westjames111 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 (edited) seriously.. I went to Atlanta today to a concert with my mom and the last time I was there was the summer before last with my ex. Of course we had to park right next to the hotel we stayed and and walked a lot of the same paths we took when I was with my ex. We even had to eat at the same restaurant I ate at with her while there. TALK ABOUT A TRIP DOWN MEMORY LANE. I tried to enjoy myself but this lingered in the back of my mind all day. Maybe because that trip I took with the ex was one of my favorite times we had together. I was doing so much better last week, and now this week I am back in the dumps. I guess this is the kinds of things that happen after a 2 1/2 year relationship and it only being 2 months out. It might be because she broke the no contact this week, and even though i didn't reply its still on my mind. This sucks. I know everyone has things that remind them of their ex, but will time make these things bearable to look at or do again without me going back to those thoughts, or am I always doomed to think back? Edited March 28, 2013 by westjames111
lilmisscantbewrong Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 It is probably a combination of all of those things. For awhile I would stop at parks we had walked in or go to restaurants we had eaten in and I would justify it by saying I was blowing out old ghosts. In the end, it was not healthy at all for me so I began to avoid those places the best I could. Unfortunately I couldn't always avoid driving by those places, but I could avoid going in or stopping by. I think part of me felt closer to him when I walked where we used to walk, etc. Anyway, three years later it is better but because our connection was so deep, I could go to a concert and see a band that we didn't even share together and I would instantly think "he would love this". I could go to a particular restaurant that we had never set foot in together and something would probably remind me of him. I know how you feel. I would say for the time being, try to stay out of familiar locations and do something completely different, eat new places, etc. there will come a time when it will be easier. And stay no contact - that truly is the key.
Author westjames111 Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 We have been so many places it is hard to avoid them all. Even places that you would think wouldn't matter do. Like you said some places I just cant avoid. I hope in 3 years I am not still thinking of her.
Damaged23 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Don't worry. You won't be thinking about her in 3 years, and if you do it won't hurt. For now, sadly, time is all you have. Try to avoid the places as much as you can, and when you can't, realize it is okay to feel sad or think about her. Just don't dwell on it.. It will get better!!! Have faith. Time helps! Best of luck!!
Rocky road Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 I know how you feel. My break up of five years (lived together for four) ended in Feb and it is a long story. Ultimately I moved to a new state just to avoid the house, the places we went to, the mutual friends, etc. She moved to a new state and I am sure that helped her a lot, why cant I? Anyways, I could not bear it and left and u may want to move as well depending on your situation for now.
Author westjames111 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 I know how you feel. My break up of five years (lived together for four) ended in Feb and it is a long story. Ultimately I moved to a new state just to avoid the house, the places we went to, the mutual friends, etc. She moved to a new state and I am sure that helped her a lot, why cant I? Anyways, I could not bear it and left and u may want to move as well depending on your situation for now. Unfortunately that isn't an option as I am in my final semester of college. I can see how it would help a lot though, a fresh start.
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