purplepanda Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) So I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. He's 25, I'm 19. I think he's great, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met/dated. He comes to see me (we're 90 miles apart), he's hard-working, we can talk about anything, he cracks me up. I'm comfortable in my own skin with him: I don't feel the need to always wear makeup around him. On Saturday I drove through a sort-of snow storm to see him, and stayed until Tuesday (yesterday). I was kinda sick to begin with then I got worse. He made me soup and tucked me into bed, after watching How I Met Your Mother for like two days straight. I helped him out with groceries and did a lot of laundry that he had laying around. He said thank you about ten times. Well I've really fallen for him and a few weeks ago he told me he's fallen for me (said it first). I have 36 saved texts from him in my phone. Here's a few so you can get a feel for what he's like: "I wish I would have met you sooner. You make me feel like nobody ever has." "I feel butterflies when we're together." "I wanna wake up next to you babe, and kiss you good morning." "When I close my eyes, I can imagine you in my arms." Now I'm crying cause now I'm so confused. He has a 7 month old son from his ex girlfriend-- it was planned btw. She is a very angry and aggressive person, for really no reason at all. I have witnessed her shouting and screaming at him, a lot of it just nonsense. She's my age, and I have never acted like that. She left him to date a guy from where she was working, who is a registered sex offender, and my boyfriend has a problem with that because he doesn't want his son around this guy. I've heard his rant a few times.. "that loser piece of trash sex offender.." A couple weeks ago he told me that he found out his ex girlfriend had a miscarriage: she was trying to get pregnant again, with this other guy. Now, I thought they broke up in November or December.. We got together in February. Well I was wrong. They broke up in January. Last night I said to my boyfriend "You seem kinda bleh lately. I really don't feel like we have much to talk about when we're apart." He said, "Idk babe, I'm just really hoping I didn't rush into things with you so sooner after, well you know. I do love you and all but my mind can't get off what happeened to me in the last 3 months. I can't get over losing my family and that was all I ever wanted and it was taken from me. Idk what's wrong with me." He's said that a few times... "losing my family." I didn't know what to say, I felt like such an outsider. Then I didn't want to think anymore about it because I care about him so much. I said, "I think you need some space to think about what you want and if I'm a part of it." "I do need to think." He also said, "You deserve someone so much better than me. And idk how to explain, I just want to make sure I'm not with you just to be with someone." I asked him if I was his second choice and he said no. Then I said, "Well I love you and I hope you get your heart in the right place." "I hope so too." My friend told me that he got with his current girlfriend last year a month after his ex did something stupid. He said a couple months into it with a new gf, he told her he was having conflicting thoughts. But now it's been over a year for them. I just get so sad when I think about it. It just feels like a breakup to me because my last boyfriend was of seven months, that ended was I was 17. :/ Everything else has just been a clear rejection, not even getting to the "girlfriend/boyfriend" part. I just want some advice here. I'm trying to give him space but not completely go off the radar, you know? I just wish I knew they broke up only a month before we got together... Then I wouldn't have jumped in so quickly. Edited March 27, 2013 by purplepanda
Chris516 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 So I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. He's 25, I'm 19. I think he's great, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met/dated. He comes to see me (we're 90 miles apart), he's hard-working, we can talk about anything, he cracks me up. I'm comfortable in my own skin with him: I don't feel the need to always wear makeup around him. On Saturday I drove through a sort-of snow storm to see him, and stayed until Tuesday (yesterday). I was kinda sick to begin with then I got worse. He made me soup and tucked me into bed, after watching How I Met Your Mother for like two days straight. I helped him out with groceries and did a lot of laundry that he had laying around. He said thank you about ten times. Well I've really fallen for him and a few weeks ago he told me he's fallen for me (said it first). I have 36 saved texts from him in my phone. Here's a few so you can get a feel for what he's like: "I wish I would have met you sooner. You make me feel like nobody ever has." "I feel butterflies when we're together." "I wanna wake up next to you babe, and kiss you good morning." "When I close my eyes, I can imagine you in my arms." Now I'm crying cause now I'm so confused. He has a 7 month old son from his ex girlfriend-- it was planned btw. She is a very angry and aggressive person, for really no reason at all. I have witnessed her shouting and screaming at him, a lot of it just nonsense. She's my age, and I have never acted like that. She left him to date a guy from where she was working, who is a registered sex offender, and my boyfriend has a problem with that because he doesn't want his son around this guy. I've heard his rant a few times.. "that loser piece of trash sex offender.." A couple weeks ago he told me that he found out his ex girlfriend had a miscarriage: she was trying to get pregnant again, with this other guy. Now, I thought they broke up in November or December.. We got together in February. Well I was wrong. They broke up in January. Last night I said to my boyfriend "You seem kinda bleh lately. I really don't feel like we have much to talk about when we're apart." He said, "Idk babe, I'm just really hoping I didn't rush into things with you so sooner after, well you know. I do love you and all but my mind can't get off what happeened to me in the last 3 months. I can't get over losing my family and that was all I ever wanted and it was taken from me. Idk what's wrong with me." He's said that a few times... "losing my family." I didn't know what to say, I felt like such an outsider. Then I didn't want to think anymore about it because I care about him so much. I said, "I think you need some space to think about what you want and if I'm a part of it." "I do need to think." He also said something like, "I want to make sure I'm not with you just to be with someone." I asked him if I was his second choice and he said no. Then I said, "Well I love you and I hope you get your heart in the right place." "I hope so too." My friend told me that he got with his current girlfriend last year a month after his ex did something stupid. He said a couple months into it with a new gf, he told her he was having conflicting thoughts. But now it's been over a year for them. I just get so sad when I think about it. It just feels like a breakup to me because my last boyfriend was of seven months, that ended was I was 17. :/ Everything else has just been a clear rejection, not even getting to the "girlfriend/boyfriend" part. I just want some advice here. I'm trying to give him space but not completely go off the radar, you know? I just wish I knew they broke up only a month before we got together... Then I wouldn't have jumped in so quickly. Your boyfriend needs to file for custody of the child, before CPS gets a hold of child. They don't look kindly, at children being around ex-cons. That may be the avenue to continuing communication, by supporting him in a custody battle.
Author purplepanda Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 Your boyfriend needs to file for custody of the child, before CPS gets a hold of child. They don't look kindly, at children being around ex-cons. That may be the avenue to continuing communication, by supporting him in a custody battle. Yeah I support him completely on that. I was a foster kid from 10-14 so I know quite a bit about all of the stuff that revolves around being a good example and taking care of a child.
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