Dazedpink Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Well my boyfriend just dumped me. We've always been on and off for sometime now and basically we've been together for 2 years + I was his first girlfriend and basically couldn't believe he had a girl friend. Well for me it was love at first sight. I was so so happy when i met him. Well he got to now me and we got togtther everything was good untill now where he left me. Hes been depressed for some time and ive always supported him. Sat in the pouring rain comforting him yet he always tells me i do nothing. He always makes me sound like im the bad person when all this time all i have done is be there for him. Anyway. He kept tellin me not to speak to him and to **** off and that he doesn't want me no more. And it kinda hurt. So today he Finally said. ' i decided. I dont want you anymore'. And it hurt quiet alot. I want a way to get over him. Hes done so much to me in the past. What can i do?
Cogee Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Sorry to hear that. I'd suggest you go NC and remove any ties you have from him, like facebook, texts, phone numbers, or whatever else you have. Since he has been so negative towards you it's quite likely that any further contact will hurt you even more, so don't do it.
MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 It's hard but as long as you know you did what you could to help him and that you're not this terrible person he makes you out to be, screw it!, it's his loss. I agree with Cogee, NC all the way, even if it drives you mad at first, it'll give you the much needed head space to distance yourself from him and move on and it'll most likely make him realise what an idiot he's been and what he's lost, your absence will hit him harder because like you said, you were the one there for him helping him through the hard times, again it's his loss over all. Be strong for you now and gain back some of the control, so he says "I decided I don't want you anymore" well okay cool, you can decide you don't want to put up with his rubbish, you said he has done so much to you in the past, so remember that, just stick to NC.
EnLove Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I believe prayer is the quickest way to get over a person. Ask god to remove him from your heart if his love wasn't true. Ask him to help you heal! Cry, scream throw things and pray! Prayer is strong I've gotten through so much by praying. And after you have a long cry or tantrum it's best to soothe your soul before you pray. Take a bubble bath with candles and oils play some soft music close your eyes and relax put everything to the back of your mind. Then get out and pamper yourself, do your hair nails etc put on some smell goods watch tv, if you're old enough to drink sip enough to relax your muscles and before you go to sleep PRAY 1
ffw Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Well my boyfriend just dumped me. We've always been on and off for sometime now and basically we've been together for 2 years + I was his first girlfriend and basically couldn't believe he had a girl friend. Well for me it was love at first sight. I was so so happy when i met him. Well he got to now me and we got togtther everything was good untill now where he left me. Hes been depressed for some time and ive always supported him. Sat in the pouring rain comforting him yet he always tells me i do nothing. He always makes me sound like im the bad person when all this time all i have done is be there for him. Anyway. He kept tellin me not to speak to him and to **** off and that he doesn't want me no more. And it kinda hurt. So today he Finally said. ' i decided. I dont want you anymore'. And it hurt quiet alot. I want a way to get over him. Hes done so much to me in the past. What can i do? OP, If you keep thinking of all the way in which others (he) fought with you, degraded you or angered you, your heart will be full of hatred. Learn to let go and be happy. Remembering a wrong is like carrying a burden on the mind. Whereas, forgiveness is like to set a prisoner free and realize that prisoner was you. With time you will overcome and heal. Good luck.
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