fortyninethousand322 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Unfortunately yet another OLD question. So, I get an email saying someone rated me 4 or 5 stars (whatever that means). It turns out it was someone I messaged a few days ago who never replied. Um...so what do I do? Rate her 5 stars? Message her again? Ignore it? I know I sound like I mess with all these questions. I wish I was better at this and didn't have to ask so many questions.
chex Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Maybe she just has a weird bucket list, but recognizes that a lot of other people would find you attractive? That or she didn't notice the message due to flooding.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Rate her back. Be honest but don't give her a perfect score. Don't send more messages unless she responds to your original message.
Object_a Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I've had this. I messaged a women, she messaged me back, and never replied to my next message. A few days later I got the email saying she rated me highly. All I could think was she was just trying to give me a consolation prize for not being interested.
outsidethebox Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) This is OKC I presume. I don't know about ratings on other sites. She may not have replied, but your message to her apparently got her to look at your profile and rate you. Getting a 4 or 5 rating goes toward being categorized as hot and getting higher rated matches. (No, not women you were not able to see before, just higher rated of available matches.) You only need a couple or so more of those if you haven't got the hot email already. There is a quota of ratings to make to complete a profie, so rating doesn't mean everything, however I would thank her for rating you highly and make a pitch again without referring to your previous message. In this one you know she thinks highly of your profile, make a pitch to meet. As far as I remember, the category is 4-5 star rating and you don't know specifically if you got a 4 or 5. You could rate back if you want but I would wait to see if she replies. Part of the rating is as a date profile, and a profile that doesn't respond doesn't warrant a high rating imo. On other hand if you rate her 4-5 stars she will get an email saying that you have rated each other highly and encouraging her to message you. Use as a marketing tool if you wish. Edited March 27, 2013 by outsidethebox
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 This is OKC I presume. I don't know about ratings on other sites. She may not have replied, but your message to her apparently got her to look at your profile and rate you. Getting a 4 or 5 rating goes toward being categorized as hot and getting higher rated matches. (No, not women you were not able to see before, just higher rated of available matches.) You only need a couple or so more of those if you haven't got the hot email already. There is a quota of ratings to make to complete a profie, so rating doesn't mean everything, however I would thank her for rating you highly and make a pitch again without referring to your previous message. In this one you know she thinks highly of your profile, make a pitch to meet. As far as I remember, the category is 4-5 star rating and you don't know specifically if you got a 4 or 5. You could rate back if you want but I would wait to see if she replies. Part of the rating is as a date profile, and a profile that doesn't respond doesn't warrant a high rating imo. On other hand if you rate her 4-5 stars she will get an email saying that you have rated each other highly and encouraging her to message you. Use as a marketing tool if you wish. Yeah it's OKC. I rated her back, but haven't sent a message yet. I checked via a dummy profile and she hasn't logged in since she rated me. I'll probably message her again if I don't hear back.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Send her a witty message. If she doesn't reply so be it, but it could be worth another shot. 2
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Agree with outsidethe box. I would message her, thanking her for the rating. Then suggest you chat...or give her something to respond to. Some folks are more organized than others. It's very easy for things to fall through the cracks, even when you are organized because of the sheer volume. 1
Eggplant Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 That's bizarre. Why wouldn't she have responded to your message? Was your message spam-like? What the heck, message her once more. There's nothing to lose.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 That's bizarre. Why wouldn't she have responded to your message? Was your message spam-like? What the heck, message her once more. There's nothing to lose. She hasn't logged in since then so my thinking is I'll give her until tomorrow morning to respond to the original message. If not, then I'll send her a message.
sabre80 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I loved the OKC star thingy. I loved going through and rating the Paris Hilton duck face mirror shot in the dirty bathroom girls 1 star and the plane janes 5. You know the girls you can just tell from their pictures that they are fishing for validation on OLD. I like to imagine I was doing my part in the grand scheme of things by knocking the self absorbed girls down a peg and making someone else's day for a change. 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 So just an update: I took the advice of most people in this thread and messaged her again. She viewed my profile yesterday and did not respond to either message I sent. I consider this case closed. Next time it happens I won't bother to respond. 1
CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 This happened to me fairly early on OKC. I rated someone 4-5 stars and they did the same. I figured that meant it was a slum dunk to get a response right? So I messaged her. Never heard back. My message wasn't generic but nothing that could have been a turn off or offensive. Go figure... Anyway, I just got another one of those notifications so I'm going to message this one as well. I'm getting about a 25% response rate on unsolicited messages so I'd be really surprised if I wind up 0 for 2...
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 This happened to me fairly early on OKC. I rated someone 4-5 stars and they did the same. I figured that meant it was a slum dunk to get a response right? So I messaged her. Never heard back. My message wasn't generic but nothing that could have been a turn off or offensive. Go figure... Anyway, I just got another one of those notifications so I'm going to message this one as well. I'm getting about a 25% response rate on unsolicited messages so I'd be really surprised if I wind up 0 for 2... It's weird. I messaged her, then a few days go by and she never replied. Then she rates me 4 or 5 stars. So I rate her back and write again after giving her a chance to respond to my first message. She views my profile again and then says nothing.
CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 So just an update: I took the advice of most people in this thread and messaged her again. She viewed my profile yesterday and did not respond to either message I sent. I consider this case closed. Next time it happens I won't bother to respond. Why give up so easily. Respond!
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 Why give up so easily. Respond! My sister had the same thing happen to her. I'm convinced that the rating thing is usually women fishing for high ratings.
gaius Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Normally I would agree that you shouldn't give up, but she disrespected you by not answering the first time. The rating doesn't make up for the first slight. Like you gave her a dollar and she gave you back 25 cents. Don't waste any more effort until you get the other 75 back. Which would be something like an actual message. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Normally I would agree that you shouldn't give up, but she disrespected you by not answering the first time. The rating doesn't make up for the first slight. Like you gave her a dollar and she gave you back 25 cents. Don't waste any more effort until you get the other 75 back. Which would be something like an actual message. Really now... you really don't believe he should give it another shot?
outsidethebox Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 It's weird. I messaged her, then a few days go by and she never replied. Then she rates me 4 or 5 stars. So I rate her back and write again after giving her a chance to respond to my first message. She views my profile again and then says nothing. Totally normal behavior for OKC women.
gaius Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Really now... you really don't believe he should give it another shot? Only if she starts flirting with him in public to make up for not answering. I know I was late to the thread forty and everything already happened but that money system has always served me well with women. Online and off. 1
CryForNoOne Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 My sister had the same thing happen to her. I'm convinced that the rating thing is usually women fishing for high ratings. So I messaged that second girl who rated me 4-5 stars and didn't hear from her yesterday even though she was online at least another hour after I sent it. Though my intuition strongly disagrees, I started to think maybe you were right about the comment above. But to my pleasant surprise, she messaged me back this afternoon. One thing, I'm starting to realize is that some women take days to reply. My thought is that they have many messages to sort through so sometimes it takes them a while to get through them all. Also I'm pragmatic about the fact I might be their plan B. But back to your point, I have a very hard time believing women are fishing for high ratings. They are there to meet guys, plain and simple. Most are looking for LTRs and some are looking to hookup. There is no logical reason for them to yank your chain, just to boost their ego. I think both men and women are WAY too cynical about OLD on this site...
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