goosbumps Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I wasn't really sure where to put this, but I suppose if my ideal situation at this point would be to slowly rekindle things... About a month ago my ex called things off after somewhere over two months of seeing one another. He cited reasons of seeing himself with someone more extroverted and sexual than me. He said 'I have a great time whenever I'm with you and think you're a really great guy and would like to be friends. I know people say that a lot, but I genuinely mean it'. I didn't have much of a response since I was still processing all of this. Regardless, I left the situation with my dignity intact, or so I hope. I didn't give him a hard time about it, no begging, crying etc. He was clearly guilt ridden, as he kept trying to plot future hang out sessions and offering me shorts/socks (we'd gone on a snowy hike and my clothes were damp), but I declined. I told him to have a good night and enjoy his friend's birthday aaand I went home and sobbed like a baby. Since then, aside from a short (read: I sent him a link to an article I thought he'd find interesting and he responded thanking me and asking me about soccer -- it wasn't entirely necessary, but I don't really regret it either) email exchange, I've refrained from talking to/checking up on him and everything (hid him on FB and gmail, deleted our text messages). I worked on myself -- joined a softball league, some volunteer work, explored myself sexually. I've since been in a good place the past week, so imagine my surprise when I check my phone yesterday afternoon and find a text from him saying "Hey, what are you up to? Would you be interested in going for a run?" I chuckled at the text, because it was entirely unexpected and thought it was funny that I had no gut reactions (positive or negative) towards it. I put my phone down and went back to softball practice for a few more minutes. I revisited the message later and considered saying yes, but opted to give it another week so I could sit on it and see how I felt. I messaged him back, saying that I was at softball and said "raincheck for next Sunday?" to which he said "sound great!" and I left it at that. I've been kind of pondering the situation on and off since then. I feel like I want a second shot at things, even if it's a slow burn. We had good fun together, but I'd accepted the idea of not seeing or talking to him for a long while and revisiting the friend/no friend possibility a few months down the road. I guess my expectations aren't really high for anything at the moment, but now I'm just really intrigued/curious. I just want some thoughts as to whether or not others think seeing him next week would be a good or bad idea and any other advice or tips.
lovelyde Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) Well, his soulmate is raging sexually attracted to him. Actually, the truth is you don't really love him. The reason is because during sex you're just there to use him as a masterbation tool. You get lonely though and just wish someone would give you deep sexual pleasure. Start fantasizing about the man in your life that you adore. You will know when a man's your soulmate when thoughts of him impregnating you make you excited and you achieve an extreme orgasm. You will feel a euphoric connection with that man. Go to that man and let him know your feelings. Chances are he'll feel the same way about you. Then he can make love to you properly. - Edited March 27, 2013 by lovelyde
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