grkBoy Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 All of this is so reassuring!!! I feel like I am at a point in my life now where I can truly say that I am everything positive you described here! I have no ex baggage, my son is at an age now that allows me to have the freedom you mentioned, and I have a good head on my shoulders. It hasn't always been that way, but like you mentioned, there's a point where people have to grow up, mature, and stop making excuses for the poor choices they've made in life. I have also done the opposite of let myself go, and instead got myself into the best shape ever of my life. Not only does that attact men, but so does the confidence that has come with it. This confidence and inner happiness has also transferred into my career and helped me form new friendships and networks with amazing people. I could go on and on, but I'm sure you get the gist. Thanks for this! No problem. I'll only forewarn you that you'll see out of men the crap I saw out of women. You'll meet guys who perhaps became cynical on love and thus only seek bootycalls. Guys who think a life of watching sports, playing video games, and pretending to be 22 forever is somehow "ideal". Guys who also have the drama/baggage. Don't get discouraged. Just adapt. That's what I did. So rather than hit the bars in a tight outfit, run a marathon. Do charity work. Take some kind of "fun" class where you might meet men. Socialize with coworkers and friends. They often know single men who perhaps are the "ideal men" that simply have hit the same troubles you do and I did. I met my fiance through some friends. She was a coworker with my friend's girlfriend. That's how it works. If things get too terrible and it seems every guy you meet is an overgrown child, then back off it. Work out, work your career, take care of your child, go on a fun trip, do things that make you happy. The right one somehow finds you. Good luck! 1
theloyalone1 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Normal now, but afraid it's too late! Haha. Let's see...my age has been established (34), I have a masters degree, a great job that I love, my own house, never married, 15 year old son, and have been told I'm very attractive (8-9 on a ten scale). I workout 5-6 times a week (crossfit), eat healthy, and am very easy going with a positive outlook on life. I also have a playful, quirky side that seems to attract people. Constantly told I'm the "complete package", yet still single?? I don't get it sometimes. You sound like a good candidate and your just at the age where your looking for something more "commitment/longterm" than the usual. Hang in there
Zulnex Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 To me, inner beauty is very important. Honesty, kindness, respect and trustworthiness are at the top of my list.
theloyalone1 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I'm a single 28 year old woman and i have been told i have an "old soul" which means guys in my 20s , aren't looking to settle down...not ALL men that age, just the ones I've ran across. I used to feel the same way the OP did, but I came to realize that being single is pretty much "me time" and when that time comes to share it with someone, it will happen. they always say good girls finish last, i doubt that ...lol Take your time, dont rush and put it in God's hands 2
Author neveragain34 Posted March 28, 2013 Author Posted March 28, 2013 My intuition was correct. Guy I've been seeing just told me he is moving to another city for a job and that's why he's been distant these past few days. Just when you think you've found someone compatible! Oh well. Will just keep being myself and someone will eventually find me when the time is right.
SJC2008 Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 My intuition was correct. Guy I've been seeing just told me he is moving to another city for a job and that's why he's been distant these past few days. Just when you think you've found someone compatible! Oh well. Will just keep being myself and someone will eventually find me when the time is right. Sorry to hear that. I bet he knew he may be moving before he met you, an honest person wouldn't subject someone to possible hurt like that just to date before moving. The cold hard truth is that people don't usually change/mature by the time they're 30. It happens but it's rare. Speaking for myself, I want a woman who is healthy, beleives in balance in a relationship, honest and loyal. Of course I need to be attracted to her. I think this is going to be a tough find:(
charlietheginger Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 personality demeanor disposition compatibility Friendship companionship Sure a womens body attracts the man... The body is like wrapping paper on a present Once you peel it off to see whats inside There lays the ultimate prize
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