tricks are for nicks Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 first, some background; my girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half with 2 breaks throughout. one for only a week, the second for two months. before that, her and I were really close friends. we had an incredibly deep and intimate relationship that recently ended. im going into boot camp for the Marine Corps in two weeks and I decided that even though she was willing to wait, I'd let her go so that the two of us could move on and be happy living our own lives instead of having to deal with the hardships of distance and unpredictability, a choice she disagreed with and was hurt by. I would always reach a point where I wonder if the grass is greener on the other side, the cause of our last breakup. however I always find myself back with her. now I regret the decision to end it, despite how right it felt at the time. I can't stand the thought of her with someone else and frankly myself with anyone else either. i still care deeply for her and I know I still love her, but I'm incredibly confused on what's best. I miss not only the intimacy, the support, and having more than a shallow relationship, but I miss her as a person; my best friend. either A.) move on in time and be single and strong on my own in the military, or B.) chase her down in the time I have, win her back, and make it work despite the distance. any advice would be greatly appreciated..
Cogee Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Tell her exactly how you feel and the doubts you are having about a long distance relationship. Talk open and honestly with each other to determine if you think it will work and things you can do to make it work. Make sure you both understand that a long distance relationship requires two parties putting in strong and equal effort or it will fail. I have to admit your story struck a chord with me because something very similar happened to me. Eventually we talked it out and decided to give it a try. Sadly, it didn't work out in the end but at least I can look back and say we tried.
lastresort Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 go with your heart. If you love her let her know, don't go through life with the thought of what could have been. You will be in San Diego and if it doesnt work out there is plenty of tail for you to chase. Be a proud Marine and protect us, thank you for your future service!!!
Marine0311 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Hey dude, listen up and listen good. I just got out of the Marine Corps and dated my high school sweet heart throughout it. Ive deployed to Afghan, been in the ****, was in 3/3 India Co. Had the best years/ worst years of my life. Now that I am out, i miss the marine corps more than anything.. especially the friends I made. Youre about to embark on the journey of your lifetime. If youre a grunt you will have the craziest four years of your life. If youre a POG than you suck and shouldve been infantry! Heres some girl advice.. Let it be, if she truly loves you itll be fine. You will be so busy in bootcamp your mind will be off her, except at night time and senior DI square away time and firewatch (youll know about those in about 3-4 weeks). You will be home in 4 months for 10 days and I guarantee when she sees you in your blues shell pantyless in your bedroom that night brother. If its meant to be, itll be. I will say, having a long distance gf while in the fleet was awesome but sucked. It was awesome because I had her when i got leave, to write on deployment, and to fly her out to come enjoy paradise wth me. It sucked because I missed out on plenty of beautiful women, great times, and experiencing being a young wreckless marine. The Marine Corps is forever, if she cant handle it, forget her. I love my marine corps and when you earn my title United States Marine as you hike back from the crucible and watch the sunrise over the Swamps of Parris Island, youll realize that you are now somebody and you dont need some girl.
Marine0311 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 If you need advice from a real Marine, not the BS your recruiter fed you, message me and Ill give you my number. Ill tell you everything you need to know, give you girl advice. Btw, me and my hs sweetheart brokeup a month before I left. Two weeks into parris island i was getting plenty of letters from her saying how much she missed me. 10 day boot leave I got laid 2-4 times a day and spent 24/7 with her. After deployment I got 24 days with her and plenty of lovin. Whenever I flew her out to kbay we had an awesome time. Worry about becoming a marine first, shell be back i guarantee it
Author tricks are for nicks Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 If you need advice from a real Marine, not the BS your recruiter fed you, message me and Ill give you my number. Ill tell you everything you need to know, give you girl advice. Btw, me and my hs sweetheart brokeup a month before I left. Two weeks into parris island i was getting plenty of letters from her saying how much she missed me. 10 day boot leave I got laid 2-4 times a day and spent 24/7 with her. After deployment I got 24 days with her and plenty of lovin. Whenever I flew her out to kbay we had an awesome time. Worry about becoming a marine first, shell be back i guarantee it right on for all the advice, thank you. it's nice to hear from someone who went through the same thing. I'm definitely gonna give it a few days to make sure I don't rush back into things, even if I've only got a few weeks left. but I do love her. again, thank you for the support devil dog, I got my 0300 contract a few weeks back and I'm excited to start my life. I know my main focus should be me at the moment but I can't help but stress over this.
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