imconfused13 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Does anyone have any success stories about getting back together after a break up and needing space? I'd love to hear them to help keep myself hopeful. (My ex and I are in our late 30's for age reference) My girlfriend, who suffers with abandonment issues, said she didn't know how she felt about us after a year together and needed some space. After a few days of no contact she texted me. She has contacted me everyday since for the last 3 weeks. Just friendly chit chat, nothing serious. She doesnt talk about how she feels, only saying she doesn't mind spending time with me and seeing where it might go. We have hung out a few times, she inititated all hang outs and all contact since the break up. We don't talk about the relationship, no flirting, no touching, more like how we were when we first met. I know she isn't after some other guy, and that she really does want to work through the issues that she has with everything. She has asked me not to be pushy with her, and that she knows I want things to be like they were, and that she wishes things were different as well. She told me she would understand if I ran out of patience waiting for her to figure things out and if I wanted to move on. I'm not asking for advice and for people to say move on and don't text her back. I am in love with this woman, and I want her to know someone in her life will finally be there for her no matter what. Through the good and the bad. To stop talking to her will only make her feel abandoned yet again. She isn't playing mind games with me, she is struggling with things in her past and trying to figure things out. I can see that and I am understanding of it. And I don't play games with people either. Period. I am choosing to be there for her when she needs me and I will remain hopeful that she will be able to overcome her past and see a future for us. She may end up not being able to be with me romantically, but because I love her I am doing what I think is best for her right now and I am choosing to take the chance and remain hopeful. I would really like to hear some stories about others who have had success in getting back together and dealing with someone you love who struggles with abandonment. Thanks and I look forward to reading some of your stories.
Cogee Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) In the past I also posted asking if anyone had stories similar to mine of people reconciling and I got about the same response you are getting: none. I had one person respond saying they hadn't and that was it, so I'll do the same for you: I haven't read anything similar or heard anything similar before. After that I realized that the more specific we get about our stories the harder it is to find other examples out there, because each relationship is unique in how it plays out. We want comfort in knowing that others went through the same thing, and that there is still hope. We don't want to let go so we desperately look for inspiration to keep us going because day-by-day that hope evaporates. Perhaps someone out there can give you a bit of a spark of hope. I wish I could but I can't and I know you aren't looking for advice otherwise. I wish you luck in getting back together. Edited March 28, 2013 by Cogee
ThatJustHappened Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I might possibly be on the way to reconciliation, fingers crossed. But what difference does it make? Every story is different. It's impossible to say who will be successful and who won't.
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