fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'm not sure if this should be its own thread, but I was scrolling through my OLD outbox and it surprised me the amount of people who still had a profile up on the site, but no longer use it (they haven't logged in for a year or more). I find this odd and fascinating. Looking at a long inactive profile is very much like touring a ghost town. You just wonder, what happened to this person to make them leave the site all of a sudden but not delete or de-activate their profile. Did they die? Did they get a message from a creeper? Did they change their minds? Are they still single and looking? What do you guys think? If you decide to stop using OLD, do you delete your profile or just leave it up but never log in?
GorillaTheater Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 If they're anything like me, they can't figure out how. 4
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 If they're anything like me, they can't figure out how. I could see that. I'm not all that great with technology either, despite being in the technology generation. Even so, I still figured out how to do it when I deleted a profile once. I figure most people my age could do it too. But maybe not...
todreaminblue Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'm not sure if this should be its own thread, but I was scrolling through my OLD outbox and it surprised me the amount of people who still had a profile up on the site, but no longer use it (they haven't logged in for a year or more). I find this odd and fascinating. Looking at a long inactive profile is very much like touring a ghost town. You just wonder, what happened to this person to make them leave the site all of a sudden but not delete or de-activate their profile. Did they die? Did they get a message from a creeper? Did they change their minds? Are they still single and looking? What do you guys think? If you decide to stop using OLD, do you delete your profile or just leave it up but never log in? i just dont log on after a while i forget the passwords .....i also dont open all my emails i have over 3000 and now and again ill go through and delete pages of them...finding the details in 3000 emails to close accounts.....computer says nahhh think ill just open another email account and forget the profiles
ChessPieceFace Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 That's an interesting point. When people lose interest or don't check in, the profile will just sit there. I guess the better dating sites should be able to filter out profiles that haven't been active in several months? Otherwise that's a giant waste of time for everyone looking.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 That's an interesting point. When people lose interest or don't check in, the profile will just sit there. I guess the better dating sites should be able to filter out profiles that haven't been active in several months? Otherwise that's a giant waste of time for everyone looking. Well on Okcupid, you can filter by how long it's been since they last logged in, I usually do in the last month or in the last week. If it were me, especially if I was an attractive woman, I'd be worried about someone stealing my photos to create a scam account or something along those lines.
sillyanswer Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 If you decide to stop using OLD, do you delete your profile or just leave it up but never log in? Random thought train follows... In the early stages of dating someone where it's still acceptable to log in to the dating site (perhaps to look at their profile!) then I don't get round to deleting my profile... then in the next stage of dating where being seen to be logged on to the dating site would send the wrong message then I don't log in... but I'm not prepared to delete the account just yet... and then I've got used to not logging in and largely forgotten about the profile. Or if it's a site that lets me "hide" the profile (OKC does this) then I might remember to do that. I'd rather "hide" than "delete", at least at first, because early in dating things could end fairly suddenly and I'll want that profile back (the valuable bit is the history of who I already messaged, rather than my own details which I could easily replace).
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Random thought train follows... In the early stages of dating someone where it's still acceptable to log in to the dating site (perhaps to look at their profile!) then I don't get round to deleting my profile... then in the next stage of dating where being seen to be logged on to the dating site would send the wrong message then I don't log in... but I'm not prepared to delete the account just yet... and then I've got used to not logging in and largely forgotten about the profile. Or if it's a site that lets me "hide" the profile (OKC does this) then I might remember to do that. I'd rather "hide" than "delete", at least at first, because early in dating things could end fairly suddenly and I'll want that profile back (the valuable bit is the history of who I already messaged, rather than my own details which I could easily replace). I figured something like that happens. Do you get worried that somebody would copy your photos off the site and use them in nefarious ways? That would be my biggest fear/concern. I know someone who that happened to (only they were still using the site instead of abandoned a profile). In any case, some of those profiles are kind of like time capsules in a way.
