OCCDAVE Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Well day 3 of nc in the books and so far not a good start .Ive honestly tried to keep my mind off her but keep breaking down crying .I keep thinking about that night and what was said/did .Tbh maybe fact we had sex has had my mind going all over the place.I was thinking going strict nc then contact few days before her b day on April 16th or send her some flowers.I guess I figured she may have cooled down by then but then again who knows .Sorry I sound like a broken record :-/ 1
grace777 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 how long were you together? how long since the breakup (only 3 days)? 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 We to sum it up Friday made 2 months .We had a small fight awhile back nothing major then tbh I forgot last Tuesday she was upset about something so I got mad and we had a fight .She then says the famous I need some space to think things .I won't lie maybe my emotions got the best or this case worse and I didn't agree as I called/text numerous times .She finally answered in tears saying I can't do this anymore .Thursday comes again trying to contact her no luck.friday morning same thing so I made the 2 hour trip at this point my gut told me something was off.She answered the door and looked super pissed but let me inside.We went to her room since her son was playing in the living room.I got there about 7 and didn't leave till almost 4 am .we talked ,cuddle and even had sex hell she even fed me.Guess she felt I disrespected her by not giving her space and couldn't do this.I explained I love her but she said she no longer felt the same love.At this point I felt my heart was ripped out but her actions didnt really match up the her words maybe it was out of anger.Saturday she called I called back she said. Oh hey sorry called by mistake
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Forgot to mention after first time we fooled around she pulled away and just broke down crying saying she will never see me again .I said stop I love you but she wasnt trying to hear it sigh
TheFriend Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I wouldn't send the flowers:( I wish I could tell you something different, but It will probably only piss her off more. And if she does like them she will send you a thanks of some kind which will then confuse the hell out of you. She knows where you are if she wants to call you... I know EXACTALLY how you are feeling right now as I have tried everything in the book. Nothing has worked.the best thing to do is let go for now and if you are meant to be it will happen. I have slowly and painfully learned that we cannot change another's feelings and proving our love does nothing to them:( 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Your right she knows where I stand and I thought a week ago I knew where she stood but so much can change over night.Hell I thought my ex wife and I were meant to be 2 years later and year half of nc still no word from her smh .I wish I could do something different to reach out to her
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 I broke nc and called but no answer
Damsel in Distress Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I'm sorry she didn't pick up, but not surprised I broke NC 2 weeks ago and the same thing happened. I was so upset with myself for resetting the clock. It made me feel weak - I handed him some power that I could have kept for myself. Not answering is their power play But take it as a lesson that will help you resist the urge to call again. There are a gazillion stories on here about people breaking NC and it's the same thing every time - either no response, a cool response, or an annoyed response. No dumper ever said, "Gosh I'm so glad you called!!" When will be accept that they really do NOT want to hear from us and it never gets a positive reaction. It's so hard to resist testing it just to make sure. So sorry How are you feeling? 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 Tbh I feel kinda numb and I cried a bit .I know she didn't pick up but it's still breaking nc which I'm upset about hell for all I know she looked at the ph and said ugh what a loser can't respect my space .Im confused ,hurt and angry .I dated few times since my ex cheater wife but this is first time since then I said the love word .Looking back maybe going that night made it worse but tbh I never expected what happen to happen .Ugh I miss her so much
TheFriend Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 It will happen buddy, don't worry. I have broken it many times. Eventually you will get soo pissed off that you won't give a damn. I am finally getting to that point and am on day 3 of nc. I feel stronger then i have before. She called me and was a huge jerk over the phone in response to an email i sent. She could have just ignored me instead of calling and saying hurtful things. But hey it helped me snap a bit. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 Guess we have that in common I'd rather in my case when I showed up at her house have had her say F off and slam the door.Ya may sound harsh but I def wouldn't be sitting around crying over that .One more thing kinda remembered about the convo Me-maybe in time we can be friends ? Her-I can't just the thought of someone with you would hurt me Me-I'd have that same feeling babe Me.will I ever see you again Her-I dunno babe There was a ton more like fact she admit to having a wall up due to her ex and pushing ppl away .Guess thing that confuses me if seeing me with someone else will hurt you and you have admit to making mistakes like me why can't it be worked out .I mean isn't that what two people who care about each other do .? Sigh I'm beyond lost 1
TheFriend Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 You would think that's what they do but you never know someone's intentions behind their words. At first my ex said we could still talk a week later she told me we can't because "it won't be fair to the next boy" I was like WOW. I think the guilt they feel has them say the maybes and the i don't knows instead of the flat no. It sucks. I would much rather just them say NO and I finally got that after 2 months. I feel ya she has absolutely planted a hope seed for you and it is one of the most difficult things to dwell on ever. I would suggest giving her a lot of space in this situation just in case she does decide to try. You don't want to possibly dig a deeper hole for yourself. Hope your feeling better. 1
destroyed4sho Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 (edited) Guess we have that in common I'd rather in my case when I showed up at her house have had her say F off and slam the door.Ya may sound harsh but I def wouldn't be sitting around crying over that .One more thing kinda remembered about the convo Me-maybe in time we can be friends ? Her-I can't just the thought of someone with you would hurt me Me-I'd have that same feeling babe Me.will I ever see you again Her-I dunno babe There was a ton more like fact she admit to having a wall up due to her ex and pushing ppl away .Guess thing that confuses me if seeing me with someone else will hurt you and you have admit to making mistakes like me why can't it be worked out .I mean isn't that what two people who care about each other do .? Sigh I'm beyond lost Yeah, Im lost too its been like7 months since i seen my ex and she wrote to me.last week.talking about ' i love you still'....bitch plaheeesse! These are just things that they dont mean but also cant let go.for whatever psychological reason. They are.lies. Your exes I dunno = No She not wanting to be friends is because she wants you out of her life completely. She believes that life is going to be much better without you and she is looking forward to it. Her saying that seeing you with someone else will hurt maybe true but its also.a thought in her head that she thinks will hurt her bc the BU is so fresh. But soon enough, she will not care. With that said, exes always come back. But not in the way you want them to. She WILL throw you a 3am text when she gets lonely one night...or when she has the horrible.fight with her new man...etc...When you respond back , she is goig to want to be friends. Only the thing is friendship to her means answering texts back when she is lonely,needy or emotional. Sad but so true. Edited March 28, 2013 by destroyed4sho
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 I know what you mean I remember few months back my first gf one I met before my wife had text me in the middle of the night.I bit and havnt heard from her since lol.I dunno I got some working on myself to do and tbh I didn't expect to fall in love this fast.Ive made mistakes as well she did but guess it wasnt worth fighting for in her mind .I won't lie it's gonna be hard the next girl I talk to I'm gonna try and forget what happened here but will be tough.Im also gonna feel I'm on egg shells since the two fights we had were not even worth bickering over.Ya friend maybe time will help then again if she was that cold last week more time will just help her move on faster.Looking back I think she only acted that way to get a quickie from me before sending me on my way Btw my friend told me reason the sudden 180 the kids father must be showing up at the sons b day party this week so she wanted me out the picture and to expect a text Monday lol.
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Tomo is her sons b day ugh I'm tempted to break nc I just wish I could be there.
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Not gonna lie each day that passes I'm starting to feel she never loved me:(
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