Are some people just horrible texters or does it always mean very low interest?

[Michelle83]

So in a previous thread, it was pretty much established that the guy I've been seeing over the last 4 months is looking more for a hookup or possible fwb situation than a relationship.

 

I've come to terms with this. The warning signs were there, I ignored, so it's partly my fault.

 

It got me thinking and right now, I could be okay with this. I don't think after the last bit I would even want to be in a relationship with him...and I have a lot going on in my life I don't think I'll be putting too much effort into meeting new people on OLD until things settled down.

 

That said, this guy is the absolute worst texter. I've pretty much backed off now as I thought after I told him I wanted to hang out too and not just come here, fool around, and that's it...he'd walk away.

 

But today he texts me and asks how my day is. I responded, took about half an hour as I was busy with something else at the time, but then he doesn't respond back...at all.

 

This happens a lot, even before we talked about the whole hook-up/hang out issue. Are some people just that bad at texting?

 

I mean, he texted me. I could see if I texted him... I treat my friends better than that. I may be slow at times and not as fast as I would be with a bf, but I still answer.

 

Or is it just that is he is so completely uninterested that he could care less?

 

I just don't really get it. Even if he's just playing me...I'd still expect a bit more effort.

[MidwestUSA]

He may be "mass texting", sending the same message out to 12 women to see who replies. Maybe he chats with whomever answers first or whose pants he thinks he has the best chance of getting into anytime soon. Sorry if this sounds negative, but I've seen it happen (and finally decided I needed to be one who didn't respond at all. )

[Keenly]

Some people are just bad at texting. My room mate and my friend from work so not understand how to text girls, so its possible.

[normal person]

Yes, some people are horrible at it. A girl I'm hanging out with now is awful. She'll give instantaneous responses sometimes, then take days and respond other times. After a lack of response I told her that I was just going to take the hint and leave her alone... then a few days later she responds to everything all at once with a vehement apology and explanation saying how busy she is with work, travel preparations and whatnot and that we should hang out in a week and a half when she gets back from Ireland. Go figure.

[StanMusial]

Don't take this the wrong way, but if 83 is your birth year surely you know better than messing around like this?

[Michelle83]

Thanks for the replies. I guess it's a little comforting to know that it could be a slim possibility. It just seems odd for him to text first and then not respond.

 

I did think of the mass text thing...that sucks to think about that, but you could be very right.

 

And yeah, I've about had enough of him after all this. We have so much fun in person and together but outside of that it's complete opposite.

[Cutiepie1976]

So in a previous thread, it was pretty much established that the guy I've been seeing over the last 4 months is looking more for a hookup or possible fwb situation than a relationship.

 

Unfortunately for you, he'll be a responsive texter you when he's interested in hooking up again. Until then, he'll likely do the bare minimum to keep the line of communication open. Given the pattern of your texts, where he texts you something generic then is silent when you respond, I agree that these are likely "spam" texts to all the women he's stringing along. Some ignore him. Some don't. He's can't and/or doesn't have the inclination to respond back to all the responders.

 

My advice: please stop expecting the responsiveness of someone invested and interested in pursuing a potential relationship with you. Also, please make sure that you are indeed okay with being one of his casual hookups if you end up deciding to continue.