OnMyTod Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 My ex of two months has moved on very quickly which compounded the hurt, and threw me breadcrumbs which just crushed me. I know it's over, i know she's not even thinking of me, but here's my thing. How the hell do I fall out of love with her?
RiceaRoni Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 My ex of two months has moved on very quickly which compounded the hurt, and threw me breadcrumbs which just crushed me. I know it's over, i know she's not even thinking of me, but here's my thing. How the hell do I fall out of love with her? With time and strict NC 1
Author OnMyTod Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 I've no reason to contact her ever again, it's just time is going so damn slowly and I can't get over myself.
Own Worst Enemy Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 is a major step. We're all going through it. Just remember that for all the times you feel like the dog**** on her shoe, there will come a time when you feel happy for a bit. And eventually the happy stuff will outweigh the **** stuff. 1
Author OnMyTod Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 She has no right to make me feel like this, but here I am just dying on my ass hardly functioning, it's awful and I can't shake myselt out of it.
Own Worst Enemy Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I tell myself this: HE is not doing this to you, YOU are doing it to YOURSELF. He can't make me sit around and feel miserable and longing for the times when I could touch him; only I can do that. And only I can choose whether I sit around and continue to do that, or whether I deliberately say to him (in my head) "Oh sod off, I've had enough of thinking about you." 1
Author OnMyTod Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Yes and I'm in that awful place where i'm thinking of her and him and it's just horrible. I so badly want to break the chain but just finding it hard to get through each day it's so draining. Punishing myself for something I really at the end of the day, had no control over. Just awful feeling right now. The worst.
Own Worst Enemy Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 The very worst feeling. I think it's even worse than bereavement in some respects, because with bereavement you know it's OK to be sad, whereas with this you're just desperate to stop. Just keep hanging on, keep posting here. The longer you do NC, the easier it WILL get. I was hysterical for about 19 months whilst it was on/off. Now I'm mostly fine.
Bindie100 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I hope its just a time thing, and maybe in time we realise they did us a favour. it takes months to build a relationship, seconds to end it and years to forget it. stay strong and try being kind to yourself. try saying you know what i feel like crap and thats ok. its ok to feel rubbish about it means it really ment something to you and in time you will hopefully be the bigger and stronger for it.
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