Skalabanan Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Hi All, Need some help on this subject, as I'm currently confused. I recently split for the second time last month with my GF of close to 5 years, before she met me she used to "play the field" so to speak, nothing to outrageous but she clearly led a life where she went drinking, got on the pull, slept about and had a good time. When she met me it completely changed her perception on sexual relations, clubbing etc.. (her words) anyway throughout our relationship she was good as gold and never put a foot wrong in that respect. Her ex cheated on her brutally for the duration of their relationship and she put a massive emphasis on me being faithful and how important it was for her, however since the break up she had reverted back to how she was before me, which is her call and she obviously need the ego boost, this isn't my issue anymore. My issue is that I seem to be very much a prude when it comes to this sort of thing, She was my first and currently only sexual encounter, I don't believe in one night stands and the idea of "pulling" someone on a night out doesn't really interest me. My friends and peers all seem to lead a life similar to my EX, they go out get drunk, pull and sleep with whomever they see fit but I seem to be caught in this idealistic world where I don't really conform to how everyone close to me behaves. Do I need to lighten up or is the path I choose one I should keep? I'm lost.
StraylightRun24 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I would say stay true to yourself. If going out and finding someone to just sleep with isn't your thing it isn't your thing. I'm the same way and I wouldn't call it being a prude. I'm looking for someone with the potential for a relationship not just sex. I realized that in my college days. I had a couple random hookups with girls I was friendly with but would never consider girlfriend material and after I did it I didn't feel too highly of myself. That's just who I am and I really don't think (and too be honest don't want to) change it. Like I said above stay true to yourself and what you think is the right thing to do. Don't let what others do dictate what is the right path for you. 1
Author Skalabanan Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Thank for the responses I very rarely question my lifestyle but this breakup has made me question a lot and this is one of them, for me it's all part of my healing, learning and self improvement process.
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