Treasa Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I can't answer a question about a dating profile, but I know sometimes I'll sign up for things that I'm interested at the time, and then either become interested, or I'll forget about it. *sha-rug*
dasein Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 We should get all these folks on milk cartons pronto! or maybe the Rapture already happened... uhoh . I wouldn't put it past dating sites to have a "computer glitch" that turns old profiles visible after months of inactivity for boosting search results in smaller pools. It's what I'd do if in the OLD biz.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 We should get all these folks on milk cartons pronto! or maybe the Rapture already happened... uhoh . I wouldn't put it past dating sites to have a "computer glitch" that turns old profiles visible after months of inactivity for boosting search results in smaller pools. It's what I'd do if in the OLD biz. Yeah. Luckily OKC lets you see when the last time someone logged in was. For me, if it's not the last couple of days I'm not going to message you. I just find it oddly fascinating. Kind of like visiting Chernobyl. Or Mayan ruins.
dasein Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 That's the way to go. Several of my friends I tried to train in OLD would have favorite lists full of women who hadn't logged on in months when I came back to check their progress. D'oh!
sillyanswer Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I figured something like that happens. Do you get worried that somebody would copy your photos off the site and use them in nefarious ways? Not in the slightest. If I worried about that I wouldn't make the profile in the first place.
runningfar Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'm not sure if this should be its own thread, but I was scrolling through my OLD outbox and it surprised me the amount of people who still had a profile up on the site, but no longer use it (they haven't logged in for a year or more). I find this odd and fascinating. Looking at a long inactive profile is very much like touring a ghost town. You just wonder, what happened to this person to make them leave the site all of a sudden but not delete or de-activate their profile. Did they die? Did they get a message from a creeper? Did they change their minds? Are they still single and looking? What do you guys think? If you decide to stop using OLD, do you delete your profile or just leave it up but never log in? A friend of mine told me a story a while back. She had an online dating profile years ago. She turned it off when she met her husband. They've dated, been married, and are divorced. He called her to tell her she came up as a match.... She never went back to online dating. The site reactivated it, and it was just sitting out there. I guess for numbers. I am absentminded enough that I would forget to turn something like that off, I bet, and just stop logging in.
FitChick Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I hate it when I do an automated match search and people who haven't logged on in years are still listed. Annoying. That is why I always hide my profile if I'm not a paid subscriber and totally delete it if I have an exclusive relationship with someone. I know you can't delete them from some websites. If that is the case, delete the photos and make yourself undesirable in future automated matches, i.e. old, fat, gay, crazy, etc. If you need to reactivate at some point, just edit and post new photos.
sillyanswer Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 If that is the case, delete the photos and make yourself undesirable in future automated matches, i.e. old, fat, gay, crazy, etc. If you need to reactivate at some point, just edit and post new photos. I'm sure even the old, fat, gay crazy chicks with no photos still get messages.
Ami1uwant Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I'm not sure if this should be its own thread, but I was scrolling through my OLD outbox and it surprised me the amount of people who still had a profile up on the site, but no longer use it (they haven't logged in for a year or more). I find this odd and fascinating. Looking at a long inactive profile is very much like touring a ghost town. You just wonder, what happened to this person to make them leave the site all of a sudden but not delete or de-activate their profile. Did they die? Did they get a message from a creeper? Did they change their minds? Are they still single and looking? What do you guys think? If you decide to stop using OLD, do you delete your profile or just leave it up but never log in? Many people tend to float around between dating sites in 3 month incrememnets. Someone may have a profile on MAtch for 3/6 months...then they go to OK cupid, then they use eharmony, then POF, then back to Match, then to another site and so on. People will leave their profiles there to go back to during Fre communication times or they get someone to communicate with them. They may have stopped because they met someone....then focused on dating them for 6 months or longer.
Ami1uwant Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I ..... and totally delete it if I have an exclusive relationship with someone. . Pfff....no you wouldnt....it takes time to do it. Just because you are in an exclusive relationship means nothing. If you have gotten to the point of dating a few people for a couple weeks at least you will find how cumbersome it is to keep recreating your profile.
ltjg45 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Now that you mentioned it, I should take my OKC profile down until I take better pictures. There is no way the only picture I have up will attract any positive attention.
BitterSweet2k Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 they just don't care. Believe it or not there ARE people out there with jobs and a daily schedule who don't have the time or interest to care about profiles on websites...
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 they just don't care. Believe it or not there ARE people out there with jobs and a daily schedule who don't have the time or interest to care about profiles on websites... But they cared enough to put them up in the first place...
sillyanswer Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 But they cared enough to put them up in the first place... Indeed, but where's the incentive to take it down?
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