Kep37 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Hi Folks, I am guessing this is "normal" but for me coming out of a six year on / off relationship I feel that the only way to move it on and NEVER go back again is to find someone else? Anyone else experienced a dependant relationship and managed to break free with a new love? Ta x
MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Hi welshie ;D (I'm from wales too before this sounds creepy haha) 6 years is a long ass time, even on/off, you get used to having someone around so for sure it's normal. It's hard to make a judgement because I know plenty of people who can't deal with being single, for whatever reason that is, they just jump from one relationship to another and if that's you, then that's what you need to do and I think it'd be unfair for anyone to judge you. If it is a case of you just going through the motions that come with the end of a relationship, especially it being a long one, then give yourself some time to get back to who you are and focus on what you want for you. My opinions of instantly jumping back into a new relationship, especially if you feel like it'd be a way to "move on" are that you should wait it out, it'd be unfair on you to put yourself through that so soon and also the person you're in a new relationship with. 1
polyglot Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Hi Folks, I am guessing this is "normal" but for me coming out of a six year on / off relationship I feel that the only way to move it on and NEVER go back again is to find someone else? Anyone else experienced a dependant relationship and managed to break free with a new love? Ta x We are human beings who want support at various levels. It's very hard for a normal person to break free of all relationships and be a stoic. It's really hard. We are creatures who can't be in emotional equilibrium unless we have a social circle at various strata. If you want just a relationship, keep your terms and conditions clear in the beginning. If you don't do, you'll end up breaking somebody else's heart eventually. I am sorry to say, which certainly is not eithical after undergoing everything yourself.
lovelyde Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Why don't you go abroad to a foreign country and check out your options there. It may change your mindset when you see a whole different set of people and "potential dates". Trust me. It'll work. You just need to take a vacation to another country and mingle with the people there, and check out their lifestyle. In no time you will break out of the spell that your ex has cast upon you and you will realize that the world is much bigger than "back home". When you get back, you will realize it's your ex that's been living the hermit life and that you're open-minded and free of his hermit world. -
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