Charlotted29 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I have lived in my home town for 25 years.. gone to school here, worked here and all my friends are here. Since my break up a year and a half ago.. (10 yrs I knew him) i'm getting to the point where it just haunts me and still hurts. I feel like I want to run away from all the memories and this same location and move far away to start a new life somewhere. On the other hand.. making new friends is hard, and realistically it probably wouldnt work and I would end up miserable. Anyone else feel like this? I can't help but feel so god dammn p**sed off that I have lost my soulmate and he chose someone else.
iKING Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Personally I've found moving to a new area to be therapeutic, you make new friends, possibly find a new love, new surroundings. It's a fresh start of sorts. The only thing to keep in mind, is It's not going to make you instantly get over your ex. That's something that comes from within, it has little to do with outside phenomena. Re-energizing your social circle, environment, and prospective love interests, can help to a degree.
Author Charlotted29 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Thank you for your reply. I know that you are right realistically.. that moving to a new place won't make me forget my ex, and that it must come from within but I wish it wasn't so hard and that I would just move on or at least know how to? What I need mayb is a good holiday, who knows but i'm at a crossroads now where I can chose what I do next. He found someone new straight away and obviously that helps when trying to get over someone. To be honest I can't even imagine being close to someone else again...
iKING Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 From my experience, there are two ways to nearly eliminate memories of an ex from the conscious daily thought. 1. Through self-analysis, weighing out the entirety of the situation as a whole, examining both yourself, the relationship, and the other party. It can be easy to see an ex on a pedestal as they're not actively reciprocating your feelings, but often times you'll find there are plenty of negatives to the situation that show it is worth getting over. 2. Through actively engaging your social life, hobbies, and aspects of your life that had nothing to do with your ex. There is life beyond a partner, and sometimes it can really help to get back into things you enjoy. They say that one must be content with being alone prior to being capable of having a new relationship be healthy for their lives. A vacation isn't a bad idea, it could give you time to re-group, and you may come back with a fresh perspective on the situation. Do not worry, you will love and get close to someone again. 1
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