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I'm not aware of when my girlfriend has her periods as she hasnt told me, but we've been together 4 months now and I believe they come at the end of every month roughly.

 

The last 2-3 days have been a little bit rough between us. The conversation in our texts have been a bit bland and uninteresting despite our persistence. Not terrible, but you know how it can be. She's also been a bit more emotional and insecure. I have a strong feeling she doesn't feel good enough for me.

 

Today I surprise visited her at her workplace during her lunchbreak. As we live an hour away she never could have expected it. It didnt go so well though. She was smiling here and there, but it felt awkward and when I went to kiss her on her lips she just let me kiss her on her cheek instead.

 

Anyway back to the topic. How much can a period affect a girls mood? Ive noticed her skin had gotten worse today with spots which is a tell tale sign right? A week ago she drunk text me, saying how she will never find a guy as great as me, but yet I feel like the tables have turned somehow.

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Not that you'd want to, here's a surefire way to make her moodiness worse--directly ask her if her moodiness is because of her period. They love that.

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I think it varies with every woman, some will be affected hugely and some not as much. Also each month is different (for me anyway)

Some months my period comes and goes and it's no big deal emotionally or skin wise. Other months my face goes nuts and I'm crying a little about different things that have been on my mind.

 

I knew one girl that said she could feel herself ovulate each month. I was standing next to her at work and she blurted out "oh I just ovulated, I felt the egg drop!" LOL

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I think this one goes both ways. If a guy is "prepping" for a girls period, shes going to be pissed. My boyfriend decided it would be cute to hand me a bottle of PMS pills when I snapped at him the other day. He was right on, of course, but it still pissed me off.

 

Mood swings are horrible. And it's not as if they are intentional. Everything just seems 100 times more dramatic on your period, I don't even know how to explain it. I just got through my week of hell, and I know right now my boyfriend is outside somewhere jumping for joy. It was not a good week. Lots of trivial arguments and crying for no reason.

 

My boyfriend doesn't do much to tip toe around the fact that it'snot a normal time. Rather, I feel like he does even more stupid things and simply blames it on my time of the month.

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I think it varies with every woman, some will be affected hugely and some not as much. Also each month is different (for me anyway)

Some months my period comes and goes and it's no big deal emotionally or skin wise. Other months my face goes nuts and I'm crying a little about different things that have been on my mind.

 

I knew one girl that said she could feel herself ovulate each month. I was standing next to her at work and she blurted out "oh I just ovulated, I felt the egg drop!" LOL

 

Hmm OK. This is what is on my mind about this situation.

 

I take my body really seriously so I have a really good body. This is obviously really good for her, but sometimes I think this can make her insecure and unworthy especially as she has just joined a gym and wants to lose a little bit of weight.

 

Anyway she was showing pictures of my body to her friends and getting positive reception. I think she feels I could leave her for another girl. We were talking about what type of girls and guys we look for and apparently im exactly her type. Where as the celebrity I crushed on for years is not the same as her(she is blonde and curvy, celebrity is brunette and thin) Next day we were watching a tv show together and I said one of the girls was pretty(another thin brunette) and I could tell this made her insecure.

 

Yes I know it was a dumb move to say anything about the pretty brunette but we was on that subject!

 

Edit: Trust me, I would never actually mention if she was actually on her period.

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I dealt with PMS, peri-menopause and menopause during my M.

 

 

How much?

 

You don't want to know.

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Hmm OK. This is what is on my mind about this situation.

 

I take my body really seriously so I have a really good body. This is obviously really good for her, but sometimes I think this can make her insecure and unworthy especially as she has just joined a gym and wants to lose a little bit of weight.

 

Anyway she was showing pictures of my body to her friends and getting positive reception. I think she feels I could leave her for another girl. We were talking about what type of girls and guys we look for and apparently im exactly her type. Where as the celebrity I crushed on for years is not the same as her(she is blonde and curvy, celebrity is brunette and thin) Next day we were watching a tv show together and I said one of the girls was pretty(another thin brunette) and I could tell this made her insecure.

 

Yes I know it was a dumb move to say anything about the pretty brunette but we was on that subject!

 

Edit: Trust me, I would never actually mention if she was actually on her period.

 

Her period hormones might exacerbate whatever she is feeling, like the other girl said, it tends to make everything seem more dramatic.

 

But what you describe sounds like an issue you two are having and will have any time of the month until you figure it out.

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Why do men jump straight to, "She must be on her period"?

 

Because it's an incredibly unique and noticeable series of events.

 

Why do women often pretend like it's not when it is?

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OK apparently she is pissed off at me for for showing up outside her work today during her lunch break.

 

I thought it would be a nice surprise.

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It does make things more dramatic.

 

I will cry at movies during that time, but not during the rest of month.

 

I also get irritiated and am a lot less tolerant of the things in life that annoy me.

 

Midol helps with cramps but not with the emotions, IMO. It's during that time I allow myself to indulge in a little bit of kine bud...works wonders for cramps and emotions.

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It's during that time I allow myself to indulge in a little bit of kine bud...works wonders for cramps and emotions.

