Wonder310 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 The girl of my dreams broke up with me over a week ago. Before we went out, I waited 2 years to be with her. Watched her go through 2 relationships. She broke up with me due to distance. She already started talking to someone else, so I was heartbroken & started telling her dumb things. That made her start to ignore me. She still is & says she wants nothing to do with me. I never did her wrong before, I with me. I never did her wrong before, I just said dumb things because I was just said dumb things because I was heartbroken. I tried my hardest to earn her forgiveness & one last shot at being in her life, even made her a poem. She still ignores me though & says she might change her #. heartbroken. I tried my hardest to earn her forgiveness & one last shot at being in her life, even made her a poem. She still gnores me though & says she might ignores me though & says she might change her # Yeah I blew up her phone.. What hurts is that she's already starting to get serious with the new dude. Should I give her space? Should I text her one more time admitting to my wrongs & then just leave t be? I love her
will1988 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 wonder it is a sad thing what life throws our way at times... I too have been in your shoes. To be honest, I highly doubt you will be able to get her back. You burned a lot of bridges by showing her a clingy and stalkerish side (calling/texting/emailing her non stop). However, even if she does at some poitn come back in to your life, do you really think it is best to take her back? It took you two years to get her, and not long to lose her, and even less time for her to start dating someone else. If you two broke up a week ago and she is already in a serious relationship with another man, it is more than likely that she was interested, at the very least..., in this guy long before you all broke up; and that is best case scenerio, worst case is she had been cheating on you. So not only does she have a new man and moved on, but you are bothering her. That is making her resent you, and lose all (if any) feelings she once had for you. Your actions are helping to drive a deeper wedge between you two. In reality, I say there is at best a 1% chance that she will come back to you. And that 1% is only to come back to you if things keep failing for her, and you are still around, and she uses you as her safety net. She will hurt you again. It is tough to hear this, and you can make all the protests and excuses that you want for her/your behaviour... and you may say I am wrong. But take a deep long look into your heart and into the situation at hand. You will find that I am most likely right about what I've listed. I've been where you are and honestly it is very tough to get over a love like that... but seeking help from friends, families, and random booty calls / strip clubs, and maybe a few drinks will honestly do you some good. Now it is time to start realizing that you two are done, and that you need to start trying to piece together your heart, and your life... and eventually move on. good luck and chin up!
fungusamungus Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 (edited) Honestly, I read your posts about this situation... I know it's hard to see it right now, but you're lucky in a way. You're learning a very valuable lesson about women and dating at a very young age. You are just incredibly needy. This definitely made you clingy and annoying to her. Trust me, the "distance" was not why she broke things off. Because she knew there was distance going into it. It's especially bad, because you spent so much time pining for her whilst she never really considered you, so when you did finally have a chance you were far more invested than she was and probably just made things way too uncomfortable for her. And no, fawning over a girl does not make her more comfortable around you, it makes them feel weird and smothered. This is done, you're not going to get her back. Lucky for you though, you're 15 and if you're wrapped up enough in this situation (and it sounds like she's the first girl who has ever given you the time of day), then you will learn from it and not make the same mistake the next time you are in an actual relationship. This wasn't a real relationship, this was someone you had an online crush on for several years and was basically doomed from the start. I know it sucks and you feel hurt, but trust me... just be glad that this isn't some girl that you had actually been dating for years, spent your daily life with and slept with. That was my first girlfriend, and I was a trainwreck for an entire year after that one. That being said, as far as what you should do? Imo, your "relationship" with her is done. Move on. She never saw you the same way that you saw her and you cannot make someone see you that way. They have to do it on their own. There is nothing you can do. Writing poems, apologizing profusely, etc. Why? To prove to her how much you love her? She didn't dump you because you didn't love her enough (which, imo, you were more infatuated with who you thought she was, and the idea of her than actually "in love" with her), it was that she didn't like you enough to put up with your behavior. Don't text her anything, you don't need to apologize anymore, you've already done so multiple times. There is never a "last time" until you simply just cut it out. Edited March 27, 2013 by fungusamungus 1
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