NP1975 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I've met this girl a few times now. We get on very well. We've been intimate, not full sex, a twice, usually after a meeting in a bar. Now while I do like her, I've only just ended a long relationship about a month and half before we hooked up. I suspect she wants a full blown relationship which I can't give her, at least not any time soon. She's Facebooked with a friend request. Now she's sent her phone number. How do I tell her it's not serious without hurting her? Help!
blotter Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Uhhh, why don't you just tell her straight forward and honestly? If she is hurt, she is hurt. Better that than beading around the bush wasting her time and yours. Tell her what your expectations are and what you are willing to offer in the relationship, you know, like just looking to date, not exclusively, or whatever. 1
anne1707 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Uhhh, why don't you just tell her straight forward and honestly? If she is hurt, she is hurt. Better that than beading around the bush wasting her time and yours. Tell her what your expectations are and what you are willing to offer in the relationship, you know, like just looking to date, not exclusively, or whatever. This and BEFORE you are next intimate with her. Give her the chance to decide how much she is prepared to invest in you before it is too late.
Amelie1980 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I've met this girl a few times now. We get on very well. We've been intimate, not full sex, a twice, usually after a meeting in a bar. Now while I do like her, I've only just ended a long relationship about a month and half before we hooked up. I suspect she wants a full blown relationship which I can't give her, at least not any time soon. She's Facebooked with a friend request. Now she's sent her phone number. How do I tell her it's not serious without hurting her? Help! In future don't use people to suit your own needs. You knew you were not emotionally available and did not want a relationship but that didn't stop from getting intimate with another woman to suit your own needs and no one else's. Other people have needs and feelings just as you do. You should have been honest from the start and told her you were fresh out of a relationship. Just don't reply to the Facebook message and be honest with her next time
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