all_cats_rgray Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I feel like im living with a ghost. More like haunted. 24/7 I want to contact him. I thought time would make me feel better. I was productive, before everyone says ...well you have to be active in your healing.... But maybe another way to heal is to met with him, see how happy he is with his new gf. THUS, let go ? **** ... NC, 10-11 months from a 7 year. First love. I need help..
MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I think knowing that he's moved on and he has a new girlfriend is hurtful enough, simply he's not with you so take the situation at face value, assume he's happy, he's getting on with things and you can be too! I think even if you did meet up with him and see how happy he is, you'd probably manage to find a way to convince yourself that there's some hope or that there's something there still so don't put yourself through that, it's so unnecessary. I'm really sorry to hear this though, it's a dreadful situation to be in and even harder when you've been with the person for so long but you will get through this, so you say you've been productive, which is fab, you've started the ball rolling and it doesn't matter if that's taken you 11 months or if it takes you another 11 you will get there just take it as it comes.
Damsel in Distress Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I feel like im living with a ghost. More like haunted. 24/7 I want to contact him. Wow, what a good analogy!! That's spot on. Can't escape or rid yourself of their presence, even though they have moved on to another life and are not really here. 7 years is a very long time. I know it's painful and taking much longer to recover than you want it to, but you can't rush it. Hang in there. Hour by hour, day by day. I'm so sorry 1
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