 

Doesn't it tho?? :laugh:

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It does make things more dramatic.

 

I will cry at movies during that time, but not during the rest of month.

 

I also get irritiated and am a lot less tolerant of the things in life that annoy me.

 

Midol helps with cramps but not with the emotions, IMO. It's during that time I allow myself to indulge in a little bit of kine bud...works wonders for cramps and emotions.

 

What's kine ?

 

Guys need to know their gf's cycle and their gf's should be ok with them knowing it imho.

It can help smooth over things during the period and avoid getting her pregnant when she's ovulating.

It can also explain/make use of her general increased horniness during her ovulation.

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What's kine ?

 

Guys need to know their gf's cycle and their gf's should be ok with them knowing it imho.

It can help smooth over things during the period and avoid getting her pregnant when she's ovulating.

It can also explain/make use of her general increased horniness during her ovulation.

 

Really good bud. :laugh:

 

I agree with your post entirely, except I'd replace need with should.

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Because it's an incredibly unique and noticeable series of events.

 

Why do women often pretend like it's not when it is?

 

Because usually there's something else going on and that is really reductive.

 

For example, in this case, I really don't think this is about her period. This is something else. I don't know what, but if you just assume it's the period you'll never talk about what's really going on, and that's not a good idea at all.

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i think a lot of my problems happen around my period and just before i can tell because i start to swing wildly, i never make any major decisions if i can because i am highly emotional so not too rational or even logical.......and i know it...i cry easily get hurt easily and feel insecure which brings and feeds my other illnesses....so...yep...huge mess.......hormones and i ....well.......over abundance

 

 

the worse thign soemone can say to me is this

 

 

you're on your rags arent you???.....because most people can tell who know me......i am pretty much an open book aroudn that time...i also suffer with massive headaches and cramps so i basically have little interaction with people who love me.....they let me be and do my time in my cell which is my room.....they tend to stay away for a little while .......safer...poke their head around the corner ask me if i need anything and givbe me looks of sympathy....which is nice.......deb

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For me, not really. I generally don't get the usual PMS symptoms: Mood swings, pimples, cramps, etc. I only get slightly swollen breasts and in the last few months, light cramping. My periods are also light-med, dunno if that has something to do with it.

 

I've done 'experiments' where, post-period, i'll look back a certain situation that occurred pre or during periods, and reassess what I thought of it vs what I think about it now. And almost always, I stick by my initial assessment.

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OK update:

 

She was going back to her hometown so we texted all night. We discussed every angle. I wanted her to realise, it made me feel bad when I wanted to give her a nice little surprise as we hadnt seen each other in just over a week, and got a cold reception and avoided my kiss. She came around a little bit, appreciating my side if the story, but apparently she just found out her Aunt is in hospital and probably going to die, so we talked about that for a bit. I was comforting.

 

Anyway it was 10:30pm and there was silence for 15 minutes then I get this: "I'm so horrible I'm sorry" "You just try and do something nice and I'm horrible like always"

 

I told her it upset me, but it means a lot that you appreciate what I was doing now and left it on a nice note.

 

Edit: in relation to what deb just said, she said she had the worst headache ever about 3 days ago

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A woman's hormones exacerbates issues, but does not create issues out of nowhere.

 

So yes, her period may be affecting how she is handling the issue, but that doesn't mean that her period is the problem rather than the issue itself.

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A woman's hormones exacerbates issues, but does not create issues out of nowhere.

 

So yes, her period may be affecting how she is handling the issue, but that doesn't mean that her period is the problem rather than the issue itself.

 

I agree. I'll give a bit of backstory for clarification. We live an hour apart, but come July she will go back to her hometown permanently, which is about 2-2 and a half hours away. We're still unsure about how it's going to go for us when the time comes and just enjoying the now.

 

Anyway a week ago her friends were asked her: "One of them goes has he told you he loves you and my other friend was like **** that she's jus shagging him" so we talked about love a little bit, and that I cared for her very much, but would only say it in person for the first time. She drunk text me that night: "I'm in a club and its made me realise you mean so much to me. The guys in here are so horrible and your so nice. I'm never going to meet anyone like you Xxx"

 

I'm of the opinion that she doesn't feel good enough for me. Apparently I tick all the boxes according to her friends and I know she's insecure about other girls even if she doesn't try to show it. As I've already mentioned, a few days ago she felt insecure because she thinks my type of girl is the opposite of her because of my celebrity crushes. I asked her what was wrong and that she can tell me anything, but she didn't, because she don't know what's wrong, despite us normally being very open.

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I dealt with PMS, peri-menopause and menopause during my M.

 

 

How much?

 

You don't want to know.

 

They don't call it 'Pack My Suitcase' for no reason :)

 

I've known women that you couldn't tell by their moods at that time of the month and women that you could set a clock by their PMS mood swings.

 

I tend to ask fewer questions and get quiet if I figure my head being snapped off is related to her hormones...kinda a self protection mechanism. :laugh:

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I don't know if anyone said it yet, but those two things you describe would piss *me* off anytime, not just PMS week.

