paint01 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Hi all, I wrote a loooong thread yesterday and decided to delete it as it was too much information. I'm going to shorten it and leave out some details. (Ex)Girlfriend of 3.5 years made out and slept with (no sex) some dude while on a trip. I was suspicious something was going on and read her email (something both of us have done for a while) and flipped out. She came back to town, accused me of spying on her. Wouldn't admit that she checked my email too. We broke up, talked, broke up, talked, etc... The guy she made out with dumped his girlfriend and tried to get my girl to move to Europe to be with him. While we were broken up for a few hours, she started 'connecting' with another guy who was on the same trip (I know nothing happened with him out there) who lives in our city. He then went back to his hometown for a week and broke up with his fiance to be with my girlfriend. The week he was gone, me and my girlfriend continued to have sex, putting a deadline on our relationship. During that time we opened up to each other and talked about things that should've been talked about years ago. He came back to town and she walked out on me to sleep with him. I pryed her for details, which she gave me (shouldn't have done that). She was then gone for 2 weeks. We were NC at that time. I still live with her (although i kicked her out until I find a place) and am trying to move out by April 1. There are a lot of things to work out so I cannot have no contact just yet. Our lease situation is tricky and no matter how much NC we have, come July, we are going to have to sort through the end of the lease. We moved here together and have 2 cats. I've seen her twice in the past 3 weeks and have blown up at her both times. I can't beleive she would end things like this. I've had a lot of time to reflect on what went wrong on my side of things, but still can't wrap my head around her jumping into another commitment that quickly. She has already talked some **** about this guy to me, but says that he has done more for her in 3 weeks than I have in 3.5 years. Kind of at a loss. Im trying to keep it civil, but can't keep my cool when shes around because she cares so little, especially after she says how painful it is to see me this way and calls me Mom and her Dad to check up on me.
MushyPeas Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Hey I did see your reply to my post in your other thread btw. So it really does seem like this girl can't be alone, don't even worry yourself over what she's telling this new guy about you, in all seriousness, he'd be stupid to think she won't be doing the same about him to someone even newer in the not so distant future. Try and keep your anger away from her because even though she already sounds pretty heartless, you're just giving her more ammo, more things to talk about so instead just be civil and happy and carry on about your own business like her presence doesn't even affect you...then when she leaves you can have a good scream or angry masturbation session or whatever it is you crazy people do these days. Make it painful for her to see you happy rather than angry/upset or whatever she means by "this way", when her parents call, be positive and give nothing away because why should you show her that she's hurt you, especially if she seemingly doesn't care? If he's done more for her in 3 weeks (which is a ridiculous statement just intended to hurt) then use this to help you move on.
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