Ex girlfriend feels like she's been used for sex for a year, wants me to suffer

[todreaminblue]

i love this post of yours turns me off casual sex and enforces celibacy till the day i die without the arms of a committed relationship so thank you for that

 

some women when they have sex bond with that person...i am one....you had sex with a girl who bonds.......with intimacy...you never wanted a relationship with her adn i feel in my heart that you knew how she felt about you all along....didnt stop you having sex with her.....you shouldnt have gone back after police involvement....... you humiliated her then probably......you should have let her be in your past and move on to a guy who can be who she needs to be with.....but no....you went back......and got into her again enforcing bonds of confusion and misdirected emotive responses in her that will never amount to anything.......what should you do i wonder......lets think decency and integrity which is real life if you are a good person.......ARE YOU?

 

 

maybe leave her alone and let her find someone who loves her...........who has the same values......and desires....dont use her for your own sexual gratification and feel grossed out she attaches to you .........deb

[lovelyde]

Don't you people know...

 

It's not love until there is a restraining order.

 

 

I think you speak the truth:

 

 

 

 

According to this video, made by man for men, Seismic is in a loving relationship.

 

 

 

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Edited March 28, 2013 by lovelyde

[Seismic]

i love this post of yours turns me off casual sex and enforces celibacy till the day i die without the arms of a committed relationship so thank you for that

 

some women when they have sex bond with that person...i am one....you had sex with a girl who bonds.......with intimacy...you never wanted a relationship with her adn i feel in my heart that you knew how she felt about you all along....didnt stop you having sex with her.....you shouldnt have gone back after police involvement....... you humiliated her then probably......you should have let her be in your past and move on to a guy who can be who she needs to be with.....but no....you went back......and got into her again enforcing bonds of confusion and misdirected emotive responses in her that will never amount to anything.......what should you do i wonder......lets think decency and integrity which is real life if you are a good person.......ARE YOU?

 

 

maybe leave her alone and let her find someone who loves her...........who has the same values......and desires....dont use her for your own sexual gratification and feel grossed out she attaches to you .........deb

 

 

Ya I haven't been in contact with her at all. I had the police call her and explain the severity of violating a restraining order rather than report it in which case they would have had to act upon. Such a messed up situation I know I shouldn't have gone back but I thought it could work between us. It was then that I had moved on from my previous relationship and had been thinking, this girl has been so caring I haven't really given her a shot and she was someone I liked hanging out with. She said that she had problems herself before meeting me and that they all came out when we broke it off the first time. She said she had gotten help and really tried to make herself better and I believed her. For the most part they have been but this is too much. It sucks I feel terrible doing this but she won't stop. It's the same cycle of her wanting to talk and when I speak my mind truthfully she either keeps asking questions edlessly, thinks I'm lying or believes me and flips out and says nasty things. Answering her phones calls can be like talking to different people, I don't know if I'm going to get sad depressed, angry, or reflective (girls name). I think it's best to contiye the restraining order just so she knows she can't seek me out. I don't want to hurt her future tho will a restraining order hurt her chances of getting a job?

[sweetheart5381]

Well this certainly is an entertaining thread

 

I have a friend who went through this same dilemma, he slept with a girl for a long period of time, 1-2 yrs. She pursued him in this case. He knew that he never wanted a serious relationship with her and communicated this to her over and over, but she continued to offer sex. When he finally ended it with her permanently because she was so attached she went batsh*t crazy and blamed him for using her. She attempted to destroy his reputation with mutual friends, stalked him on FB, posted disgusting and nasty stuff to his wall, etc. He was forced to deactivate his account for a period of time because she would not stop. Luckily, he is a very patient and forgiving man and could see that she felt deeply hurt so he apologized for any harm that he caused. They remain friends, however far more distant than before the sex.

 

IMO, the majority of the blame in these sort of cases falls upon the woman for not being completely honest with them self and with their sexual partner about intentions. There is also a certain degree of responsibility that we all share when we see that another person is falling madly in love with us and we cannot reciprocate those feelings. Better to take the high road end it, then leave someone feeling used and brokenhearted.

 

Lesson learned - casual sex is not for the faint of heart.