 

Showing up outside her work on her lunch break unannounced is a huge no-no. For me, I am in work mode and would appreciate a heads-up if something different were happening. I am usually quite stressed and busy at work, with a lot on my mind. Lunch is either my time to zone out and try to refresh my brain or to chat with coworkers about stuff going on at work (or just drama or silly stories to help take our minds off it, whichever is needed). Sometimes I need to be alone because I am having a bad day at work, none of this stuff can be predicted before the workday begins.

 

Having to entertain a guy you are dating on your lunch break makes it feel like you had no break at all. She likely had to pretend to be in a decent mood, and couldn't talk to you about anything at work that she maybe needed to. Or maybe she needed to zone out and relax but instead had to work at a conversation not at all like ones she is used to at that time of day.

Or, she didn't get to visit for fun times with her friends, if that is her MO. Whatever it was, surprises are usually frowned upon by women and for good reason.

 

Second? You really are stupid enough to talk about how other girls are pretty right in front of her? My ex's type was exactly me physically except for one small physical difference (straight hair vs. curly though same color). Of course it makes a girl insecure when you are with her but talking about how another girl is so hot/pretty/whatever or ogling her. It feels like a not-so-subtle hint: see what really turns me on? See how you are not like her? Why don't you just get lost?

That is the message she is getting. Especially if she is so physically t he opposite of the girls you are busy telling her are hot. Yikes, dude. If you want her to leave, keep it up :lmao:

 

Neither of these things have to do with her period. They likely bother her at any time of the month, so trying to chalk it up to that will not help you in the least.

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I don't know if anyone said it yet, but those two things you describe would piss *me* off anytime, not just PMS week.

 

Showing up outside her work on her lunch break unannounced is a huge no-no. For me, I am in work mode and would appreciate a heads-up if something different were happening. I am usually quite stressed and busy at work, with a lot on my mind. Lunch is either my time to zone out and try to refresh my brain or to chat with coworkers about stuff going on at work (or just drama or silly stories to help take our minds off it, whichever is needed). Sometimes I need to be alone because I am having a bad day at work, none of this stuff can be predicted before the workday begins.

 

Having to entertain a guy you are dating on your lunch break makes it feel like you had no break at all. She likely had to pretend to be in a decent mood, and couldn't talk to you about anything at work that she maybe needed to. Or maybe she needed to zone out and relax but instead had to work at a conversation not at all like ones she is used to at that time of day.

Or, she didn't get to visit for fun times with her friends, if that is her MO. Whatever it was, surprises are usually frowned upon by women and for good reason.

 

I can't identify with this. If they were just 'dating', sure, but they're in a relationship. I ESPECIALLY disagree with the bolded, as plenty of women enjoy romantic surprises, though each woman's definition of what that might entail would vary.

 

I'm a woman and have no issues with the bf dropping by.

 

Second? You really are stupid enough to talk about how other girls are pretty right in front of her? My ex's type was exactly me physically except for one small physical difference (straight hair vs. curly though same color). Of course it makes a girl insecure when you are with her but talking about how another girl is so hot/pretty/whatever or ogling her. It feels like a not-so-subtle hint: see what really turns me on? See how you are not like her? Why don't you just get lost?

That is the message she is getting. Especially if she is so physically t he opposite of the girls you are busy telling her are hot. Yikes, dude. If you want her to leave, keep it up :lmao:

 

A bit overdramatic, but I agree that that wasn't the best idea on his part.

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I agree. I'll give a bit of backstory for clarification. We live an hour apart, but come July she will go back to her hometown permanently, which is about 2-2 and a half hours away. We're still unsure about how it's going to go for us when the time comes and just enjoying the now.

 

Anyway a week ago her friends were asked her: "One of them goes has he told you he loves you and my other friend was like **** that she's jus shagging him" so we talked about love a little bit, and that I cared for her very much, but would only say it in person for the first time. She drunk text me that night: "I'm in a club and its made me realise you mean so much to me. The guys in here are so horrible and your so nice. I'm never going to meet anyone like you Xxx"

 

I'm of the opinion that she doesn't feel good enough for me. Apparently I tick all the boxes according to her friends and I know she's insecure about other girls even if she doesn't try to show it. As I've already mentioned, a few days ago she felt insecure because she thinks my type of girl is the opposite of her because of my celebrity crushes. I asked her what was wrong and that she can tell me anything, but she didn't, because she don't know what's wrong, despite us normally being very open.

 

Your gf is a little bit of a drama queen, IMO. But that aside, I think an easy solution is to just practice a little tact regarding what you say to her. I understand that being in a relationship doesn't make anyone, male or female, blind and completely unable to appreciate other people's attractiveness... but there's a limit on how much of that you should be happily sharing with your partner. Just steer clear of that if it bothers her.

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"I'm in a club and its made me realise you mean so much to me. The guys in here are so horrible and your so nice. I'm never going to meet anyone like you Xxx"

 

Combined with the other stuff, canary.

 

I'd strongly suggest against continuing a LDR.

 

So happy to be done with the 'walking on eggshells' part of life. Over.

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