marx1122 Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 Hi folks! Well since I am reading all those posts I see I m not the only one with problems,phew thank God!What lately bothers me a lot is next:I never had a gf ,and I am almost 28 years old geez!!Sometimes I am asking myself ok what the hell is wrong with me??Ok I know that I am a nice guy b ut I just cant treat girls bad,maybe I should but thats not me.I had few dates recently I see that I very easy fall in love but then when I see she is not interested in me anymore I kinda freak out.Even when I go out out with my friends and hear their comments about oh thats one hot girl I dont see that she is attractive,I totally lost interest,unless she is my type of girl but thats rare.I consider myself as a ordinary ,nothing special guy.MAybe I am too much confused between having a serious relationshio with girl or just having fun.I dont get them especially when they start to play all those mind games.Or I just didnt find the right one ,who knows??Maybe I am to nice ,shy guy or too picky about girls.One thing scares me :time is going on ,I am getting older and older and nothing.Pisses me off I really dont know what to do?? Thanks
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 So do you want to date or not? I get a feeling like you are picky, but I might be wrong. Am I?
Author marx1122 Posted September 12, 2004 Author Posted September 12, 2004 yes i do want to date but when i meet girl soon i realize she is not for me or she do or tell something which is a turn off,yeah im picky. thx for reply
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 What does a woman have to have for you to want to date her?
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 If that's all that you want then it shouldn't be so difficult for you to find someone!
spanishlover Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 I think you need to decide if you are looking for a relationship or not. To me come across as picky , BUT thats not a bad thing , it just means that it might take alittle longer to find the right women for you
Author marx1122 Posted September 12, 2004 Author Posted September 12, 2004 of course that i am looking for a relationship spanishlover but as u said i didnt find right person for that,thats it ,but its interesting how girls think ,ok there are really nice girls out there but they already have bf ,duh!!But some its like man ,is it possible that somebody can think like that???
spanishlover Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Yea i know what you mean. i was with a girl for two years and i tried and tried but she was just not GF material. she has always one night stands and "lovers" . It was just not ment to be. Now everytime i meet a nice looking girl they seem to come on very strong and want want want!! the reason is because again like you they have BF's. So i am finding the kind of girls i wanna be with but they are all attched. The ones who are not attached are called"money girls" , basically girls who have regular partners and are just want to be wioth byou to see what they can get , i.e cars, money, be taken out etc etc . I belive my friend that its just a metter of trial and eror. you seem to be doing one thing right , at least your getting the dates. i have become quite customer to these types of girls and 99.9% of the time dont even get to have a date cos i know they have BF of they are a money girl. So keep at it., she will come along soon Dean
Author marx1122 Posted September 12, 2004 Author Posted September 12, 2004 yes thats so true ,i know in my case its a big turn off when girl is looking what kind of car u are driving ,money what can she get from u ,almost looking u as a lemon how to squezee u out.I see sooner or later that comes up.I kn ow all those type of things mention above are important,but thats relative one day u have it ,tommorow its gone.Rcently i met one girl and i thought she is nice but thats only a mask.She call me over to her place and i was surprised she only knows me for a week.When i called her she said oh sorry i cant blah ,blah,like hey! are u keeping your promises or not ??of course i siad that in myself.Im not that kindof person that I m gonna judge her right away but she didnt leave great impression on me.
spanishlover Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Unfortunatly girls *not all * are 2 faced. God even my mother does it. For men its diffrent . I see women as a rainbow with many diffrent colours and shades to there personality. where as men on the other hand are black or white it is or it isnt, i hope that makes sence but that the best way i can describe women as they are so complicated. Back to the point about being squeezed like a lemon. I agree. In the west end in london the girls there are extremley BAD! they are very very good looking (my type of girl, unfortunaly) and a few times i have been standing at a bar and a sexy looking girl will come and stand beside me to act like she is buying a drink and the they start the chat up (ha ha, and i can see this comming a mile off) and they go, "havnt i seen you here before" and ill say yea, i come here quite often. and she will say "i thought so, didnt we speak before , dont you have that jaguar" full well she knows we havent spoken before but she want me to say "no, i dont drive a Jag" so she can say " oh really, oh what car do you drive then"..... ha ha and thats it. i end up getting the hump then and say i cant afford to drive.!!! ha ha .. the look on there face... its brilliant
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Maybe you guys are just bitter because you have come across some bad women! Originally posted by spanishlover Unfortunatly girls *not all * are 2 faced. God even my mother does it. For men its diffrent . I see women as a rainbow with many diffrent colours and shades to there personality. where as men on the other hand are black or white it is or it isnt, i hope that makes sence but that the best way i can describe women as they are so complicated. I feel so bad for you, you seem to be surrounded by bad women I think that just as you think that women are sooooo complicated men are too, they cheat all the time and no matter how beautiful or smart their partner is they always look around for more! Back to the point about being squeezed like a lemon. I agree. In the west end in london the girls there are extremley BAD! they are very very good looking (my type of girl, unfortunaly) and a few times i have been standing at a bar and a sexy looking girl will come and stand beside me to act like she is buying a drink and the they start the chat up (ha ha, and i can see this comming a mile off) and they go, "havnt i seen you here before" and ill say yea, i come here quite often. and she will say "i thought so, didnt we speak before , dont you have that jaguar" full well she knows we havent spoken before but she want me to say "no, i dont drive a Jag" so she can say " oh really, oh what car do you drive then"..... ha ha and thats it. i end up getting the hump then and say i cant afford to drive.!!! ha ha .. the look on there face... its brilliant Maybe it's the place that you meet these women. If you are meet someone in a bar do you really expect her to be a saint? I go to bars and I am not like that, but I will say that when I am ready to date someone it most likely will not be someone I met at a bar
spanishlover Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Yea i suppose i have been round bad women all my life. But hey im ok. im alot wiser now i have been through all this crap, Im not bitter, im gr8full that i have had these experiances. its a learning process .
Author marx1122 Posted September 12, 2004 Author Posted September 12, 2004 hey honest maybe u are one of those bad women!! lol geez.i was just joking for this dont take it personally ,i like to hear what other people think too.
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 I am what a lot of people might consider "bad", but my greatest attribute is that I tend to be in honest in every aspect. What's the point of lying? One lie leads to another and another and another. I might do certain things that are bad but I am straight up from the beginning I don't just surprise the guy. If I'm in a relationship though I give it all I got and treat it with respect.
Scangie Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 I don't want to be mean, but some of what you guys are describing sounds a little bit hypocritical -- you don't want a girl to be only looking for a guy with money, but you want girls that are good-looking and sexy? If you are only looking at surface things, don't be surprised if people use the same standards when judging you!
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 Originally posted by Scangie I don't want to be mean, but some of what you guys are describing sounds a little bit hypocritical -- you don't want a girl to be only looking for a guy with money, but you want girls that are good-looking and sexy? If you are only looking at surface things, don't be surprised if people use the same standards when judging you! I totally agree with you.
Author marx1122 Posted September 14, 2004 Author Posted September 14, 2004 to be honest i didnt expect such a great response though.Anyway I am not a hypocrit ,or maybe I am who knows.However I just want to be with a girl who will understand me and I will understand her.So just mutual understanding.Of course there is always something to attract you about girl ,but in my case is to have some brain and be cute in her face,am i asking to much??In other words gotta be some chemistry...
Honesty Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 Only you know if you are asking for too much. There's a reason why you have not had a gf, right?
Author marx1122 Posted September 15, 2004 Author Posted September 15, 2004 honesty ,now i m getting confused totally.....
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