BLo7687 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I had made a couple of threads where I swore up and down my ex wasn't the one, was never in love with him, didn't see a future with him, etc..but I'm starting to realize I think I lost a good guy. This could probably just be the loneliness talking or because I haven't found anyone but no one compares to him, at least not at the moment. It's been 2/3 months since the BU. We were NC for over 3 weeks. Last time we spoke we pretty much left it on good terms/cordial/friends. But last week I texted him to say happy birthday. He texted back obviously. And all these little stupid emotions that I didn't know I still had came running back. We caught up for a bit on text. He tells me he hopes I'm happy and that I seem like I am and that he's happy himself. And he tells me the reason he deleted me off twitter was because "I don't want to know what you're doing. I can't know what you do and who you do it with..sorry" but that instagram and fb were fine to add each other. I basically told him it's the same thing lol. After that he texted the past 2 days about small things and what's been going on in his life lately. Anyways he's with someone else now. I'm not going to hate she's cute. My friend showed me pictures of them together last month on his instagram (apparently he didnt block/delete her like he did with all my other close friends). I was pretty much at peace with it and had to move on. So when we added each other back the last couple of days I saw more pics of them together. I found it funny that the places he use to take me he's now taking this girl and she even bought him the same thing I bought him for Christmas on his birthday (obviously I took it back because we were breaking up at that point) ..and I'm pretty sure all the things he wanted to plan with me, he's now planning with this girl. He's leaving to the Air Force in 2 weeks for boot camp and I probably won't hear from him in awhile. It's crazy how things between us changed so fast. In the end I just want him to be happy and I hope she's treating him better than I did. It's so ironic how the tables have turned. We were together on/off for 2 years. 2 years ago around this time I had broken up with him due to me having GIGS issues and other issues from him as well. He was heartbroken. We got back together 6/7 months or so later. He was waiting for me to change and I never did. Even though our relationship got better the 2nd time around I still treated him like crap, never showed him to my parents, never gave him a full commitment on the future, and I couldn't give him everything he wanted. He always took care of me and was always there for me mentally and emotionally. I always thought he was going to be there no matter what and I just treated him like the next best thing. I have been heartbroken/crushed in my 1st relationship before so I know eventually it gets better. But this feeling is more different. The way I feel is I honestly had someone good at one point and I took him for granted. I regret that **** so much and I'll never do that again. Guys...if you have a good thing going with someone, treat them well..you never know when you'll lose them for good.
lovelyde Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Well guys are simple, it doesn't matter how good of a girlfriend she is, but if their sex life is no good as in no extreme orgasms, men are going lose interest in the relationship and/or start looking elsewhere. -
johan Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Can you think where you saw him last? Maybe re-trace your steps? 1
Author BLo7687 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Last time I saw him was almost 2 months ago. We even hooked up that night. We were pretty much over but things were still a little bit complicated. Then the next week he tells me he's talking to some girl (the girl he's with now which I wasn't surprise because he's quick to fill the void). We were pretty much on LC after that and then went NC for 3 weeks until last week.
Woggle Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 You want him because he's with somebody else right now. 1
TheGuard13 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Just because he might be a good guy doesn't mean he's good for you. Think of it that way.
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Just because he might be a good guy doesn't mean he's good for you. Think of it that way. Yes. I though I had a great thing as well. Wonderful person that I was so attracted to, and cared so much for (3 years). But, turns out it was destined to fail (and it did) due to incompatibilities which only really showed themselves later in the RS. Didn't matter how I treated her, or her me...
Author BLo7687 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 You want him because he's with somebody else right now. I actually fought for the relationship before he got with this girl but the damage was already done.
Author BLo7687 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Just because he might be a good guy doesn't mean he's good for you. Think of it that way. This might be true. We weren't that compatible. We liked different things and our personalities were different as well. He was trying to mold me into this certain type of girl that I wasn't. What I did like about him was that he pleased me mentally, emotionally, and gave me attention 24/7, and took care of me. I probably won't get that from any guy in awhile to be honest.
jags2bowl27 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 This might be true. We weren't that compatible. We liked different things and our personalities were different as well. He was trying to mold me into this certain type of girl that I wasn't. What I did like about him was that he pleased me mentally, emotionally, and gave me attention 24/7, and took care of me. I probably won't get that from any guy in awhile to be honest. Problem is, if this is why you want to go back, your doing it for the wrong reasons... you dont love this kid, you like what he did for you. move on because your just prolonging the process
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