Ab24695 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Apologies in advance for the lengthy message. Thanks to those in advance who read through this. I started hanging out with this amazing girl last summer and we really hit it off. The problem was that I had just gotten out of a relationship a few months prior and I was still pretty insecure. We hung out for a few months, and then she invited me to hang out with some of her friends who were all couples. This made me even more insecure because me and her were not really dating and it felt awkward because I wanted to be. I then started to act really needy after that weekend always trying to get her to hang out and whatnot. I hate myself for how I acted but I can't change it. It's been about 6 months since that "honeymoon phase" of meeting someone new, and we still lightly keep in touch. I really like this girl, but fear I've ruined something great and can't get over it. I know she'd be willing to hang out with me as friends, but I want to know if she still thinks of me as more. I never told her or made a move, which makes this difficult. My question is the following: should I tell her how I feel, or should I just try to hang out a few times, reconnect, and then try to escalate things. Either one is probably going to be awkward, but whichever seems to have better odds is what I want to try. I am pretty crazy about this girl and want to know if she feels the same. I'm much more emotionally mature now, but this situation is driving me nuts. Thanks
Treasa Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 The emotionally mature thing to do would be to ask her out on a date, and then be ok if she happens to say no.
Author Ab24695 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Well that's another confusing thing, how do I know if it's a date. She's agreed to go to dinner with me. We also used to go on tons of dates back when we hung out all the time. And I know for sure they were dates, people just don't "call" them that when they first start hanging out. I guess my question is how do I know when it has shifted from a date to a friendly hangout? Thanks for the reply.
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