg http://s9.thisnext.com/media/largest_dimension/BF71D379.jpg http://livingthecollegelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/gap_standard.jpg http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/4/optimized/1291624_fpx.tif?$filtermed$&wid=164 http://s7d4.scene7.com/is/image/BonTon/566457?$ibm_large$ http://s7d4.scene7.com/is/image/BonTon/563998?$ibm_large$
USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I go by two "rules": 1. Shoes should be appropriate with the outfit, e.g., no sneakers with a suit. 2. One pair of good quality shoes > three pairs of lower quality shoes. Note: rule 2 applies with all clothing Note: rule 2 applies with everything.
KungFuJoe Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 No discussion about shoes is complete with talking about the most important part of all. Shoe trees! Get some good shoe trees for your nice boots, dress shoes. You don't need one for every pair...just get two pairs...put them in when you first take your shoes off and they can be removed the next day. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 These are more my style... Much better! Those clothes look male, nice, comfortable, and not foppish or feminine to me. 1
TheBigQuestion Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 BS i got compliments plenty of times and dont struggle to get dates..Tons of women like a well dressed well groomed man. The ones who dont appreciate it proably dont put much thought or time into their appereance so they dont mind a partner who doesnt either. Being well-dressed and well-groomed doesn't equal being over-the-top and effeminate, which is what many (but not all) of the outfits pictured in this thread clearly are.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Being well-dressed and well-groomed doesn't equal being over-the-top and effeminate, which is what many (but not all) of the outfits pictured in this thread clearly are. lol, I sense much insecurity in you.......
TheBigQuestion Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 lol, I sense much insecurity in you....... How do you figure? I'm not advocating leaving the house looking like a bum or wearing dirty, ill-fitting clothes, nor am I saying that one should be clueless as to how to dress in certain social environments. I'm not even saying that women are wrong to judge men by their fashion choices within reason. I'm simply pointing out that many of the outfits posted in this thread (except for the most recent post you contributed) are ones that I've rarely seen straight men wear. Of course women's opinions will differ, but I can't count the sheer number of times I've heard women make negative comments about certain men's fashion choices being too metro or effeminate, many of these coming from women who themselves are fairly style conscious. That's my experience, take it for what it is, but it's quite presumptive of you to assume that it has anything to do with "insecurity."
dasein Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Anyone remember that old show "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy?" I try to avoid clothes that look like they may have been suggested by a gay man, and find there is a happy medium. To the topic, my success with women went up significantly once I stopped wearing sneakers other than to the gym or outdoor exercise, and started wearing more grown up men's shoes. YMMV
normal person Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Women may not judge you on your shoes but they might look at them as a pretty good gauge of your finances, taste, etc. Probably not much different than your car, house, clothes, etc. A lot of nice things are bought to shape others' opinions. shoes like these go very well with jeans. http://www.dsw.com/shoe/stacy+adams+halford+slip-on?prodId=271025&category=dsw12cat1970004&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 http://www.dsw.com/shoe/stacy+adams+danton+slip-on?prodId=166068&category=dsw12cat1970004&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 http://www.dsw.com/shoe/sandro+moscoloni+arthur+slip-on?prodId=105611&category=dsw12cat1970004&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 http://www.dsw.com/shoe/rockport+men%27s+aachen+slip-on?prodId=252885&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 http://www.dsw.com/shoe/mike+konos+leather+penny+loafer?prodId=258469&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 I suppose everyone's got different tastes. I would never wear any of those. If a girl would be the kind to judge you on your shoes, I imagine most of the stuff coming from DSW would leave her pretty unimpressed. DSW is about one rung on the ladder above Pay Less. A nice shape and high quality leather is what will probably earn a girl's approval. Allen Edmonds, Cole Haan (not the crazy colors), and Bally are probably decent places to start a search. I would expect to pay $150-200 minimum for an accolade-earning pair. As for style, I don't think younger guys can pull off loafers as well as older guys. I think oxfords and wingtips are just fine. Monkstraps too if you can pull them off. But as I said, everyone's got different tastes.
KungFuJoe Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 DSW is not one rung above Payless. DSW is actually decent for the price. But yeah, if you got a bit of money to spend, you're better off getting Allen Edmonds, Red Wings, etc. For those on a budget, nothing wrong with DSW, Saks off Fifth, Nordstrom Rack, etc.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I would never wear any of those. If a girl would be the kind to judge you on your shoes, I imagine most of the stuff coming from DSW would leave her pretty unimpressed. DSW is about one rung on the ladder above Pay Less. A nice shape and high quality leather is what will probably earn a girl's approval. I would expect to pay $150-200 minimum for an accolade-earning pair. It's not the price most of the women I know are paying attention to, it's the style. And just like with cars, when you go all expensive and flash, you get into "what is he trying to make up for" territory. Have you been to DSW? They sell stuff like this as well. http://www.dsw.com/shoe/antonio+maurizi+pantoliano+double+monk+slip-on?prodId=273223&activeCats=cat20192,dsw12cat1970004 The women in my social circle love DSW, the nearest one is over 2 hours away, and they will take shopping trips specifically so they can go to DSW.
USMCHokie Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 The women in my social circle love DSW, the nearest one is over 2 hours away, and they will take shopping trips specifically so they can go to DSW. The women's selection at DSW is considerably better than the men's selection. It's a decent place to get started and browse the different styles that are out there, but I find they are very limited in what they have to offer.
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