which is the more ethical decision?

[Keenly]

Dating a girl who you are not really that interested in, but she is trying REALLY hard. Hoping that more intimate attraction develops over time.

 

OR

 

Rejecting her advances and remaining single to avoid any potential bad situations .

[Keenly]

Seriously, do you really have to ask this question?

 

Yeah actually I do, because I have formed attraction after a relationship has started. Do you really have to be so sarcastic?

[Cutiepie1976]

Reject her. That's the right thing to do if you feel no attraction. It's irrelevant how hard she's trying.

[Keenly]

Since you can already answer your own question and have real life experience to back it up... why are you asking the question, genius?

 

So if you have no Intention of assisting, why did you post? Thanks for nothing.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Make the decision you would want made with yourself in her shoes...maybe she feels that if you give things a chance things will develop (assuming she knew or knows your interest level is not high) but this is something not likely to change. I'm sure you can develop some interest, attraction and even care for her but you know off the bat if she's good enough or not, I think there's more play with women and can develop more interest in men getting to know them but it doesn't change the entire picture.

 

You'll find yourself in a place where you won't want to be with her anymore and she'll feel like you wasted her time in the long run.

 

Pursue somebody you really want to be with instead and politely reject her.

[Keenly]

Reject her. That's the right thing to do if you feel no attraction. It's irrelevant how hard she's trying.

 

That's what I thought too, and then I rememered my first relationship that started that way too, and we ended being together for three years and I loved her. So I'm like ehhhhhhh

[dasein]

More detail needed, if it's just been a few dates with someone you recently met, maybe give it some time to see if things gel. If it's a long time friend or acquaintance, or dated regularly for some time, cut her loose. Good luck whatever your decision.

[todreaminblue]

Dating a girl who you are not really that interested in, but she is trying REALLY hard. Hoping that more intimate attraction develops over time.

 

OR

 

Rejecting her advances and remaining single to avoid any potential bad situations .

 

 

i struggle with this because i know this guy who likes me and i dont feel attracted ......considering dating him because he has some wonderful qualities nice smile........but if it were me and the situation was reversed i would prefer not to date someone who wasnt attracted to me.....so its a double standard on my behalf so i havent dated him.......yet....wrestling with it...makes me feel bad though...so i probably wont move on it....unless i do it on a break...which i hope i dont...ethics are extremely important to me.....but i feel for him...sympathy which he would hate as i would ...which is whack..deb

[CryForNoOne]

How about telling her exactly how you feel? Then you have no ethical dilemma do you? I have a FWB who wanted to be my GF early on. I told her I didn't see myself with her long term but that we could continue having sex. She agreed. We both know exactly what to expect, although I know now that she secretly wants more, but I've never deceived her.

[Cutiepie1976]

That was your first relationship. With a little experience, you figure or what you really want. Women can become attracted to a guy over time. The same doesn't seem to be true for guys.

 

Stringing someone along is pretty cruel, especially when she's gaga for you. Just cut her loose, rather than making her jump through hoops before you dump her anyway.