slyjester99 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Wow just wow I need any advice anyone is willing tog give! Here is my story of a 15 year heartbreak: I met this guy in 1998 on an online chat format (we were both 16/17) he lived in Europe me in the states. We had a silly young exchange with chats, phone calls, and packages. I have family that lives in Europe so spent summers there but we were too young to meet and back then it wasn't a common thing anyway. Fast forward in university I went to school in Europe but we lost touch. We found each other again a few years later. Our relationship continued like this and we met when he moved to the states for his grad school education. We instantly had fast chemistry but at the time I was not ready so he understood. Mind you we both dated other people throughout this point but always were very close. We met a few times more and more chemistry each time and we had a brief fling but due to distance it didn't work and we moved on as friends. In the beginning of this year it we were single and strong friends. I had recently ended a temp job and was looking to move someplace else. So he just suggested his city and I said why not it will be great to be by my best friend! After 15yrs I would love to do this! It all changed when he sent me roses earlier this year with a very sweet note. I knew then he wanted something more and we easily feel into a long distance relationship. I booked a ticket in the beginning of this month to see him, find an apartment, and hopefully secure some job stuff. We text/chat/skype all the time and everything was happy, normal, and flirty. This past Sunday I went to call him (I always wake up later than he) for our morning chat and no answer. I didn't think anything of it. I went to look at my email and there was a long email from him. It in short said he couldn't ask me not use the flight ticket I bought but strongly recommended I find my own accommodation. He stated that he felt he didn't feel he knew me enough in 10yrs which is crazy given the hundred (400/500) texts we send throughout the month and the countless hours chatting/skyping. I always told him jjust ask! I share things naturally and if something came to his mind I said just ask. That really was the gist of the email that he felt too distant! Which is impossible since I share as much as possible my day to day life with short videos of my day (i live in an urban city it's easy to film as I go about my day), pictures, and so on. The worst part is my flight is next Friday. I have no friends or family there. More than losing my love I lost my best friend. Even before we started a relationship I was excited to due normal things as friends with him. He promised also we would have years ahead, we spoke to our respective parents about each other, we know each others friends (albeit long distance but we chat), he told me he loved me Saturday evening and Sunday the letter. I am at a loss... No sign, no warning, nothing... I'm in shock and have no clue wether to fly down there. He won't take my calls, texts, or emails... He simply vanished! I know for a fact it isn't another girl due to me knowing his friends. So I am thinking it is cold feet as he was afraid it's too good to be true or that I won't like him or I don't know... Sorry for the long story but my 15 years of love is gone.. We have been saying I love you for years and years and years.... We both said it's great our heads and heart finally caught up at the same time. We wanted to settle down and start a life. I can''t breathe and I'm crushed.
soccerrprp Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Sorry to hear of the break. How many times did you actually meet during this 15-years? And, how much contact time did you actually spend together?
Author slyjester99 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) Sorry to hear of the break. How many times did you actually meet during this 15-years? And, how much contact time did you actually spend together? We met abou 10 times or so and I think the total each meet was a week or so. It may not seem like much but we made the effort to be part of everything through good old writing and phone. I can't reach his friends now either... The worst part is I have spent the last four months only applying to jobs on his cities, arranging my move, and everything else that goes with it... I mean it changes my whole life... Edited March 27, 2013 by slyjester99 Adding
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