srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'm sorry I keep making threads but got dammit I'm finding out some stuff about my ex gf of four years. Her ex best friend told me they used to have sex frequently. I used to pick my girlfriend up and drop her off at this friends house for a girls night out. It was a girls night out alright, she said they used to have sex a lot at her place at my girlfriend's place and her best friend says she would try to tell my ex to ask me to have a three way but my ex insisted I would only get mad. I am upset with this friend of hers because I also thought she was my friend but according to her "she didn't give a..." well you know. I did have sex with this girl a few days ago and it was great but now I'm just mad at her mad at my ex and will use this to remind myself to NOT go back to my ex NOT attempt to repair this relationship. I already did not want to fix the relationship and just move on but this is like the cherry on top.
McGriff Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Just slipped the old sex with her friend in there eh? Thought we wouldn't notice? Let me get this straight...you slept with both your girlfriend and her friend separately, but you get mad because they want a threesome? That's like being mad because your 16 years old and your parents got you a Porsche and you're mad because they didnt get the Range Rover you wanted. Get outta here with that **** man. 3
Author srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 (edited) Just slipped the old sex with her friend in there eh? Thought we wouldn't notice? Let me get this straight...you slept with both your girlfriend and her friend separately, but you get mad because they want a threesome? That's like being mad because your 16 years old and your parents got you a Porsche and you're mad because they didnt get the Range Rover you wanted. Get outta here with that **** man. Wow ok. Let's make this clear. They aren't friends anymore haven't been for a year or two. Me and my girlfriend dated for FOUR years. During this four year span she would cheat on me with this girl. Last week I slept with this girl. Today this girl tells me she used to sleep with my ex. So....chill out. The girl suggested a 3 way two years ago when I thought everything between me and my gf was FINE. I had no idea they were sleeping together until today and had no idea of a three way until TODAY. Edited March 26, 2013 by srivers89
McGriff Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So are you mad because you DIDN'T know you could have had the threesome or are you mad because your girlfriend was bi and you didn't know it? 1
Author srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 So are you mad because you DIDN'T know you could have had the threesome or are you mad because your girlfriend was bi and you didn't know it? Are you daft? I'm mad because on top of everything that lead to our break up she was cheating on me this whole time with someone who was under my nose. I don't give two ****s about some threesome I'm not some caveman whose mad cause he didn't get his rocks off. I'm mad because I was lied to by TWO people who I thought I could trust. That's why I'm mad now if you don't have anything constructive to add other than focusing on some crap 3 way fantasy please don't reply.
McGriff Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Yes, I'll admit, I'm pretty daft. Do you think your ex will be mad that you slept with her friend/ex lover?
Author srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 (edited) Yes, I'll admit, I'm pretty daft. Do you think your ex will be mad that you slept with her friend/ex lover? Who cares? This is the same girl that called me boring, predictable and said I was holding her back from enjoying her life and again they haven't been friends for a year or so now. It's just all foul. I only slept with her because I was hurting from the break up and being used up and tossed aside by a girl whom I did everything I could for the past four years. I do regret it to an extent but what's done is done and after what I've learned today I doubt I'll be sleeping with this girl again. Edited March 26, 2013 by srivers89
McGriff Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So lemme get this straight...your ex of 4 years cheated on you with a girl who you later (after the BU) also slept with. What exactly are you wanting to happen? Are you wanting her back? Are you trying to move on?
Author srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 So lemme get this straight...your ex of 4 years cheated on you with a girl who you later (after the BU) also slept with. What exactly are you wanting to happen? Are you wanting her back? Are you trying to move on? Now you're catching on yes. Yes I want to move on but I'm also venting because I have no one else to vent to. Imagine you have a girlfriend who you love for a long period of time and she has a best friend she's close with but you have little to no idea they are sleeping together and neither of them are telling you. How would you feel? I think be it a boy or a girl cheating is cheating and I got cheated on in my damn face for four years.
Cogee Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 As disturbing as that is, thank your lucky stars things never worked out between you. She probably knew you wouldn't agree to a threesome because that would be obvious to you that something more is going on there. 1
ThatJustHappened Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Yes, I'll admit, I'm pretty daft. Do you think your ex will be mad that you slept with her friend/ex lover? Are you being a jerk on purpose?? He's upset because his ex cheated on him! It doesn't matter that she slept with a woman..it matters that she slept with someone else while they were together. OP..are you sure this girl is telling the truth? Did she have any proof? 3
Author srivers89 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 Are you being a jerk on purpose?? He's upset because his ex cheated on him! It doesn't matter that she slept with a woman..it matters that she slept with someone else while they were together. OP..are you sure this girl is telling the truth? Did she have any proof? I'm almost certain she's telling the truth as I've always suspected it and her and my gf would always act weird when I would come over. As well as in the past friends telling me they think that those two were fooling around. I dismissed those friends as jealous and well look where I am now.
Author srivers89 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 They broke up, why the hell does that matter anyway? He thinks it was possible that she did / would... Which makes her a poor choice for a dating / relationship prospect. She was also Bi-sexual which adds a whole different dimension of complexity to relationships that are hard enough on their own. OP, sorry about your break up and as you are going through the healing process... Take a look at your GF selector. I definitely need to think about the women I choose to date but for now I just want to be single and figure alot of stuff out I come here to vent and get support because I don't have many friends to lean on. After being with someone for that amount of time it's a bit challenging to figure out what I want for myself.
ThatJustHappened Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 They broke up, why the hell does that matter anyway? He thinks it was possible that she did / would... Which makes her a poor choice for a dating / relationship prospect. She was also Bi-sexual which adds a whole different dimension of complexity to relationships that are hard enough on their own. OP, sorry about your break up and as you are going through the healing process... Take a look at your GF selector. First of all, rude. Second, clearly you've never been cheated on. It's demeaning and dehumanizing and it makes you feel like dirt. I was hoping to spare the OP that awful feeling of knowing he's been cheated on. OP..I'm sorry this happened to you. At least you know now what a terrible person your ex is, and that you're better off without her. If you can't take any other positives away from this experience, at least you can take that.
Author srivers89 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 First of all, rude. Second, clearly you've never been cheated on. It's demeaning and dehumanizing and it makes you feel like dirt. I was hoping to spare the OP that awful feeling of knowing he's been cheated on. OP..I'm sorry this happened to you. At least you know now what a terrible person your ex is, and that you're better off without her. If you can't take any other positives away from this experience, at least you can take that. Thank you, I'm trying to constantly remember this whenever I'm reminded of the sweet times me and her had be it from a song, movie, etc. I just force myself to think that "hey she cheated on me alot during the relationship it hurts but you will move on from this and it'll hurt a little less one day." so I'm hoping I can keep this up. A part of me wants to email her or call her and just tell her off another part wants me to say that I know she cared to an extent about me but was still incredibly selfish but how could she even care if she was doing all this? emotions suck.
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