branbran Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Hi! I'm 20, and I have never had a girlfriend before. I am a sophomore in college and the girl that I like is a freshman (so she's 18/19). Last semester (in the fall) she would stare at me. I mean she would stare at me a lot! (The staring part scared me at first lol) Finally a last week (Friday) I worked up the courage to talk to her and introduced myself. We chatted and exchanged phone numbers. We hung out on Sunday, and we went to a Frozen Yogurt shop. We were there for almost 2 hours talking away, by the way there was tons of eye contact and smiles going on. We got to know each other a little bit, (she doesn't have a boyfriend and he was the only guy she has ever dated). We are both health-nuts and are somewhat recluses. We have commonalities. I'm starting to develop feelings for this girl, but I don't want to rush things. HOWEVER, I also don't want to wait too long, and either A) become friend zoned or B) have another guy come along. I am positive someone will answer that I should ask her when I feel the time is right. I think that I should wait a few more weeks at the least. How many dates should I go on with her? Hell, how do I ask her out to a date? lol As you can tell, I am new to the whole dating game. I guess I should a little more flirty, but how? At the end of it all, I would love to have this girl become my girlfriend. Any advice you wonderful people could give? Thank you for the feedback!!!
aeren944 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Well, sounds like you already kinda went on a "date" to the Frozen Yogurt place. You went on a date and didn't even know it! If it were me, I'd keep up on the flirting, just so you don't get auto friend zoned, but you can't wait too long or someone else WILL come by. I don't think it's a matter of how many weeks you should go on dates before you make a commitment. I think it's a matter of evolving your feelings until you're comfortable enough to become boyfriend/girlfriend.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Agreed. Frozen Yogurt sounded like a date to me. What are some of her interests? Plan the next date around something that came up in conversation. Try to pick things that allow for a lot of conversation, opportunities for flirting, and occasional accidental touch. Things like movies, concerts, performances are poor date choices early on because they don't allow these, and so aren't great for building a connection. I would also try to have a date at least once a week. If there are long delays between dates, things tend to fizzle out quickly and interest fades.
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